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When women have a crush on men
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Damn the incels turned OUT for this post lmao
The only wisdom is in knowing we know nothing.
Women are like cats. They rub on you, climb on you, try to be near you, sigh when they're next to you, and we're like "I think she's just being friendly". Also, I just told on myself that I don't have a girlfriend because I compared women to cats...
I mean my boyfriend calls me good kitty but like you should like warm up to that lmao.
men are discouraged from approaching women and women dont want to show their interest in clear way. How have we not gone extinct yet?
We slowly are, most western countries have a birth rate below what we need to maintain the population.
That’s for economic reasons that have nothing to do with gender issues.
Nah, it's a mixture of both.
Because the internet isn’t real life and plenty of people know how to talk to people, including those of the opposite sex.
We compensate with ✨horny✨
Like is a strong word. Let's say she's used to you.
Why are women even taught/expected to behave like sneaky spies when it comes to romance? "Ok, time to do my personal hair signal that I'm interested and want him to approach"
Probably because historically the patriarchy took away women's rights to be able to choose mates and had years and years of arranged marriages. Then couple that with women being in those forced relationships who could not chose their partners looking for comfort outside of the inhumane treatment of forced marriages and you get societal pressures that taught women they dont get a say in romantic relationships and as such them showing interest had to be covert as it was typically to those outside their prescribed marriage and if caught they could at the very least be socially disowned or at worst be literally killed for it. So yeah im not surprised women have a tendency to be less obvious about it its only very recently in human history that they got to have a say in finding partners.
I don’t think that’s it.
Being clear about your desire also means that rejection is clear, and that hurts.
The girl in the OP isn't happy with being ignored tho
This is a selfmade problem, don't try to pin it on anyone but women.
During college I got asked out by a few women as a man and I appreciate the initiative!
Be it woman or man, asking someone out is never easy because you'll make yourself vulnerable to rejection. So ask friendly and politely for a meeting in a safe space like a cafe and make it easy for the other person to decline and save their face if they have no interest. The other way around, turn others down with respect to their effort of making themselves vulnerable ('I am flattered by your offer but I have other plans for that evening' or something).
I have asked out a few women and got rejected some times. But with the ones who said yes I have spent years of great relationships, some of which even have turned into friendships. And I got to spend years with girls who I thought were way out of my league. But it turns out we're all just people and they were also happy that someone asked them out!
Not all of the dating world is hostile and there are still women and men out there with a good heart. Don't try too hard, get yourself out there in clubs or sports and go to parties occasionally. I have never used a dating platform and yet I had the pleasure to spend quality time with many wonderful people.
In an ideal society, we would just go and ask the person we adore out, no matter what gender or social framing we have. And even if the person asking you out is definitely not your type, don't let them feel bad - make them feel good about asking, boost their confidence.
My last girlfriend asked me out (she beat me to the punch by like 2 text messages, but still). It took a lot of the nerves off that relationship starting out.
This makes me think of a conversation between my wife and daughter a while back.
Daughter is angry with her BF and frustrated that he seems oblivious to that
Wife: "Oh honey, no. It doesn't work like that. If I'm mad at your dad for something I just have to tell him. If he asks if I'm OK and I say, 'I'm fine', he takes that at face value. He's very literal."
Daughter: "Ugh. Doesn't that frustrate you?"
Wife: "It was weird at first but once you get used to it it's actually really nice. You just have to learn to talk to him."
Me: "Wait, I did something right?"
Wife: "You do lots of things right babe."
Yeah, I think she likes me.
Yeah communication is key. Even if you are too literal at least you are clear and not obscuring your thoughts.
We can, we just don't want to reveal our telepathic abilities. Shhhhh
Oh my yes. I do ask, subtley, if they can read minds. And on the off-chance they say yes, I take a hot minute to push the brain "clear browser history" button before carrying on -- just in case.
Aside from a lot of guys being thickheaded and not seeing it, there's also selection bias.
A) A girl has a crush on a guy. He notices but plays it safe. Maybe she's just friendly. Result: no harm done except perpetuating the myth that guys don't notice.
B) A girl is just friendly but the guy thinks he's being crushed on and acts on it. Now he's forever labeled as a creep.
The only safe play as a guy is always, always assuming she's just being friendly. Unless she comes right out and says she wants to hump your bones, just assume she's being nice to you.
She's Canadian.
Quadruple the caution if it's a coworker. Hello HR violation.
To quote Amos Burton, "I don't shit where I eat"
Don't, "butter your bread where you earn it."
if romance is a type of shit to you then i'm sorry for all your relationships
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