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[-] SuperNovaStar 5 points 1 day ago

If you want content that includes the consent conversations, it's out there.

[-] Smorty 5 points 1 day ago

imean i knowwwwwwwwwwwwwwww....

like - im not here cuz im like "um actually this hornypost should have been softer" but more like "i think that would have made peeps lookin at it happier" kinda thing...

like- im-.... i dont even want the spicy, i want the soft before, the asking, the genuine care, the.... idunno im proooobably overromantisizing this but- u know?

the - the part where the one gets the other to say a thing they might never have articulated, the light play in that, the - the way peeps handle things when they dunno if their partner/s should hear about a certain thing. the "strawberry cake or cheesecake?", the" talk or shily be talked into", the looking and not knowing - THAT. yes, that.

that is what im here for.

[-] SuperNovaStar 2 points 1 day ago

That is... Not the norm, i'm afraid.

I get what you mean though. Don't get me wrong, I also like the OP and stuff like it, but I can see the appeal of seeing the softer side, too. But I think you'll find a lot of people enjoy a rougher/darker fantasy even if it wouldn't be fun if it were real.

[-] Smorty 1 points 19 hours ago

i mean like - im essentially asking for an entirely different thing here.. this is a hornypost and i go "well actually a tea party would have been nicer" >v<

[-] SuperNovaStar 1 points 13 hours ago
[-] Smorty 1 points 13 hours ago

hm? oh nonono i dont think im ace.... hold up, lemme check.

okay now i know what it means for sure and noooo i do like that stuff too sometimes- but i think the romantics stuffs feels so much more cutie and interesting and spicy ~

[-] SuperNovaStar 2 points 13 hours ago

Oh ok 😝

I just hear ace/demi/graysexual people say things like that so I was curious

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