Any particular genre of video essay you enjoy most? Any specific creator? Most major creators have a community that you can likely join, and most genres will have groups around that.
What are those things you enjoy doing alone? Are they gym adjacent? Maybe you could find a hiking group or some other generally active thing to do together.
Otherwise, find a pretty generic third place to go to, like your local library or a church. Librarians and communities like churches tend to at least know who to introduce you to.
The downside with this is some of them, especially ones like motorbike riding, can seem pretty expensive to get into.