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Maybe it's faux-pas to post a reddit link on lemmy, but here's a list of EU FFS surgeons: https://old.reddit.com/r/TransSurgeriesWiki/wiki/ffs/europe
Holy shit, how didn't I know this exists? This is an amazing recourse. Thank you so much for this
hey no worries - the trans community on reddit is pretty big and strong, so whenever I'm stuck on something like this I search with
site:reddit.com
in ddg.gg and it usually gets me something helpful 😆 I just got lucky in this case, glad I was able to help ❤️I wish you luck, I'm really so sorry to hear about the EU's ridiculous transphobic policies.
Thanks! Although I wanted to note (even if it might be fine print to many) that it isn't the EU or the public health insurance providers being transphobic: this really is on the state government refusing to regulate anything for who-knows-how-long. Other EU member states (ie: Denmark) apparently do this a lot better. (The health insurance providers could definitely be nicer about it too, but they do have a mandate to not just hand out money to anyone without legal basis.)
When the blackout happened and looked as though this particular sub was going to go dark permanently I was so sad. Glad to see its back up, and I hope the information there is preserved in some way
yes, Reddit has a surprising amount of useful information; I wish there were a project like Wikipedia (or to a lesser-extent, stackoverflow) that organized and made this kind of information and community wisdom an accessible and well-maintained Commons for anyone to benefit from (like online community as a long-term humanist project, haha)
That helped, I think! There was this big blockade on how to even get started (see opening post) and having a list of concrete options to evaluate actually made this go from an abstract thing to something actionable. (In hindsight, I should have been able to find this myself, but I just never considered searching like that, even though I regularily do research on other topics.)
In any case, I’ve one booked one consultation with the trusted-but-expensive baseline for us so far. We’ll see how it goes.
In the mean time, while doing somewhat related health research I’ve also stumbled on the fact that, there might by local options available for the nasal surgery in the city we live in. Since it generally seems to recommended to split FFS into multiple parts, doing the nose part first with a local nasal surgeon* and having a more specialized FFS surgeon harmonize the remaining face abroad later on might be an interesting option.
If anyone has any specific recommendations those would still be appreciated!
* Their adverts are definitely aimed at cis-women, but looking at their published before-after pictures (they have some!) they might as well been trans as far their pre-surgury nose shapes are concerned, so I doubt there is any difference.