Them: I like your shoes.
Me: Thank you!
Brain: That was really selfish of you to not notice and compliment them on something first. Pretty entitled of you to just accept their compliment like you know you deserve it. Do you even think of anyone other than yourself? You are such a self–absorbed attention whore and they know that now.
Okay but imagine getting anally impaled and then just dying. That still seems like not a bad deal.
How To With John Wilson but in LA and with less autism.
This is such a nightmare to search for online. I want to find a tailor who does maid dresses. No, not bridesmaid dresses. No, not sissy maid fetish dresses. Okay now it's just dress tailors with pun names like Maid to Measure. I guess you just have to know the right people.
I still understand your reaction, Smorty. You had a gut reaction that was unrelated to the intention of the post, and that's okay. 💙
Silly lungs. You extract oxygen from air. Putting air into the bloodstream is very bad.
My guess is that you want a natural solution to your lash problem rather than getting a lash lift, but have you ever gotten a lash lift? 'Cause like... problem solved.
The first time I really saw the potential of a lash curler was when I booked a consultation with a makeup artist to find out what mistakes I was making. Apparently you're supposed to pinch the eyelids a little bit. Just the tiniest bit. Position the curler so you're applying pressure right where lashes protrude from the skin. I don't know if this is universally considered to be the correct technique, but the result was undeniable.
Nonetheless I don't wanna pinch my eyelids every time I'm trying to fix my lashes, so now I just leave it to the probably toxic god–knows–what they use when I get them tinted and lifted.
Am I the only one slightly concerned about how this man's opinion was changed? Sure, it's good that he renounced bigotry in the end, but the arguments that should have persuaded him to do so have been hard to ignore for a long time. I wonder if his turning point was that he saw some trans women he found attractive and suddenly realised that trans can mean hot girls with boobs. The core concept isn't so hard to understand that his lack of childhood exposure to "gay stuff" should have been this much of a barrier.
As others have commented, a gap in your resume shouldn't even be a part of the conversation since it's just an absence of anything that would be relevant to the hiring process. Doesn't mean you won't be asked though, unfortunately, and I have experience being the candidate with a long gap, so I can tell you how I handled this.
Sitting on the hiring side of the table, my only concern is that you weren't just twiddling your thumbs. If you had personal matters to take care of, unpaid projects to focus on, family to look after, that is all part of life and none of my business. When explaining my own employment gap, I was frank about how my previous appointment had taken its toll on my mental health, and that I wanted to reconnect with other aspects of my life before taking on another role. I didn't go into any specifics, but made sure to mention that part of this time was spent studying stuff that's relevant in my field and exploring emerging technologies.
No matter how long a gap, it's not something you should acknowledge or attempt to explain in your resume or cover letter, and it's not something you need to bring up yourself in the interview. My view is that it's bad etiquette to even ask, and you should try to adopt this mentality yourself so that you project confidence if you have to answer the question. You have nothing to hide or be ashamed of. Your life is more than your CV.
Thanks 😘 I've actually lurked for a while as a .world in arguably the wrong spaces, but now feel like I can actually be active here since reworking my client into essentially a Blahaj portal.
I think the last couple of days have been my first tingle of E that isn't placebo. Feeling like I'm a person in the world rather than a viewer behind a screen. Maybe it is placebo and I'm just thrilled knowing what that little patch on my thigh is doing. I dunno. I'm happy. I'm not a happy person but I've been happy, despite other aspects of my life actually being kind of a mess right now.
Did they start you out with blockers as well or just E for the time being?
Myeeah, narcissist or not, she fumbled a lot of opportunities to show empathy here. It sounds like she wanted you to know what an ordeal this was for her which I think is pretty shitty. I admire your tenacity in sticking out the conversation.
Also I don't know if she does have a point about having to repeat yourself. I personally felt much more comfortable coming out to every friend and family member one–by–one, and must have repeated myself at least 20 times now. I felt more confident and empowered each time. It also served as good practice in owning my identity when it came time to change my name legally, and everything that came along with that.
The bottom line is that it's totally up to you how you want to come out, fast or slow, privately or publicly. You shouldn't have to be made more uncomfortable than the whole thing already is.