As a man, I can say truthfully lots of us are overly sexual and kinda suck sometimes. I think having it as a general rule not dating men might be a good thing for you especially if your experiences have not been great. I will say, however, attraction like gender is a spectrum and there's always a chance you'll find the perfect human for you that just so happens to be a guy. I've always been open to finding a partner that may not have been expected but might also be just right. With time I've pretty well come to the conclusion that I'm very straight, but it sounds like you still aren't so sure, so my advice would be to be open to finding the right human and those other pesky things like what's in their pants will sort themselves out eventually.

look, don't worry about the label. Just be your queer self and date who you like. In time you'll feel more settled in what you're doing and maybe know what labels you want to use to describe yourself. And maybe you wont. And both are good.

Ok, so I'm a non-man who likes non-men... I think I have my answer...

I think you're a lot like me, I consider myself bi because I like nonbinary MASC people and women, but everyone is different and non-men who love non-men are typically defined as lesbians, so I'm questioning but probably that

Whatever you're attracted to is specific only to you. Why go through the effort of trying to fit into a pre-defined box? Why not just be attracted to whoever you're attracted to and try to avoid thinking about how that reflects on your sexuality?

Instead of thinking "Am I lesbian or am I bi?", why not just go "I am attracted to X type of people."? Boxes and labels are useful when talking about groups of people, not so much when talking about individuals, especially those that blur the lines like yourself.

Don't worry, be happy.