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What if it's obvious from the get-go that a romance isn't possible, like if you're friends with a married woman? Do you then treat her the same as your bros, or is there still a difference?
Definitely still a difference, courting is just one of many examples of the way gender informs social dynamics. Being married doesn't stop a straight man from finding someone attractive or not, for example, but being a man would prevent attraction.
Not everyone is exactly the same in how they go about navigating the social reality, but yes, gender heavily influences the way people will treat you.
For example, before I transitioned I was perceived as a man and it wasn't unusual for me to hold doors open for anyone. Now that I am seen as a women in society, men won't let me hold doors open for them. It's extremely unusual for women to hold a door open for a man in my society (I'm in the southeastern U.S.), and trying to do so violates the social norms because of my gender.
Thanks for the rundown. I'm starting to question if I'm just such a hardcore feminist that I don't see gender the same as others, or if I really should have had the autism screening that my doctor recommended. Clearly there's something different in the way my eyes see society and interactions.
Take the test if you can, either way you learn something about yourself.
Reaching out to my insurance now to find the path forward