What thoughts/memories did you have before coming out, in hindsight, are big signs you were trans? (self.trans)

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I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️

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[-] Transtronaut 8 points 8 months ago

Probably the biggest one for me was always feeling discomfort when being referred to or referring to myself as a "man". I didn't have any problem with words like "male", "guy", "dude", "lad", "boy", "fella", etc., but "man" was just one step too far, apparently.

Always figured it was just a reaction to my strong distaste for toxic masculinity, and/or a reluctance to grow up. With hindsight, it seems silly that it wasn't a dead giveaway.

[-] onevia 4 points 8 months ago

I also explained away my feelings with my disgust of toxic masculinity 😄

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