Lemmy reacts to a non-sexualized silly outfit pic in a totally normal way…
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I love all these comments like this woman is asking, cares, or is even interested. "I totally probably would." Okay, but would she??? Why do they think this woman wants to be someone's last call when she could be someone's first choice? If I looked at a picture of a regular guy and my fat ass was like, "Hmm, I mean, if I was drunk, and I had no options, I guess I'd take him home" I'd be dragged, and rightfully so. 😂
the guy who made that comment is in this post right now saying “you don’t know the women or NBs i associate with [or if i make them uncomfortable]”
meanwhile in this post are several women and NBs saying “yeah that made me uncomfortable” 😭 listening to women is hard for misogynistic actors i guess.
fortunately the mods over at !lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world are doing their job to wack this guy.
Something something bear
I feel like it depends on the instance, .world is mostly male liberals (who will occasionally act sexist) while Blahaj.zone is mostly Transfem :3
(Btw I wouldnt tolerate any of those comments on c/Trans)
I did not know that. Where are these demographics from? (More male users doesn't really surprise me, that seems to be common in the places I'm interested in)
I made it up :3 /hj
Oh, ok lol
well its no surprise that there was the exodus from reddit, and i am guessing that reddit is predominantly people who identify as cis-males.
i seriously think i have to revisit who im attracted to because cis-women sometimes just don't vibe with my lifestyle anymore. I've been online for too long and its changed my personality. I have had relationships with women who would find these comments funny and acceptable, and i would kinda go "eugh" at them and second guess my feelings.
thats what happens when you build a community with a large percentage of shut-in nerds and software devs (speaking as one of the latter)
yeah, i try to think of it as an opportunity. i usually try to focus my efforts on encouraging growth and recognizing the hurt thats caused.
This is essentially why I'd like more "normies" here
(or option 2: maybe I should just avoid online spaces with the (sexist/weird) kind of people I avoid IRL)
Oh hey, I'm in this screenshot making an off-color comment. We can debate misogyny and such, probably won't be very productive.
The thing I find interesting in this: "Italians Do It Better" is an inherently sexual statement. Everyone knows that IT is sex and maybe some other reference with this style of bumper sticker meme. That's what makes it funny. So then, is it wrong to make a sexual joke about someone who is wearing a funny sexual statement? I don't think so.
If she were wearing a plain tee or some other logo, I wouldn't make a sexual joke. This feels like white knight silliness to me.
your attitude makes the places you go unbearable. do better.
You don't know me or the women and NBs I associate with. Thanks for playing.
Which one was yours? Looks like the mods agree it wasn't conducive to the environment they want.
Would you proudly tell the women and enbies in your life about the comment on a woman's body you left on the internet? And ultimately even if, in the context of a friendship, and the folks you associate with, this would be taken well, don't you think it's worth listening when people say you're being creepy and off putting?
I mean, I still totally probably would.
Back in my drinking days, I definitely would have taken her home at last call.
I didn't comment about her body in that comment.
Anyhow, with caveats, I would totally make that comment in front of the right crowd. I've been to a lot of kink parties and drag shows. Cis-het peeps don't have a monopoly on catty coments.
If someone wears a shirt with a sexual statement on it, then others will make sexual statements about them.
I didn't even think about the Luigi/Italian thing until I read it in a comment. To me, that shirt said that she has sex better than people who aren't Italian.
I did make a deleted comment referring to her Botox or plastic surgery and that I considered it a red flag. I find uncanny valley plastic surgery profoundly unattractive. I don't remember exactly what I said. It was flippant and arguably objectification.
So, I misread the room and my joke was poorly received. I haven't read the rules for shitposting or whatever and would not be surprised if I violated a rule.
From my view, the shirt with a funny sexual statement invites other sexual statements. I think that anyone that denies that the slogan is a double entendre is naive at best. The level of outrage amusing.
What gross things to say.
I didn’t comment about her body in that comment.
Ah so when you replied to someone commenting on her body and face saying that you would "still" have sex with her after drinking, that was a comment on her deep and rich personality? Just because you didn't literally mention her body in it doesn't make the comment not about her body, and I think you know that.
with caveats ... in front of the right crowd.
Maybe a public forum with a person you don't know is not the right place to make those.
I’ve been to a lot of kink parties and drag shows.
No one is impressed by "I have a black friend", stop using is as justification.
Cis-het peeps don’t have a monopoly on catty coments.
No one said they did, and if you want to get into the weeds of this, folks that are also subjugated under patriarchy share a kinship and an understanding of the contexts and ways 'catty' comments should be made. Maybe going to a couple drag shows doesn't give you the proper context to understand what justifies a 'catty' comment. Maybe a random internet commenter saying they "still would" doesn't come off as a clever fun sassy razzing all the drag queens do. Maybe instead it sounds like basement dweller saying "she's not hot like the chicks I jerk off to, but I guess I would still fuck her".
I did make a deleted comment referring to her Botox or plastic surgery and that I considered it a red flag. I find uncanny valley plastic surgery profoundly unattractive. I don’t remember exactly what I said. It was flippant and arguably objectification.
Wow, I am so proud of you for realizing how wildly disgusting this comment is before leaving it up for too long. I would suggest you grow as a person and have that realization when you think it, and guide yourself away from being a creep.
From my view, the shirt with a funny sexual statement invites other sexual statements.
It doesn't. Stop.
“if i was at a kink party or drag show” ITS A SILLY MEME SUBCOMM NOT A BURLESQUE SHOW FUNK OFF 😭
call me insane, but i want to be able to click on a silly image of a niche micro celebrity i love for her persona doing an incredibly tame expression of her sexuality and not be subjected to 6+ comments about how you “totally would” and “boobs lol” comments. go repost to r/celebsnsfw or wherever and make those comments in that context if you absolutely can’t keep it in your pants.
thanks for your comment ❤️
The IT is vague and open-ended, not inherently sexual. Its inherently ambiguous and people fill in the blank with whatever is being referenced. We really don't know what IT means to the person wearing it, but you chose to make it sexual.
I assumed IT in this post was referring to murdering CEOs.
This format of tagline has been around since like the 70s. The IT is inherently sexual. Usually something like, "Diamond Cutters Do It Harder."
It's a double entendre and isn't funny without the sexual subtext.
So, unless there was a convention to redifine this joke that I didn't hear about; yeah, it's sexual. Anything else is just trying to contort common social mores to fit an agenda.
If it was a big hairy guy wearing a shirt that said "Bears Do It Better" I would also expect sexual jokes.
I don't view it as being sexual. Too many people wear this corpo slogan as if it's just "proud to be X." It could be sexual, but unless I see other things that go with being overt, fun, sexual, joking, then I can't really make the conclusion.
I'm not saying everyone should think like that, just that plenty of people can see a woman wearing "Italians do it better" and not think sex.
And I'm far from being an ace. No idea why it doesn't sound like sex to me.
I don’t know how to tell you this, but when people refer to “doing it” without any additional context, they’re talking about sex. The shirt is undeniably sexual.
The shirt doesn't say "doing it", it says "do it"
So apparently Nike is a sex thing now
I'm glad that every time I see a "girls are boring/well-adjusted, boys are quirky" meme format someone has already commented on that, but it always comes with multiple "it's just a meme dude, don't overthink it" responses.
What the fuck?
Comments like those make me glad for my instance, I very rarely see anything like them
The only thing I could think of when I saw that was worry about her own self-image... obviously won't comment trash like that unless providing context to further thoughts -
So long as she's happy or in the pursuit of her own personal happiness (even if not and just doing what she can do get through this shitty life,) whatever she looks like is none of my fucking business ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Sucks to think of the unnecessary abuse she has to put up with from day to day.
fortunately i don’t think she browses lemmy, and i’ve seen the comments under the original video from where the image was pulled—they are all much kinder.
which is good news for her but the fact there was such a big pattern here is deeply troubling.
I saw this very post just a few moments ago. Holy shit, these guys can't keep it in their pants.
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