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[-] tiramichu@lemm.ee 108 points 5 months ago

Littering.

When someone carelessly throws their trash on the ground, that says a huge amount about their respect for other people, their feelings about the environment, and even their views on social equality.

It's a tiny thing, but an immediate dealbreaker.

People who throw their trash on the ground are the same people who yell and get mad at minimum-wage staff, while those staff hold back tears. They are the people who take more food at a buffet restaurant than they could ever even eat. They are the people who think the world and everyone in it owes them whatever they want, but without ever giving anything back.

I bet we all know a person whose car looks like a scary biohazard of old drive-through cups they haven't cleaned yet, but I'd much rather date that person than someone who throws it all out the window.

[-] cheesymoonshadow@lemmings.world 17 points 5 months ago

I think whether or not they litter and whether or not they return the shopping cart are two good ways to judge someone's character.

[-] Fizz@lemmy.nz 86 points 5 months ago

For me its probably someone who uses tiktok.

During my last relationship my ex started using tiktok and for the few weeks she used it i had to listen to the dumbest "facts" as well as borderline malicious relationship and life advice. The bad misinformation is nothing compared to the repetitive nature of the music. She stopped using it on her own accord I didn't force anything.

I still live with someone who is a heavy tik tok user and almost every time she says "i saw this tiktok.. " I know I'm about to hear some dumb bullshit.

The app manipulates people, wastes their time and is full of undeclared product advertising. For my sanity I cannot date someone who thinks it's OK to use that app.

[-] Nevoic@lemm.ee 14 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I don't use tiktok, but some people have unusually based tiktok feeds. They can get direct footage from the genocide happening in Gaza, for example. I never get that recommended on YouTube, despite my very obvious socialist leanings, watching pro-Palestine content, etc.

This is the actual reason tiktok is being banned (if they don't sell) after the election. One of the largest lobbying groups in America, AIPAC, in probably the most well-funded policy categories (pro-Israel policies) backs most of Congress. They've determined tiktok has far too much influence on American youth, and has made the Israel/Palestine divide a young/old divide more-so than a left/right divide.

There's already a strong correlation between political leaning and age, which is problematic for the future of the fascist movement in America, but this issue falls outside the norm. You'll find a lot of young conservatives calling for an end to the needless killing of civilians. They won't call it a genocide because admitting Israel is a genocidal apartheid state is too far for them, but they can at least admit killing tens of thousands of children is not the right path here.

That kind of extremism (e.g not greenlighting any amount of culling of "human animals" Israel feels it needs to do) is unacceptable to the pro-Israel lobby, and they're not used to getting this kind of pushback from the American public.

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[-] CookieOfFortune@lemmy.world 12 points 5 months ago

My partner totally asks me questions she hears from TikTok trends. Man vs bear, etc.

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[-] 2kool4idkwhat@lemdro.id 78 points 5 months ago

Uses spaces instead of tabs.

[-] Coconut1233@lemmy.world 13 points 5 months ago

Spaces are kinda better, because tabs are not consistent across editors/platforms. Just please use the tab key to indent, don't press the spacebar x times like a monkey

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[-] Nevoic@lemm.ee 11 points 5 months ago

As someone who has primarily used spaces, I still use the tab key. I sincerely hope most space users understand that your editor can expand your tab key into spaces, and people aren't genuinely going around spamming their spacebar 2->16 times for various indentation levels.

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[-] jordanlund@lemmy.world 76 points 5 months ago
[-] otp@sh.itjust.works 27 points 5 months ago
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[-] stanleytweedle@lemmy.world 72 points 5 months ago

Uses tabs instead of spaces.

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[-] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 65 points 5 months ago
[-] JeSuisUnHombre@lemm.ee 48 points 5 months ago
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[-] CalcProgrammer1@lemmy.ml 52 points 5 months ago

Mixes spaces and tabs in the same line

[-] Mr_Fish@lemmy.world 28 points 5 months ago

That's not a trivial thing, that's a war crime

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[-] chahk@beehaw.org 49 points 5 months ago

Treats servers badly. Both in restaurants and in IT infrastructure.

[-] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 11 points 5 months ago

That's not trivial at all!

[-] rageagainstmachines@lemmy.world 45 points 5 months ago

Celebrity/billionaire worship. Just no. It means their values are wildly erratic.

[-] scops@reddthat.com 44 points 5 months ago

I have an ex with the same name as one of my sisters. You do that once, and it gets confusing and awkward. Twice? People start coming to really odd conclusions.

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[-] TheBlue22 42 points 5 months ago
[-] SidewaysHighways@lemmy.world 17 points 5 months ago

I wouldn't consider that trivial though

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[-] Talaraine@fedia.io 36 points 5 months ago

Driving slow in the left hand lane

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[-] fubarx@lemmy.ml 35 points 5 months ago

Misuse of the oxford comma and bad speling.

[-] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.de 15 points 5 months ago

Misuse of the oxford comma, and bad speling.

FTFY

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[-] Xantar@lemmy.dbzer0.com 33 points 5 months ago

Incapacity to discuss random topics just for the fun of it. Taking herself too seriously.

[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 28 points 5 months ago

My home theater. I love movies and if someone said I couldn’t have it hooked up to the main TV I’d walk. I’d rather date someone who either enjoys it or at least it’s neutral on having there.

Also I don’t care if they have a garden. But it will be classified as a hobby, not as yard work or house work when they work in it. Because I’ll never work in one.

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[-] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 27 points 5 months ago

Horniness mismatch. You'll never synch up exactly, but if you aren't at least in the same ballpark, everyone just comes away frustrated.

[-] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.de 17 points 5 months ago

That's what polamory is for! I would hate to miss out on an emotionally meaningful relationship just because pp goes hard to often or pp not go hard often enough.

[-] LucasWaffyWaf@lemmy.world 11 points 5 months ago

Never tried myself, but I've two sets of pals that are in poly relationships. The best advice they gave my curious mind on the topic is "If it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no." I'm still curious about trying some time, but it's certainly not a "hell yes" for me.

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[-] sugartits@lemmy.world 24 points 5 months ago

She said "lol"

Like actually said "lol". As if it was a word.

Didn't laugh. Like, she replaced her laughing with this, saying "lol" when she found something funny.

[-] boogetyboo@aussie.zone 19 points 5 months ago

I say lol occasionally, only for things that are dumb funny. Equivalent of a snort I guess?

"Hey did you hear Steve bought a jet ski? Where does he think he's going to use it? The local pool?"

"Really? Lol. What a dumbarse"

Like that. If shit is actually funny I laugh like a human.

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[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 23 points 5 months ago

Picky eater or stuck on music from their youth.

Someone else mentioned libido mismatch, I don't consider that trivial.

[-] LucasWaffyWaf@lemmy.world 18 points 5 months ago

I will say on the picky eating habit, that can be a common behavior seen in autistic folks. With me my picky eating stems from texture - if a food feels weird in my mouth I get nasty gag reflex or vomit. Doesn't matter how often I try, there's foods and ingredients that, if I chew on it, I will vomit. It fucking sucks. I have to swallow my edibles whole with water cause most gummies make me vomit if I chew them.

Obviously not all picky eating habits are autism related, but myself and the other autistic picky eaters I know are just as frustrated, if not more, about having those habits.

Being stuck on music though, that I can understand. Even with me having my comfort zones, it's always an occasion worth celebrating when I find an artist or album that absolutely SLAPS me silly from how rad it is.

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[-] KISSmyOSFeddit@lemmy.world 22 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Pointy shoes with high heels.

They destroy your feet, make walking long distances impossible and show me she values unhealthy beauty standards over her own body.

Also, shaved and re-drawn eyebrows, for similar reasons.

[-] laughterlaughter@lemmy.world 21 points 5 months ago

Guys, I don't necessarily agree with what OP said (I didn't downvote him, though), but why are you downvoting him for freaking answering the question?!! The question says "a trivial thing," (not "a reasonable thing") and OP answered with a trivial thing. Vote accordingly.

This is like downvoting unpopular opinions in a thread about unpopular opinions.

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[-] pH3ra@lemmy.ml 21 points 5 months ago

No passions or hobbies.

No, traveling isn't a hobby.

[-] sockenklaus@sh.itjust.works 18 points 5 months ago

I get that but why is traveling not a hobby?

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[-] pastabatman@lemmy.world 21 points 5 months ago

Incompatible taste in music. My taste is the benchmark they have to meet and I will not compromise, obviously.

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[-] weeeeum@lemmy.world 19 points 5 months ago

At least to the people around me, frequent substance us.

[-] EpeeGnome@lemm.ee 13 points 5 months ago

I would argue that doesn't qualify as trivial.

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[-] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.de 19 points 5 months ago

If they aren't vegan.

[-] RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world 13 points 5 months ago

Insisting on having sex with me.

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[-] humorlessrepost@lemmy.world 13 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Uses spaces instead of tabs.

[-] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 16 points 5 months ago

Username checks out

[-] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 5 months ago

Is bad breath trivial? True story.

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