Sounds like some defeatist bullshit. Playing games all day is no way to live.

Doing things is a way to be happy. I used to go out every week in my early 20's, still do but not as constantly now that I'm in my 30's. I love meeting people, making friends, falling in love, playing and seeing live music, working with my hands as an electrician, renovating my home, taking care of and loving my dog, traveling, exercising, biking. Hell I volunteered and planted trees with my city's local government just because I was kinda bored the one summer. I'm engaged to the love of my life and my future and career is bright. I do all of this for my own fulfillment and for those that I love, the "contribute to society" stuff sounds like a 13 year old's idea of the Joker. I don't even have social media, unless you count lemmy I guess, so it's not to "show off"

Style is more often than not just grooming yourself and looking presentable. Nobody is saying buy a t shirt every week.

"Never be happy with the situation" is also just a pessimistic viewpoint. If you put yourself in new and interesting situations, then you'll be surprised how much fun or fulfillment or challenging mentally physically whatever they can be. If you don't like it, then change it and don't do it. Or don't, and sit inside all day. It's your life.

Counter points:

1. I don't have a counter point. This is just a matter of opinion.

2. Buy fancy clothes from a yard sale or something. I like to get old time formal wear because it just looks well put together.

3. You can go out and do things without spending money. Have a walk in the park, go to the library.

4. I don't know why you associate challenging yourself with not being satisfied. I think challenging myself is fun. It has the "put in the work, reap the rewards" kind of structure. I draw as a hobby, so I mostly challenge myself by trying to draw in unfamiliar art styles.

5. This is just kinda sad. You're aware that having friends isn't imperialist, right? Friends are a part of every human culture, imperialist or not. Humans are social creatures, and we are very dependent on social interaction. Talking to others is the main way we compare our thoughts and perception to reality–we get a second opinion.

If you really feel that way, I'm sorry to hear that. It can be really hard to try and function ethically in the modern world, so you have to put in some effort to find ethical ways to do things. I hope you get to a point in your life where you feel good about your situation and your role in the world.

Have a nice day.

1. Fair, I actually generally prefer a more minimalist approach, though I've found some art makes my home more inviting to myself and to guests. I prefer local art I pick up at community events, though making it yourself would be cool af
2. Nah, most of my clothes come from a thrift store or swap meets. It's about understanding what looks good on you and aiming for that. Learning to alter your clothes would also help with this
3. There are non comsumptive things. Volunteer at food not bombs or a books to prisoners community. Get involved in your local leftist scene. Hit up a park you haven't recently. Go for a hike.
4. If you aren't happy with how you're living your life yes. If you like where your life is and are comfortable with that having been how you lived it, see my first paragraph of my previous comment and ask yourself why you care what advice some lady on the internet gives
5. No, you lesrn to speak to people and make friends whether you want you contribute to our great imperial society or tear it down. Staying in all day alone isn't a great act of rebellion it's neutral sad.

If you stay at home all day, alone with bare walls and clothes that don't express yourself or make you look good, never doing anything interesting or speaking to people, you finding friends and a partner as an adult are unlikely.

• Decorating. That’s fair and relatable. The only stuff on my walls are what I got from my dad over the years.
• Style. If you wear clothes, you have a style. You don’t need to constantly buy new clothes to give a modicum of thought to how you present yourself.
• Just do things. I don’t know where you live but the zoos around me are free. Walking through a park is also free and something. I went to a gamer meetup a couple months ago that was free. If you look for them, there are options that don’t involve spending money but can be rewarding.
• Challenge yourself to do something. My challenge to my self each week is to write for 15 minutes. It’s great, gets my mind stretching a little thinking the new thoughts I’m putting to paper. Why would I stress about that the other 99% of the week? You can be happy with where you are while still wanting to better yourself.
• Get out of your shell. I take it you don’t like the society you live in. Fair bet is there are ways you think it could be better. Do you think those changes will materialize while you sit at home? Get out and meet people. If they want you to do something imperialist tell them no, that’s against your values. If they stop talking to you get out of your shell to meet other people. If they keep talking to you then you’re one step closer to building a society you actually want to live in.

You should read some existentialist philosophy, man. L'Étranger seems like the book for you, my dude. Particularly, the bit about the guy and his dog.

Decorating your home is more than self care, it's an extension of personal style that applies to when you hsve friends and potential partners in your home.

I think using the term self care will really backfire with someone like oop, as it has a connotation of giving yourself a break, when my intentions were more to say that if you want a family or people in your life you need to live a life that fosters such things.