[-] OldEggNewTricks 21 points 1 week ago

Thanks for sharing! It'll be OK. You don't need to rush.

[-] OldEggNewTricks 21 points 1 week ago

It might confuse some people, but it's not as if the lesbian police are going to come and arrest you! Why not? <3

Alternatively, another term you might like to consider is "gynephilic".

[-] OldEggNewTricks 21 points 1 month ago

So much I became one :3

(Sorry, couldn't pass up the opportunity to say it at least once)

[-] OldEggNewTricks 17 points 1 month ago

No problem. I wondered about the same thing until it turned out I was the trans one :P

There are lots of ways coming out could have gone horribly wrong, but I figured there were three "right" options.

  1. Wife isn't interested in being married to a woman. Fair enough; result is an amicable split, presumably sharing child-raising responsibilities.
  2. Wife not attracted to women but wants to stay together. Continue to cohabit as some kind of non-sexual family unit, possibly seeing other people on the side.
  3. Wife realizes she's bi / willing to make an exception. Lesbian partners!

I guess I was prepared for 1, expecting 2, and hoping for 3. Currently at 2, but it could go either way.

In any event, I think it's unreasonable to expect someone who needs to transition to put it off for the sake of their partner, although not every trans person needs to transition.

[-] OldEggNewTricks 17 points 3 months ago

In addition to the other comments, how about some nice-smelling body care products? Hair milk, lip balm, hand cream, deodorant etc. Floral scents make me happy!

Oh, and put on sunscreen every day.

Clothes-wise I am enjoying my long cardigan, a wearable blanket and a pair of knitted room shoes.

[-] OldEggNewTricks 18 points 4 months ago

Thanks, I think you hit the nail on the head there. I've been coasting a bit recently and this was a bit of a "you're really doing this, right?" moment. Not really trying to boy-mode, but at the same time kind of reluctant to come out to the wider world. Although the idea of not doing it seems worse so... here goes, I guess?

And thank you for all the links!

[-] OldEggNewTricks 17 points 4 months ago
[-] OldEggNewTricks 21 points 4 months ago

Woo! Looking good! A totally different person. (Is it weird that I can't stop seeing the new pic as the cover of a cooking book?)

And a (formerly) high cholesterol high-five, I guess? Hoping I can get off statins soon...

[-] OldEggNewTricks 18 points 4 months ago

Turns out I was a tamagotchi all along.

[-] OldEggNewTricks 21 points 5 months ago

Sure! As the saying goes: soap box, ballot box, ammo box -- in that order. But it's hard work. The crazies are motivated, so we must be too.

Talk to people. Show them that trans people are not demons (most of the time). Make friends. Let them know that these laws hurt you and people like you. Get involved in the community. Contact your elected representative in government. Often. Get other people to do so too. Join or support an activist organization. Get involved in politics. Run for office. Vote! And make sure others do too.

Failing that, emigrate :3

[-] OldEggNewTricks 18 points 5 months ago

I decided to not worry about labels and instead figure out what I want. Who cares whether I'm Really Trans™ if I get to have a feminine body -- and that's something (if I'm honest) I've wanted so much since... well, as long as I can remember. Do I feel like a woman? Eh, who knows. I certainly never felt much like a man. Or a human, come to that.

And sure, some days I don't want to look at my dysphoria-inducing face practicing makeup, or listen to my dysphoria-inducing voice doing training, and that's fine. Put on some androgynous clothes, cuddle up with Blåhaj and Trust the Process while I watch a film or something. More often than not I end up wanting to do something girly anyway after a while.

And some days, when I get the tuck just right, and my hair isn't too bad, and I've got on some nice tight jeans and a cute sweater, I think: "do I want to be a trans woman?". And the answer is hell, yeah.

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submitted 7 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/trans

Hello, everyone. Hopefully I'm not doxxing myself too badly if I reveal that I live in Japan, which is not a great place for trans healthcare.

The standards of care here are still from the stone age, and date from a prosecution under Japan's widely reviled eugenics laws (fortunately repealed in... 1996). Yes, that's right: the guidelines themselves state they're to protect medical practitioners.

The key requirement is to jump through enough hoops to convince your doctor that you really do know what you want, and then do it all again with another doctor, just in case the first one was biased towards the patient. The hoops include, potentially, genital exams, karotypes, interviews with family and coworkers, and RLE. There's no set timeframe, but six months to a year seems to be the standard. Only then can you access any gender-affirming care, including HRT.

Now fortunately there is a loophole. Any treatment started outside the scope of the guidelines can be taken over by the evaluating doctor concurrent with the inquisition. And, as it happens, I'm not personally bound to follow anything.

So, with the sound of a month's supply of my new favorite hormones in convenient gel form hitting the mailbox, I'm ready to start DIY! Hopefully my doctor (who I'm due to see for the first time in October) will be cooperative. From the sound of it a lot of people are using the same trick...

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egg_irl [Transfem] (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/egg_irl

If you want to be a girl, you are one.

It took me a while to understand what people meant by that (or maybe I just couldn't accept it?). The difference between "I'm a girl and I like it", and "I want to be a girl" is simply one of perspective.

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submitted 7 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/mtf

So it's almost exactly two weeks since my first session. I went to one of the high-power places that needs a medical license (at least in this country), but my somewhat light-colored hair and total lack of pain during the procedure made me really worried. The first week or so showed no progress, the hair seemed to be growing as normal. Then it got a bit thinner, or maybe I was imagining it?

But no, just today, it's been a whole day and almost no stubble or shadow! About 80% has just vanished (most of what remains is on my upper lip and beneath the jaw). I realize that the dormant follicles and so on are going to wake up soon, but I've still got several sessions to go.

So if you've just started and had the same worries as me, really: wait two weeks!

I am unreasonably excited about this. Sorry, past self who waited so long for his beard to come in: you don't need to worry about trying to look masc any more!

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Wash day [fem] (files.catbox.moe)
submitted 7 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/transmemes

(Happiness to despair)

  1. Dressing fem feels so good!
  2. Everything that fits is in the wash.
  3. Guess it's boymode today
  4. I can't even just no

So I seem to have gone from "this plain T-shirt is secretly from the women's section, nobody will notice!" to "goddammit I'm dressing like a man I feel so ridiculous" without realizing. Um.

Happy ending, though: I forgot to unpack the skater skirt and stripy socks from my Trans Starter Pack™. Very un-stylish but who cares!

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submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by OldEggNewTricks to c/mtf

It's super cute, but not so feminine as to contrast my face.

It hides the bits that stick out where I don't want them to.

It fakes the bits that don't stick out where I do want them to.

It's comfortable. It's (a little bit) spinny.

I'm never taking it off! That is all.

[-] OldEggNewTricks 20 points 8 months ago

Same! I know there must be some kind of selection bias, but it's encouraging.

Given that I currently look like a recently-shaved walrus in a dress, if I'm not supermodel-grade this time next year, who do I speak to about a refund?

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Gatekeeping (imgur.com)
submitted 8 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/transmemes

Crying Menhera-chan

Top caption: Called the clinic to book pre-HRT counselling

Bottom caption: What if I'm not trans enough for them to give me hormones

PS Image uploads still broken :(

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submitted 8 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/mtf

I was going to make this a meme, but image uploads are broken.

So after spending way too much money and buying All The Things on Amazon, I've noticed a pattern.

  1. Browse clothes
  2. "Oooh, that's pretty!"
  3. Check size
  4. Shucks, too small
  5. Buy it anyway
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Hair care (self.mtf)
submitted 8 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/mtf

So I've spent the last few decades with very short hair. It's naturally quite wavy, and now I've started growing it out, it's sticking out in all directions and looks a total mess, particularly around the ears. What do?

I know what shampoo and conditioner are, and I think I have a comb somewhere. Can anybody point to some good absolute-beginner tutorials, or give advice? I'm sure someone's been through the same thing...

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egg_irl (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 8 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/egg_irl

Galaxy brain meme

  1. I wish I was [gender], but I'm cis
  2. Just experimenting, still cis though
  3. Post-transition gender same as identified gender, definitely cis
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A poem (self.trans)
submitted 9 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/trans

I tried to put some feelings down in words. It's a bit dark; I hope that's OK.


A ship sailed over waters deep
Beneath a graying sky;
A sightless pilot at the helm
Dreaming of distant shores.

The clouds rolled in, the waves grew tall,
Yet onward pushed the boat;
What else to do for a lonely crew
Who knows no other home.

Insidious breakers beat the prow,
The sailor's grip grew tighter.
Far away from an unknown port
The ship began to founder.

To stay with these worthless timbered bones,
A barnacled prison cell,
Would bring an end to a pointless voyage,
And beautiful dreams as well.

One step, so small, into the dark,
Leave the ship to the ocean grim.
It matters not what the morning brings
For I was born to swim.

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Shaving (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 9 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/transmemes

If you've used one on your face, then You Know.

If you haven't, give it a go! You can remove a whole carpet's worth of hair in one swipe, with less irritation and super close. It's not as scary as it looks!

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submitted 9 months ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/transmemes

I thought it wouldn't bother me, but ouch... (not their fault; I'm not out yet)

Boymode sucks now.

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