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submitted 1 month ago by may_be@thelemmy.club to c/lesbians

I have been told by this straight/bi girl who turned out to be quite racist (and homophobic, so she was likely but not definitely straight) so I stopped being her friend, but that’s beside the point, that “she was a lesbian too until she met her perfect boyfriend” and that I just hadn’t met my perfect guy yet. I am a lesbian. I’ve tried with guys and I only dated them because I felt bad for them and they seemed sweet. I’m more mature now than to date a man because I like the attention he gives me and feel bad, I an absolutely les (well i like enbies and women)

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[-] Peacock@lemmy.zip 24 points 1 month ago

"You're not a lesbian? Well you just haven't met the right woman yet."

The "logic" works both ways 😁

[-] may_be@thelemmy.club 15 points 1 month ago

True 😊 🤗

[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Random tangent, but it tickled my brain a bit

The phrase

You're not a lesbian∆ you just haven't met the right person yet

Can be read as either encouraging or disparaging of lesbianism depending on whether you replace the delta with a questionmark or a comma

You're not a lesbian? you just haven't met the right person yet

You're not a lesbian, you just haven't met the right person yet

[-] wendyz7@thelemmy.club 13 points 1 month ago

All the time by guys who wanted to "get some".

[-] SharkWeek 7 points 1 month ago

Yeah, that's normal. When someone says that, you know not to be near them ever again

[-] Cevilia 5 points 1 month ago

It happened a lot when I was younger, it still occasionally happens but much less now.

this post was submitted on 06 Apr 2026
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