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[-] megopie 58 points 3 weeks ago

Wow, a lot of people who struggled to fit in and feel comfortable in society are addressing a major core cause of their discomfort, shocking.

Oh you want people to go back to being uncomfortable, perpetually out of place and under tension between their personal desires and societal expectations for them, why? Because you thought it was cute? Because you wanted to see them say bazinga?

“No i just accepted them for who they were” no you accepted them falling in to a pre understood and accepted stereo type that didn’t pose any underlying challenges to your core assumptions.

[-] pennomi@lemmy.world 54 points 3 weeks ago

If you think all the nerds are gone, you’re definitely looking with your eyes sewn shut.

[-] renamon_silver@lemmy.wtf 9 points 3 weeks ago

You are not likely to observe a nerd outside (of its normal habitat)

[-] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 28 points 3 weeks ago

I would like to report that I'm very much alive, thank you.

[-] StarlightDust 27 points 3 weeks ago

Also like, nerd man culture is dominated by a particularly nasty form of misogyny so its a net gain for society anyway. Take a look at examples of your stereotypical nerd in pop culture for an example e.g. The Big Bang Theory where their misogyny is played off as ultimately harmless or more infamously Revenge of the Nerds. In the real world we have examples like James Damore who wrote the manifesto that complained about women working in tech.

Trans people have always existed and plenty are nerds, just as plenty are goths with how transphobes often say "where did all the goths go?"

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 weeks ago

Im more confused by goths wearing bright colors than by the apparent loss of them

[-] growsomethinggood@reddthat.com 22 points 3 weeks ago

Do they think trans people stop being nerds upon coming out? Lmao someone needs to go to MTG draft night at the local card shop

[-] y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 3 weeks ago

Reports of my death have been greaty exaggerated.

[-] sem 14 points 3 weeks ago

This picture needs a blåhaj, smh ...

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 7 points 3 weeks ago

Im a nerd. Im not trans. We still exist we are just friends with a few more fantastic people than we used to be friends with.

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