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When women have a crush on men
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this post was submitted on 08 Mar 2026
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Aside from a lot of guys being thickheaded and not seeing it, there's also selection bias.
A) A girl has a crush on a guy. He notices but plays it safe. Maybe she's just friendly. Result: no harm done except perpetuating the myth that guys don't notice.
B) A girl is just friendly but the guy thinks he's being crushed on and acts on it. Now he's forever labeled as a creep.
The only safe play as a guy is always, always assuming she's just being friendly. Unless she comes right out and says she wants to hump your bones, just assume she's being nice to you.
Thanks for lining it out so well.
There's a good shot that she's into me, but if she's not, I'll either die of embarrassment or I'll get bullied by their whole social circle.
Add to this that men usually are not as socially comfortable as women, and you kinda understand it why this happens.
This happens to women too. The embarrasement is real and the societal pressure to not be seen as a slut is everpresent. Playing it safe is a popular strategy no matter the gender.
It's 2026. Are people still that puritanical that they care about somebody else's sexual activity?
The places I've lived in the last 15 years have been extremely sex positive, which was a slight shift in mindsets from where I grew up, which was slowly coming this way.
Is there a sudden resurgence in this behavior? Is it part of the man-o-sphere bullshit?
Yes. Many people devote their entire personalities towards policing other people's sex lives. Just look at the hatred towards LGBTQ people that continues to go on and on. It never went away, it just got pushed back, often to largely rural areas. Look at the transphobia of the past 15 or so years. That's all based in the same nonsense.
Even amongst the LGBTQ community, you have the recent "kink at Pride" drama, but there are also decades old issues like gay men using the same homophobia used on them by straight guys against bi men - or saying that they're not part of the community if they're dating a woman.
Oh yeah most definitely.
I just wrote this because these memes are rampant and funny, but they do make light of a bad circumstance on our society. And that trope usually targets men, so here's some context.
Quadruple the caution if it's a coworker. Hello HR violation.
To quote Amos Burton, "I don't shit where I eat"
Don't, "butter your bread where you earn it."
if romance is a type of shit to you then i'm sorry for all your relationships
I mean, this is Amos. His experience with romance is probably rather different than yours.
never heard of them
It's a character from the TV show The Expanse.
It’s always good to play it safe unless evidence is so overwhelming that she’s into you. This has cost me some romantic opportunities but has also kept me from being the guy who dates all his female friends.
She's Canadian.
https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw