
As someone who hopped between dozens of private servers throughout the years... You're right in being scared.
Batman would just punch the Riddler's face to justify his existence
Yo momma
Back in 2013 or 2014 I think.
I was going out with a woman slightly older than me (me 23, she 27), we had already had sex twice. I don't recall the exact details of this date of ours, but we met around 19h, later I took her home and we sat in the car, getting hot and stuff, when my hand went down on her, where I noticed something weird. She pulls her panty aside and there's a male condom sticking out of her. I bust my ass laughing while she desperately tries to not die from shame. We weren't having anything serious and we both knew the other "might be meeting others", so I really didn't mind the fact she fucked another guy before meeting up with me that day. I found it so absurd that she somehow didn't notice the condom was left inside her that I just couldn't help myself but laugh.
She started ghosting me after that day, no big loss 😆
Look on the bright side, all that plotting and scheming will make for a great series of tales for centuries to come
Keep in mind that social media is the easy way out of boredom. Doing literally anything else requires more effort. Don't get me wrong, I also feel the need to talk about my interests with other people that i know also share whatever specific thing I'm on about at the moment, reddit's size makes it much better than lemmy - but that's the trap, unfortunately.
Case in point, sometimes I spend way too much time here on lemmy of all things, time that I should be spending on better non productive activities, like actually playing my backlog of games. Sometimes I end up reading some reddit posts because there are no lemmy equivalents (and often the lemmy is just a repost from reddit), but I do avoid commenting and interacting there.
You're extremely unlikely to find the perfect partner or even someone "who understands your tastes perfectly". The algorithms can do that to a point, but interacting with people requires effort and also helps us understand that keeping ourselves inside our niche bubbles isn't good for our social health. I share some interests with my girlfriend, but not several others - I'm lucky she enjoys boardgames and videogames, we can play some stuff together, but not some heavy or hard stuff that I personally enjoy a lot. Sometimes I just want to be left alone and play all day long, other times I suck it up and don't do that in order to keep our relationship going - she understands why I want some "me time" and doesn't judge me. Trust is important and luckily, we both trust each other a lot.
So tldr I guess is try again and fill that boredom with other stuff. If possible, set up an hour a day to be completely off the internet, at least. Avoid social media mostly because, although you can get some nice conversations on topics of your interest, you're mostly dealing with faceless names, and this isn't good for us if it's the most social we get.
The whole culture seems sexually repressed, if you look at it. The internet loves to joke about holding hands being the culmination of porn, but it feels like they treat anything beyond touching hands as sexual
Might as well rename lemmy into crossings
"If a girl losing virginity before marriage and marrying someone else is normal, then why not a girl falling in love with someone who raped her"
The first thing that comes to mind is because women are fucking human beings and not objects whose value is inversely proportional to how much dick she's taken.
Tesseract is an android app people could use to connect to lemmy. For some reason, the dev had several instances, words and users completely blocked within the code, without letting the person who downloaded even know about it, much less disable the blocks. One of the things it blocked were "mod abuse" communities.
As expected, things exploded once it was made public. No problem in having personal biases, everyone has them, but shipping an app with those biases baked in and hidden from the user is a shitty thing to do.
Oh great, those nords are now copying Skyrim and changing letters around to try and hide it!