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Anon checks up on a childhood friend
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Comparison is the thief of joy.
Comparing your real, everyday life to someone else's highlight reel is so much worse. I have been so much happier since getting rid of most social media. All the people I love, I can catch up with via phone calls.
that's bedbugs
Bro thinks Facebook is real life. Lmao
Yup, people only post the flattering moments.
That said, if OP wants kids, they don't seem to be on a path to get there.
He is likely stuck in a depressed cycle that makes it hard to do any of those things
Probably. They are on 4chan afterall, and you don't usually get that far down the rabbithole without being perennially online.
Fake: Anon cares about other people.
Gay: Anon stalks his highschool boyfriend long after breakup.
On the other hand: I read about the lives of random terrorists, mass shooters, and I instsntly feel so much better about myself, at least I'm not that fucked up lol
ngl, this is partially why I enjoyed deleting facebook in 2012. The ability to just impulsively compare myself to others is far too common on sites like that, so the freedom of not even having to worry about mistakenly glancing too long at an old friends profile is never a concern I have.
Same with LinkedIn. When you see someone who graduated in the same year as you, you will start comparing, it is not good…
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One NPC believes he has failed at Life (TM) , as brought to you by Meta Corporation, believes other NPC is 'main character'.
Meanwhile, 'main character' quite likely is laboriously and neurotically curating and self-censoring his corporate social media profile precisely to present the appearance of succeeding at Life (TM) , as brought to you by Meta Corporation, and in reality is likely in financial arrears, isn't satisfied or happy with his job, feels like it is mostly bullshit work, and is probably overtired most of the time, having little ability to develop any skills or interests not directly related to his job.
In summary, the NPC management system continues to work as intended, convincing everyone that everyone else is more happy and succesful and fulfilled than themself, ensuring the vast majority of NPCs are too demoralized to be able to consider meaningfully changing the system.
Sure, if the race is to be a normie, then Anon NPC 1 missed the starting gun.
But if the race is to live a genuine, authentic, intentional life, to define what that even means, and then to pursue it, muchless be largely in control of it, with 'main character' levels of plot orientation and plot armor?
Chances are high that neither NPC has even figured out the location of the venue for that event.
... because that event is not a product offered or showcased by Meta Corporation.
When I have to describe social media... I do as follows.
There are 3 types of social media users.
1: Those with wealth who have no worries and can portray the image of living the simple life full of hobbies and joy... which is easy to do when you don't have to work 2 or 3 jobs just to pay the bills. they hoard wealth instead of giving. 2: Those that have no wealth and are desperately trying to convince others that they do, and that their life is so much better than yours. 3: The sheep that believe both of the above and would like to fit into one of those groups.
Meanwhile... the ones actually living the simple life, their best life, the relaxing life... aren't on corporate owner social media willing giving up their privacy and freedoms so a billionaire can get richer.
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The worst thing I ever did was get married and have kids. Now all grown and left, cept the special one, and I realize every day I could have pulled this misery and isolation off all by myself and would be surrounded by French Bulldogs and not regrets.
Yup, a wife and kids aren't for everyone.
I'm happily married with kids, but I tell people who ask to not have kids. The ones who want kids will ignore me, and the ones who don't won't guilt themselves into having them. Far too many people have kids they don't want.
Sometimes it takes a while. Run your own race, not theirs. I didn't figure out what I wanted to do till I was 30. Before then I was absolutely anon, living in a room with a mattress, a PC and a pile of empty vodka bottles i sold plasma to pay for. Now I've got a career, a family, a home.
Dont compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own course to follow and their own struggles to get through.
I started transition in my early 30s, before that my plan was to kill myself. Now I’m trying to live the life I want, to be who I want.
I'm about to have my first child at 48. I wasn't ready before now.
Pardon me asking (and feel free to ignore): Isn’t that scary to have a child so late in life? I’m worried about the impact my age will have on my relationship with my kids and I’m roughly a decade younger.
I just don't see the point in worrying about it. I haven't been scared since I found out and Idon't think I will be now that's it's about 4 weeks away. I've been too busy buying and planning things and then I'll be too busy changing nappies.
I'm just going to get on with it and not worry about it. The good news is that I'm already waking up in the middle of the night for a pee so I'm somewhat practiced at that.
That doesn’t sound fair to the child?
You’ll be barely up to keep up with them by the time they’re 10 you’ll be 60 and close to retirement. You’ll probably die of old age before they ever get married or to have you around to help them figure out adulthood.
[same disclaimer] Was it planned?
We were trying, yes.
Also back to your relationship question that I probably didn't answer. I already know someone in advanced age with a kid and they have a great relationship. I haven't even considered it. As long as I live a while longer I'm sure I'll have a healthy relationship. I'm quite a chill person and young at heart and genuinely don't see that as an issue.
If anything I think it might even be better! I genuinely think it will be beneficial that I'm not trying to grow up at the same time as my kid and can act as a caring and relaxed parent without any additional stress.
Congratulations, and I wish the very best for you, your child, and your loved ones! :)
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Yeah bro, how you spend your days is how you spend your life.
Clean and decorate your home. Develop a sense of style. Go out and do things and meet people. Challenge yourself to do something interesting every week. Talk to people, get out of your shell.
Sincerely, the first of her childhood friend group to get married
Clean and decorate your home. Develop a sense of style. Go out and do things and meet people. Challenge yourself to do something interesting every week. Talk to people, get out of your shell.
literally every single one of these things are things that i don't like
- decorating. i love no decoration, no bullshit, bare-bones approach
- style. a way for fashion corporations to sell you a new t-shirt every week
- just do things^TM^. an agenda to make the economy run hot. consume things. visit the zoo. be part of our great imperial society.
- "Challenge yourself to do something interesting every week". In other words, never just be happy with how things are.
- get out of your shell. finally, the instruction to leave your natural living habitat and, again, contribute to our great imperial society.
Sounds like some defeatist bullshit. Playing games all day is no way to live.
Doing things is a way to be happy. I used to go out every week in my early 20's, still do but not as constantly now that I'm in my 30's. I love meeting people, making friends, falling in love, playing and seeing live music, working with my hands as an electrician, renovating my home, taking care of and loving my dog, traveling, exercising, biking. Hell I volunteered and planted trees with my city's local government just because I was kinda bored the one summer. I'm engaged to the love of my life and my future and career is bright. I do all of this for my own fulfillment and for those that I love, the "contribute to society" stuff sounds like a 13 year old's idea of the Joker. I don't even have social media, unless you count lemmy I guess, so it's not to "show off"
Style is more often than not just grooming yourself and looking presentable. Nobody is saying buy a t shirt every week.
"Never be happy with the situation" is also just a pessimistic viewpoint. If you put yourself in new and interesting situations, then you'll be surprised how much fun or fulfillment or challenging mentally physically whatever they can be. If you don't like it, then change it and don't do it. Or don't, and sit inside all day. It's your life.
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Counter points:
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I don't have a counter point. This is just a matter of opinion.
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Buy fancy clothes from a yard sale or something. I like to get old time formal wear because it just looks well put together.
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You can go out and do things without spending money. Have a walk in the park, go to the library.
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I don't know why you associate challenging yourself with not being satisfied. I think challenging myself is fun. It has the "put in the work, reap the rewards" kind of structure. I draw as a hobby, so I mostly challenge myself by trying to draw in unfamiliar art styles.
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This is just kinda sad. You're aware that having friends isn't imperialist, right? Friends are a part of every human culture, imperialist or not. Humans are social creatures, and we are very dependent on social interaction. Talking to others is the main way we compare our thoughts and perception to reality–we get a second opinion.
If you really feel that way, I'm sorry to hear that. It can be really hard to try and function ethically in the modern world, so you have to put in some effort to find ethical ways to do things. I hope you get to a point in your life where you feel good about your situation and your role in the world.
Have a nice day.
What they're describing sounds like depression imo
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- Fair, I actually generally prefer a more minimalist approach, though I've found some art makes my home more inviting to myself and to guests. I prefer local art I pick up at community events, though making it yourself would be cool af
- Nah, most of my clothes come from a thrift store or swap meets. It's about understanding what looks good on you and aiming for that. Learning to alter your clothes would also help with this
- There are non comsumptive things. Volunteer at food not bombs or a books to prisoners community. Get involved in your local leftist scene. Hit up a park you haven't recently. Go for a hike.
- If you aren't happy with how you're living your life yes. If you like where your life is and are comfortable with that having been how you lived it, see my first paragraph of my previous comment and ask yourself why you care what advice some lady on the internet gives
- No, you lesrn to speak to people and make friends whether you want you contribute to our great imperial society or tear it down. Staying in all day alone isn't a great act of rebellion it's neutral sad.
If you stay at home all day, alone with bare walls and clothes that don't express yourself or make you look good, never doing anything interesting or speaking to people, you finding friends and a partner as an adult are unlikely.
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I think a similar way to say this is to always be trying new things and do self care. If you like a decorated house, decorate, but if you don't, do a different form of self care.
For me, it's more like:
- go hiking - I don't enjoy the journey, but i like the accomplishment of having done it
- lift weights - again, I'm not looking to be big or whatever, but weight lifting is easy to measure progress
- try new hobbies - not just video games, but drawing (completely failed), game dev (mlderate success), carpentry, juggling, uncycling, etc
- eliminate clutter that doesn't bring happiness and keep only stuff I value - I don't like decorations, but I do like certain items than have sentimental value
Make your own list, and make sure to include things that challenge and stretch you, because there's no joy like accomplishing something hard.
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On the other hand: I have the money and free time to afford and play any games that I want. Nothing dark about that.
I have kids, and I have the money but not time to play any game I want.
Everyone takes a different path in life, make sure you're working in the direction you want to go and are comfortable with the consequences of that choice. I am happy with my chosen lifestyle, but I've met plenty with a similar lifestyle and aren't happy.
I cheat my way through games, I may be losing some of the gameplay experience. But I like getting an hour to myself to play a game and not have to do repetitive in game tasks. Playing Roadcraft right now, and sure I could use the dump truck to drive back and forth to the sand pit 300 times or I could use a trainer, have unlimited sand and fill in anything that would prevent game progression. And increase the game speed so I can actually get things done in the small 60 minute timeframe I have. I envy those who can spend hours in the game getting absolutely nothing done.
I’m married with a newborn, to the envy of my friends, who are all either single or in casual relationships. At the same time, I’ve got a shit job with shit pay and no education beyond high school, while all my friends are either working good jobs in their field or working on their masters degree. I’d love more than anything to have a steady job with good pay, even if it was a boring job, but with no education I don’t think that can happen. I’m very jealous of my friends and wish I could have what they have, meanwhile they look at me and say the same.
All that is to say, no one has it perfect, even if you think they’ve got everything you want, I can guarantee they wish they had something different, possibly something you’ve got. Don’t be so hard on yourself, comparing yourself to others.
Grass is always greener and whatnot
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Don't waste your time on jealousy
Sometimes you're ahead
Sometimes you're behind
The race is long, and in the end
It's only with yourself[...]
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't
Everybody's Free (to wear sunscreen), Baz Luhrmann
The race is long
and in the end is death. don't race your life to "get ahead". Take as much time as you desire.
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Possibly not fake
Might even not be gay
Looking up men online? Absolutely gay.
Essentially nothing here sounds like main character. This could be the most miserable mofo in the world. Grass is always greener...
Better way to look at it, he did a speed run through the game and completed it with 30% of the whole game done... The other one is doing all of the side quests and extras so he can get 100%
More often than not, the friend is putting on a performance. I'm not saying people don't have happily ever afters, but I am saying that people mostly show the best part of whatever they do.
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