[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 7 months ago

You're the reason we need this flag.

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 39 points 8 months ago

us trans people try to do that, but we're constantly being told not to

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 9 months ago

Swiss here, no it isn't. Here's a (german) overview of a few "openair hotels": https://www.stilpalast.ch/travel/specials/schlafen-unter-freiem-himmel-7144

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 year ago

Or hope that GoG finally created their Linux client, although it has only be requested by a quiet minority of literally every single suggestion on their community wishlist.

For the love of the gods CDPR, please, finally realize that Linux users are you main customer base.

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 27 points 1 year ago

I just don't care about any of that at all. I have around 100TB of seeding accumulated over the years, no VPN, zero security measures, nothing ever happened at all.

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 72 points 1 year ago

Given that it's Hetzner, there's not much you can do besides telling them "oops sorry didn't know this was illegal" and proceed using a VPN on your seedbox, go private tracker or just use a different hoster. Hetzner isn't a big fan of torrenting since they have the (german) feds in their neck.

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 1 year ago

That's poly. There's many ways on how to deal with these feelings, but acknowledging them and knowing that these aren't wrong feelings, nor signs of "wanting to cheat" is definitely the first step.

After that, it's very important to speak about this with your partner, so they too can acknowledge that this is a thing and can understand ehen you talk about such feelings (in order to make sure they don't think you're wanting to cheat). Partners sometimes have a hard time dealing with it, been there, it sucks.

Once you've built that transparency, there's many ways to go. Generally, people tend to try out more open ways of relationships, but there is no such thing as "a universal open relationship", every has to figure things out by themselves, with their partner(s).

As someone who's poly herself, I can tell you that anything related to relationships has just turned into "hardmode".

Either you suppress your polyamory and continue staying in a mono relationship. Been there, it didn't work out for me long-term.

You can try and open the mono relationship up a bit, defining key things you're (both) allowed to do. This can include flirting, kissing, non-commiting sexual acts (one night stands), non-commited relationships ("dating" but without any commitment, "I might be gone at any time depending on circumstances with my partner"), dating with commitment (having 2 partners at the same time), in which you can also seperate between having a "main partner" and a "side partner".

Throughout all of this, open, transparent and completely honest communication from everyone involved is mandatory, setting rules and boundaries and accepting them is essential, communicating clearly to new partners where you stand and how those rules are set is paramount.

Love is a strong emotion, it can make you fly over the skies, but it can also pull you into deepest, darkest depths. It's your responsibility to ensure that the latter is being limited, for you and everyone involved, basically damage control. You will fail often, but that's just how love is, in mono as well as poly relationships, although such failures hit you harder when in poly relationships.

One of the most important pieces of advice I can give you is to not be ashamed about this, about being poly, about falling in love with people randomly. It's the same as with any other thing in the LGBTQ+ space, you can't decide about it, you just are.

Oh right, and one of my biggest points of advice: never commit to more then 3 partners, ever. The time investment is too high to handle it and you will burn yourself out.

There's a lot more things I could write, but I guess this is the "poly 101". If you have any questions, feel free to reach out :)

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Als Schweizerin fahre ich immer wieder mal durch ganz Deutschland zu meiner Verlobten raus. Bis jetzt bin ich noch nie pünktlich angekommen. Teilweise kommt man auch gar nicht an, weil der Zug aufgrund zu hoher Verspätungen einfach irgendwo die Fahrt beendet.

Ich frage mich bis heute warum die ICEs in jeder Stadt genau 2 Minuten fürs Aus- und Einsteigen einplanen. Die könnten halt auch einfach hingehn und 5 Minuten draus machen, sodass da bisschen Puffer da ist, oder irgendwo mal ne 15min Pause um da wieder was aufholen zu können.

Was ich auch mega schräg finde ist wie die Netze befahren werden. Beispielsweise gibt es 5 verschiedene Verbindungen von Hamburg nach Basel die unterschiedliche Strecken befahren, aber dann häufig wieder auf einer einzelnen Schiene zusammenkommen (beispielsweise die, die durch den Ruhrpott fahren und an random Bahnhöfen halten, aber dann alle in Münster und Düsseldorf halten). Warum kann man da jetzt nicht eine Fernverkehrs-Verbindung machen mit kleineren Verbindungen dazwischen? Sodass man da einfach hingeht und 1x pro Stunde nen Direktzug von Münster nach Düsseldorf durch zieht und dann eine kürzere Verbindung die einfach zwischen Münster und Düsseldorf pendelt und da die ganzen grösseren Ruhrpottstädte zu verbinden?

Aber ja, obviously, sieht halt aufm Papier nich so schön aus. Da steht dann plötzlich dass man von der einen Kleinstadt in die andere 30min länger braucht und 2x Umsteigen muss.

In der Schweiz funktionierts, in Deutschland hat man da wohl zuviel Angst

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 22 points 1 year ago

What happened?

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

In case you are still confused about the terms "cub" and "feral":

We're talking about people who see the Vaporeon Copypasta as a legitimate, inspirational and very realistic piece of guideline and also apply it to Pikachus and Charmanders

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 25 points 1 year ago

Most governments are greatly influenced by lobbyists, who are often tied to media companies. It gets worse since a lot of old people vote for heavy conservative parties, which in turn are even stronger leaning into lobbyism.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/mtf

I feel like I need to get this off my chest...

I started transitioning 5 years ago and at this point, I 100% pass, except for voice and a very slight beard shadow (that for some reason no one but me notices).

I feel completely scared about Lesbian spaces, and Cis women in particular. The few times I went out there (which was in the first 2 years of my transition), I've had horrible experiences.

It ranges from a few agonizing glances you get occasionally, up to outright comments about "this is a women only space btw".

I've also often noticed how cis lesbians seem to treat me differently when it comes to romantical and sexual interest. The moment it's revealed that I'm trans, things seem to shift. "Oh, I've never tried this", "oh, that's interesting, kinda", quite often there's the question about bottom surgery ("this might be a bit intimate to ask, but..."), and sometimes even outright ghosting or immediate disinterest.

I feel like this is the last, and yet hardest mountain to climb, to the point where I just feel too frustrated to even try, accepting the fact that, well... I will probably always remain a trans woman, and won't fit in to those societies that I so heavily relate to when I can keep my pseudonimity.

And yeah, T4T is a thing, it's pretty much the only thing I got going at this point...

Can anyone relate? Has anyone managed to overcome this hurdle?

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 year ago

I feel like what would even be better is to have something like this integrated into the app, in order to, wait for it, sync accounts with each other. It might just be a simple functionality where subs on each account are being thrown into one file that then can be applied to all the accounts.

But that's future talk I think.

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