Salam alaikum

I’m a straight Muslim man and I’ve been talking to a sister for marriage who recently told me she’s a lesbian. I came here because I want to better understand what this might mean from her side I’m not here to judge just trying to gain clarity and insight before making a big decision.

She’s an incredible person in terms of deen prays all her salah including tahajjud doesn’t use social media beyond a private IG and Pinterest doesn’t follow celebs ect and she’s studying Qur’an fulltime. She even convinced her dad to let her drop secular education to focus entirely on Islamic studies. She’s quiet kind and really carries herself with humility and sincerity.

When she told me she was a lesbian I was surprised but she explained that when she was younger, an imam had her swear on the Qur’an that she’d marry a man and never pursue women. She said she’s comfortable being a wife to a man and wants to marry me. She’s clear about wanting to do things the halal way and I believe her intentions are sincere.

Her family is traditional and I get the sense her father kind of knows but like in many households, it’s not something that’s spoken about unless it becomes unavoidable.

I guess what’s confusing me is this she says she wants to be with me but I keep wondering is this truly what she wants or what she’s always been told she should want? I respect her faith and honesty so much and I’m honored she’d even consider me. But I’m scared of being part of something that could end up hurting both of us her feeling unseen me feeling like I was chosen more out of duty than love.

I don’t want to make assumptions about her experience so I came here hoping for insight. If anyone has been in a similar situation either as the queer person or the partner I’d really appreciate your perspective thank you.

May Allah guide us all and make things clear.

Hey guys!

I'm not Muslim, but I'm writing a story featuring a hijabi woman and a genderfluid person, and I'm confused as to how the rules of interaction between men and women apply to said genderfluid character? I'm tempted to err on the side of caution and have the genderfluid character not do things like see the hijabi without her hijab or hold hands with her, but I'd like to see actual Muslim thoughts on this?

More broadly, how do nonbinary people interact with Muslim rules about modesty and mixed gender dynamics?

(Personally applicable to me, as a genderfluid person (not out yet though) with a lot of Muslim friends.)

Hello,

This is easily the hardest thing i’ve ever done.

2 weeks ago in the middle of the night i took all my things and left. my parents have been begging for me to come back saying how i am disrespecting them, my family, and religion. at first they wanted me to come home and kept calling me my grandparents came from out of town.

i was too scared to go back they offered me everything one exchange for living with them and being in their religion.

yesterday i told them that leaving my girlfriend will be hard and i cannot suppress my feelings like they want.

anyway if you imagine the worst it was that.

i literally read to hold my mom down from expiring. my dad beat the shit out of me bc i am doing this to my mom.

i am 23 i am young idk if i go back and just stfu for my whole life or just keep going. someone please help i am so scared.

yesterday she told me i can come back and have the life i want as long as it’s halal and obeys god. but if i dont come back i can consider them dead. i just need help is it worth it to choose myself over my family?

Assalamu alaikum yall.

would yall mind sharing how you deal with being a queer muslim and how you view your future?

to me i am pretty open about my identity right now but i cant imagine what future would look like. i'm a lesbian and a hijabi and i love my religion so much but being lesbian is such an important part of who i am.

i cant erase that part of my identity. i dream about having a wife and a family in the future but i dont know if that if i could ever do it. i never thought about future like that before because i've been battling depression since i was a kid and i have thought that i would be dead before coming to an age to think about future and family.

i've always had suicidal thoughts because of my identity but ofcourse killing myself is also considered haram. honestly everything i seem to think or do is haram so idk what to do.

i dont wanna live alone for the rest of my life and genuinely no matter how much i try to convince myself that i could marry a man and pretend im not a lesbian it just never works for me. i wanna know what yall would do in this situation. or what yall think i can do.

i feel like everything is considered haram. i also have my own desires and i dont just wanna act on them like that i want to be married and then be committed to someone. but to others no matter how much i try to be a better muslim living my truth will always trigger ppl.

please any kinda advice is welcome and if you're gonna tell me i'm going to hell for being gay keep that to yourself ive heard it all before. thank you.