[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 week ago

Yep. People can and obviously are swayed by Musks transphobia. But they're not swayed because he comes up with a singular definition they agree with. They're swayed because his pattern of exclusion is designed to stoke fear. The successive anti trans comments, the support from other bigots, and the fear narratives all tell people they should be nervous about trans folk. And then the messages keep coming, and the uncertainty changes to fear.

Which is to say, celebrating a "gotcha" in a transphobes wording, might feel good in the moment, but pointing out the contradiction doesn't make any meaningful difference to people who are already feeling that fear and anxiety.

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 month ago

Using an AI to monitor an AI is a level of absurdity Philip K. Dick never quite got to.

Dr Suess did though!

The thing that we need is a bee-watcher-watcher!". Well, the bee-watcher-watcher watched the bee-watcher. He didn't watch well so another Hawtch-Hawtcher had to come in as a watch-watcher-watcher!

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 15 points 3 months ago

We run quite a few fediverse instances together, so yes :)

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 15 points 4 months ago

A single user behaving badly shouldn't be enough for a mass defederation, it should be a user ban/block not a instance censure.

When that "single user" is an admin of the instance, it tells you a lot about the instance culture, and the types of things they will action from their user base.

When the admin is actively posting transphobic content, it tells me that not only will they not moderate others who post transphpobia, but also that the instance will actively attract transphobic folk.

The thing about the fediverse is that people have options. Our instance defederates instances that fail to act on bigotry, or encourage it. So people who join this instance, do so, precisely because that's what they're looking for in a fediverse instance.

Folk who don't want that, who want to fight with bigots, or who are willing to play whack a mole and block them one by one as they pop up will join instances that don't defederate.

That's how it's meant to work.

If we did it your way, and everyone was forced to federate with everyone else, and every user had to block the bigots one by one, reactively, after stumbling across them, we would lose a large chunk of users. That might be what you want, but it's not what everyone wants. And when you take away options, and try and tell people they have to do it your way, they will simply go elsewhere.

so I started to dig into it and I haven't seen the evidence for the censures and hate.

This comment feels like its in bad faith. Earlier, you described their admin as "a single user behaving badly", and you've been provided with links to their transphobic content by several people now. Even if you don't personally see anything wrong with what the user said, it seems unlikely that you don't understand how or why other people might take issue with their anti trans commentary.

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 15 points 4 months ago

People who use it are either using it as a way of displaying that they're bigots, or they don't care about the association with bigots.

There's not really any positive way to use it, so it's a giant red flag whenever I see it.

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 15 points 5 months ago

I haven't even read the article, but the answer is either "no" or "almost certainly not" because otherwise the headline would be "Asteroid 2024 YR4 will hit the moon!"

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 16 points 5 months ago

I had this discussion with a previous blahaj user who commented that they saw their own transition as "just a medical issue" and "something in their history" because she's cis passing, in a straight relationship and transitioned long ago.

I pointed out to her though that it's not "just a medical issue" because it only takes one person outing her in the wrong circumstance, and she's just at risk as any other trans person. Yeah, in an ideal world, for those who want it to be, transition would be a medical footnote. But we aren't in that world. We're in a world where even cis women face transphobia, because they don't perform gender "correctly". No trans person is safe from that, even though some are at less risk.

Trans folk that position themselves as different from and distinct to the more visible and out there gender diverse folk aren't protecting themselves, they're just putting themselves lower on the bigots priority lists. And yeah, sometimes, that's what you've got to do for safety, but "safer" is not the same thing as "safe"

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 15 points 6 months ago

I learned as a GM to set expectations.

"I don't want to have to fight and force you in to making this game work, because even though I'm GMing, I'd like to enjoy myself too. You need to create a character that will want to stick around with the rest of the group. You don't have to all get on, or have deep attachments, you just need a character that I won't have to railroad"

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 14 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

I use a Galaxy fold, and honestly, you can take my folding phone from my cold dead hands, because there is no other way I'm giving them up.

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 14 points 6 months ago

Laziness isn't a thing. It centralises productivity as a measure of worth, and then shames people for hitting a threshold that means they can't meet the productivity expectations of others.

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 15 points 6 months ago

We don't have a point of comparison so far, because the instances don't share the same concurrent user numbers, but it would be hard to beat lemmy, which is really light for the volume it handles.

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 14 points 6 months ago

Not particularly. There is no migration path between lemmy and PieFed, so we're just spinning up two instances, and we'll see what happens

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