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The biggest hurdle for me was getting out of Texas and into a blue state. Transition never felt like it was a realistic option before I made it somewhere that does informed-consent.
What I learned is that interstate migration is a fucking nightmare that I'd never have been able to afford if I didn't luck my way into a job offer that included four digits of relocation assistance.
Beyond that, my biggest challenge was one of my partners. He's almost exclusively homosexual and is not attracted to visibly trans people, so admitting to him that I wanted to start hormone therapy was incredibly difficult for my rejection-sensitive brain. Fortunately, after reminding him that I'm not a trans woman and enby hormone therapy won't give me huge tits, I learned that he cares more about my happiness than his perception of my sex appeal. 😄
I'm afraid I don't have much practical advice. In my early 20's I sold almost everything and packed the rest, bid goodbye to my partners, drove to California, and lived out of my car for a month. In the end I went back to Texas because I missed my partners, and it was another 15 years before attempt #2. I'd probably still be back there if it weren't for the job offer. 😖
Definitely curious on the relocation assistance type stuff. I've heard of jobs like that for GS jobs (US Civil service/federal employee) with DoD but that it's incredibly hard to get approved for.
It's wonderful you have a partner like that 😄
Edit to add: Keris in a different post is about to jump ship to a new state and would probably appreciate any wisdom around "getting settled" in a new state. Unexpected struggles, benefits to use, etc.
I'm still not sure how I managed to get so lucky, but apparently some tech corps still do relocation assistance too.
I gave what advice I could to Keris, but my situation is pretty different and I dunno what else to add.
Good to know! That's probably my way out of Ohio haha, that or getting something well paying and full remote and just... moving outright
Had a feeling but who knows sometimes, the most random things can be super helpful