[-] hazl 3 points 1 hour ago

My parents have a spoon that's shaped a bit like a cockle shell. I noticed this at 4 years old, and I remember my mother tempting me to eat things by offering it with "the shell spoon". I obliged when she did this, not because I was tempted by the shell spoon, but because it made me feel a certain way each time she offered. Not quite an appreciation of her thoughtfulness, but rather the dread of a tragic scenario in which she was unable to tempt me with an object she thought I liked. And the truth is that I didn't really like it. The edges of the shell were very sharp, so each mouthful felt like dragging two dull blades across my lips.

I would never let on that I didn't like the spoon, because I couldn't bear the thought of her feeling like she had failed me. The dreams in which my mother tried but failed to rescue me from various perilous situations were distressing enough. In my desperation to assure her that the ways she expressed love hadn't gone unnoticed, I did all sorts of things I didn't much want to, and feigned enthusiasm for things I considered banal.

To this day, when I open my parents' cutlery drawer and see that spoon, my heart sinks. No one will ever use it, I get sad every time I look at it, but I can't bear the thought of anyone throwing it away.

There is nothing emotionally healthy about the shell spoon.

[-] hazl 9 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Phone does a bling.
omg reply from Smorty!
Heart does a massive backflip
oh shit did I say something stupid?
Comment describes me as confident
o no that's a nice way of saying I'm a stuck–up arrogant biiiitch... noooooo

And that ^^ is how confident I am. Honestly though, I understand realface isn't the norm around here, and it's only because of a personal goal to become more comfortable being seen that I do so myself. Plus every time I change it, it's because I've become so disgusted and ashamed of the last one that I just have to.

Anyway I do respect your decision to never reveal a true face, but for what it's worth, providing that picture of Ash as a reference does nothing to rebuff the insinuation that you are very cute.

[-] hazl 2 points 6 hours ago

I like how the video title subtly corrects the article title. "Okay, first of all, it was just his body that dissolved, so jot that down."

[-] hazl 3 points 7 hours ago

Thanks to the ScreenyWeeny™️, we can't even trust that anymore.

[-] hazl 18 points 7 hours ago

I dream of a day, however far in the future, when Smorty uses her real face as an avatar and we all take turns saying what her cutest feature is.

[-] hazl 9 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Here's how it goes with half the games I mod these days.

  1. Game not manageable in Vortex out of the box
  2. Find the extension that makes the game manageable
  3. All popular mods are based on one single mod that acts as a framework or SDK for those other mods
  4. That prerequisite mod isn't well maintained on Nexus, and the author recommends using $otherModManager to manage this game
[-] hazl 120 points 2 weeks ago

Snow–free roads seem like a beneficial thing for most modes of transport though.

[-] hazl 24 points 1 month ago

Smorty no... 😥

[-] hazl 24 points 1 month ago

ITT: "go to the vet". Please give us closure now. Have you been to the vet?

[-] hazl 29 points 1 month ago
[-] hazl 25 points 1 month ago

More Smorty content! Ḿ̷̥̝́̒̎̊͂͝Ǫ̴̢͍͙͖͊R̷͚̃̿͊̃̍̚Ẽ̴̘̟̯̃̅̌̏̆̆̍̎͠!

I am once again imploring you to keep doing what you're doing, and bend to no perceived pressure to be anyone else's idea of funny or interesting. There is only one person in the whole lemmyverse making Smorty content right now. And she's inspiring me to think about possibly intending to maybe one day learn Krita.

[-] hazl 18 points 2 months ago

Please don't change too much. I scroll your posts every time the internet starts making me sad. I like your infodumps.

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submitted 2 months ago by hazl to c/ocd@lemmy.world

This community looks pretty dead, so I'm gonna post in the hope of livening it up a bit. I'd love to hear about the efforts other people are making to remove the burden of OCD from their lives.

TL;DR: I am starting to think Fluoxetine may actually be having a noticeable positive effect, and I would like to encourage anyone with reservations about SSRIs, or who may be thinking of giving up on it, to give it a chance.

Talk therapy and CBT have never really made a significant or lasting impact on the mental blocks OCD creates for me on a daily basis. I put off trying Fluoxetine for a very long time, solely because of an absolutely horrendous experience I had with another SSRI (Venlefaxine) many years ago. The time I was on it was almost as bad as the weeks I spent weaning off it. After reading a lot of posts from other people comparing SSRI experiences, and seeing Venlefaxine consistently ranked the lowest in efficacy and highest in side–effects, I started to feel a bit more confident about starting Fluoxetine. I'd reached a point in my life where a combination of factors had made life a living hell as well, so I was at peak "fuck it, might as well".

I started at 10mg a day. My directions were to continue that for the first week, then step up to 20mg. Like an idiot, I decided to speedrun to 20 on my third day. Also like an idiot, I decided to take it the moment I woke up, and put off eating until a couple of hours later. Two lessons quickly were learned from this.

• Fluoxetine has a long half life, and the reason you start low is because your body is adjusting to an accumulation of the drug over the course of the week. Rapidly increasing your dose will also rapidly increase the onset of the side–effects one feels while adjusting to the drug. This includes an increase of the symptoms the drug is ultimately supposed to suppress. My anxiety was off the charts. I was in fight–or–flight mode from late morning to well into the night, stomach in knots, and sleeping extremely poorly, if at all. It should be the most obvious advice, but for anyone else prone to stupid decisions like the ones I make, please take the drug as directed.

• Your stomach may also need time to adjust to the drug. This probably won't apply to everyone, but I personally regretted taking it on an empty stomach so much that I made that mistake exactly once, and now ensure that I have at least a little bit of something in me before I take my pill. If you do fuck up like I did, I recommend a ginger capsule and an antacid. Seemed to calm my stomach down enough to at least stop writhing around in pain for the rest of the afternoon.

On to the positives now. I'm on day 18, still taking 20mg Fluoxetine XR each morning after breakfast. By all accounts, this is still quite early in the adjustment period for this drug. Most people report an awareness of the intended effect, while still experiencing some of the unpleasantness such as fatigue, nausea, and anxiety. This is consistent with what I'm going through right now. It sounds a bit nonsensical, but while I do feel an unshakeable sense of dread, and I am having bouts of inexplicable irritability, I'm also distinctly aware of my new ability to shake off the anguish of everything being "wrong". Things not happening in the right order, things being in the wrong place, making a minor mistake — in reality these mistakes are just minor deviations from an established, arbitrary process — are easier to move past. I'm able to say "oh well" to stuff that could have completely derailed my day prior to starting this drug.

One thing that really gets me down at the moment is the fatigue. My sleep issues are seemingly calming down. I find it easy enough to get a continuous 6 hours, which for me is pretty huge. I wake up with a spring in my step and get a lot done in the first few hours, but by 6 hours in I'm faced with a choice of either taking a nap or dragging myself through what remains of the day, fantasising about just curling up and switching off. Again, this seems common, with most saying it goes away after 6 weeks, and a minority saying it took them a couple of months. I'm pinning all my hopes on having this same experience. I'm following up with my doctor tomorrow to discuss my dosage, and whether the fatigue could be mitigated in the short term with Bupropion (Wellbutrin), as it commonly is for people in my position.

The key takeaway is that Fluoxetine is a hellish drug to start out on, as all SSRIs seem to be, but it really seems to be making me not only less depressed, but less obsessively compulsive. I encourage others to consider it, even if they've had poor experiences with SSRIs in the past. However, if you're working full time, try to get some time off in your second and third week. If you can't, start out with the lowest possible dose and increase very slowly. I am not employed currently, and can't imagine holding down any job in this state.

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submitted 4 months ago by hazl to c/mtf

HRT day 17.

I always wanted to be more social. I cared about people, wanted to know them more deeply, and wanted them to know me. I just never enjoyed the experience because I felt that the time people spent on me was an arduous act of charity that they endured for my sake, out of politeness and perhaps pity. I therefore kept to myself, unintentionally presented a pretty hard exterior that made me seem abrasive and antisocial, and spent nights wishing I could be closer to people around me. I was ashamed of who I was, and ultimately faded out of the lives of everyone I met sooner or later, once I felt I'd revealed too much of myself to put them through any more. It was lonely, and worst of all, many of these people continued trying to reach out while I sequestered myself and waited for the guilt to subside.

Short of growing breasts and marked shifts in fat distribution that I likely won't see for many months, I can never be sure what's an estrogen thing, what's a placebo thing, and what's just a good mood, but the last few days have been an unprecedented shift in my overall outlook. I talk honestly with people. I opened up to my mother about deeply personal things that I've kept guarded for decades. I message people just to ask if they're doing okay and if they want to catch up over coffee some time, and without even cringing at myself for doing so.

Today I've been thinking a lot about how remarkable it is to simply feel like I'm allowed to exist in the world, and allowed to be part of other people's lives. This isn't me. Except it is, and I hope it stays this way forever.

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