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Democratic vice presidential candidate Tim Walz embodies everything liberal women see in their own fathers – except for their political views. For some, it makes them hopeful but also very sad.

He’s got jokes, enthusiasm and a smiley face that’s not even remotely trying to hide how he’s feeling. He’s Tim Walz- and he’s bringing major Midwestern dad energy to the Democratic ticket.

At least that’s how many white women feel when they see Walz in videos, riding the Slingshot at the state fair with his daughter, signing legislation to give kids in Minnesota free lunches or tweeting about his pet cat.

It’s in stark contrast to what some see in their own fathers - who often have more conservative political views. 

“He is silly. My dad used to be very, very silly and goofy,” Pamela Wurst Vetrini, a woman who recently compared Walz to her father, said in a viral TikTok video.

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A lot of us had moderate to conservative, educated, sensible fathers that we lost to Rush Limbaugh. That we lost to Fox News. That we lost to Donald Trump. And the cult of conservatism that has grown and grown and grown has driven a wedge between millennial woman and her father,” she said.

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[-] TheDemonBuer@lemmy.world 153 points 4 months ago

I think Tim Walz is very important, because he shows that "regular," working class, middle aged men don't HAVE to be conservative. We don't have to believe in baseless conspiracy theories, we don't have to reject scientific evidence, we don't have to divorce ourselves from reality. We don't have to believe that vaccines are evil, that climate change is a hoax, or that the 2020 election was stolen. Maybe we don't agree with everything the liberals say and do, but that doesn't mean we have to go full ding dong and start listening to Joe Rogan and Ben Shapiro. There are other options and Tim Walz is representative of at least one of those alternatives.

[-] WoahWoah@lemmy.world 80 points 4 months ago

Not to mention that he shows that you can be both masculine AND change your mind about things. Even letting your children change your mind. Shocking!

[-] vividspecter@lemm.ee 29 points 4 months ago

And being masculine while openly giving support to the less fortunate. Contrasting with the might-makes-right view that these alt-right "masculine" types subscribe to.

[-] TheDemonBuer@lemmy.world 21 points 4 months ago

That's a really important point. For some reason, many men think it's somehow a sign of weakness to be wrong about something, or to admit that someone knows more about something than you do. I think you look weak if you refuse to admit when you're wrong and double down on some ignorant position out of stubbornness.

[-] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 29 points 4 months ago

The fact that so many blue collar people are conservative when they could just as easily be liberals amazes me. Democrats are the ones who want unions, better environment, better labor rights, better working conditions, but somehow the conservatives are really good at lying and making propaganda.

[-] prole 11 points 4 months ago

"Some reason"

It's called a lack of scruples, and no conscience.

One party is actually somewhat beholden to the values it espouses, so they can't do the kind of shit the right does without losing support.

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[-] TransplantedSconie@lemm.ee 150 points 4 months ago

Had a good friend of 30 years, tell me over the phone that my kids and I should be shot because I didn't immediately feel sorry for Trump being shot at.

I told him, "This is a direct result of pushing division, guns being able to be bought with amazing ease, and it will probably happen again."

He said, "I wish the same thing that happened to Trump to happen to you and your kids." and hung up.

Friendship over. I'm not being friends with anyone who wishes my kids to be killed.

[-] fine_sandy_bottom@lemmy.federate.cc 40 points 4 months ago

Even if it's hyperbole, it's still a shitty thing to say.

[-] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 40 points 4 months ago

When someone is telling you who they are, listen.

[-] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 11 points 4 months ago

That sucks. I hope that cloud has a silver lining for you, somehow.

[-] ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net 121 points 4 months ago

I lost a few people to Fox News. Neighbors, in-laws.

Maybe lost isn't the right word. Those who tried to rebuild the relationship often start with accusations like "When will you wake up that the libs & immigrants are going to cause Armageddon?" Or some racist bullshit.

[-] expatriado@lemmy.world 33 points 4 months ago

i heard immigrant friends say that, they keep sending me links to x.com 🤦, far right media is a hardcore drug

[-] TheBat@lemmy.world 20 points 4 months ago

Send them links to xvideos.com

[-] acockworkorange@mander.xyz 8 points 4 months ago

I’ve seen that too. An immigrant saying the problem with U.S. are immigrants. I’m like “so when are you moving back?”

[-] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 16 points 4 months ago

It is loss. Grief is appropriate.

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[-] mokus 101 points 4 months ago

Walz is what I imagine my parents would be like if my parents had actually believed the moral lessons they taught me as a kid

[-] sep@lemmy.world 26 points 4 months ago

The probably did at the time. There must be something in the water, or after effects of leaded gasoline, or something.
I am from norway so I only see this slow train wreck from the sidelines, but how the heck else can that wierd clown DT have a cult of personality. It boggles the mind.

[-] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 22 points 4 months ago

Usually the refrain is "you'll get more conservative as you get older".

What they means is "... as you get more wealthy*".

* i.e. as in own their home, retire, etc.

[-] prole 9 points 4 months ago
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[-] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 9 points 4 months ago

It doesn't help that since the 1970's, we've made it nearly impossible for boomers to retire without exploiting the labor of others.

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[-] prole 12 points 4 months ago

Propaganda is a hell of a drug.

Add in a dose of fear, and baby you got a stew goin'

Turns out 9/11 REALLY broke a lot of people's brains. Bin Laden would be loving this shit, because it was probably the most effective attack on a nation-state ever.

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[-] prole 18 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

This is the thing that gets me the most... I'm like this because of you. Thanks, I guess?

Maybe they should have been sitting right next to me and paying attention to every episode of Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood, and Sesame Street like I did. Seems like they could have learned a lot.

Or I dunno, maybe I got lucky by not having a rapey children's (and later, youth) pastor who actually taught valuable lessons while the adults were being radicalized in the main sanctuary (ew, as someone who hasn't stepped into a church for anything besides weddings and funerals for 20 years or so, just typing that word feels gross).

[-] Zerlyna@lemmy.world 59 points 4 months ago

Yes!!!! I’ve already had it out with my dad who tried to diss Walz on his service record.

[-] solomon42069@lemmy.world 58 points 4 months ago

I haven't spoken to my dad since the pandemic when he rode the anti vaxxer bandwagon. He was also deeply into Trump, Putin and all that 5G spreading COVID conspiracy shit. At the time my spouse worked in hospitality and we were on the edge of our seats every day wondering if some douchebag customer would give us COVID. Eventually that's exactly what happened but of course that didn't matter to dad. I'm so tired of this extremist right wing ideology being normalised as a type of conservative - doesn't seem very family oriented to me when you beat your wife and alienate your traumatised adult kids.

[-] prole 33 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

so tired of this extremist right wing ideology being normalised as a type of conservative

The real truth that people don't like to admit is that this isn't a "type" of conservative. This is what conservatism is at its core.

It literally exists to prevent progress, it's right in the goddamn name. They sure as shit ain't conserving the environment.

It may express itself in different ways, but it's purely reactionary, and thrives on this kind of generational strife.

[-] DinosaurSr@programming.dev 11 points 4 months ago

My dad did this stuff too. My mom was going through chemo and he refused to take the smallest precautions like just wearing a mask. I don't think I'd ever been angrier in my life. I'm appalled by this kind of behavior, but maybe try to talk to him. You or your siblings (if you have any) are probably the only people who can talk him down. Also, life is short and anything can happen. Losing your father on your current terms would suck.

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[-] FirstCircle@lemmy.ml 44 points 4 months ago

It’s difficult for Vetrini to see the rhetoric espoused by right-wing media and not feel hurt. Since going viral, Vetrini has been subject to vulgar and offensive comments from people who disagree with her perspective.

“Those comments are really hard to deal with, mentally. The hardest part is my dad feels the same way as these vitriolic commenters,” she said.

But she still recognizes the qualities in her father that remind her of Walz. Those are what keep her maintaining a “complicated” relationship with him.

After her TikTok went viral, Vetrini called her dad to tell him about it – hoping to hear it from her first rather than a news show.

“He responded exactly the way I would predict he would respond. Which was to remind me that socialism will ruin America,” she said.

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[-] SuperCub@sh.itjust.works 42 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

It's amazing to see how Walz is outshining Harris as far as the media attention goes. He's so good at making the case for his positions and striking back at the right in a way that anyone can understand and embrace. Hope the campaign takes a note from Walz' policy accomplishments, because that's honestly the only thing lacking still. If they just copy paste from Walz' Minnesota populist accomplishments, you'll see them winning in a landslide.

[-] VinnyDaCat@lemmy.world 28 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Walz is what gives me hope.

Harris taking up the candidacy was great. It felt good to be listened to but the hype wore off quickly as you realized that the party itself had not changed, only the face. She's also been quietly changing her stances on some issues, shifting around center right. The Biden-Harris administration does have its own achievements but it tends to feel like the rest of the Democrat party where you're voting more so for ideals which may or may not be implemented. Walz is more than talk though and it's not like he hasn't faced some of the same hurdles that other Democrats have either.

Walz is entirely what keeps me from feeling like I'm just voting to keep Trump out right now.

[-] Deceptichum@quokk.au 22 points 4 months ago

Instead of all this garbage about 'dad energy' and whatever else PR nonsense is being pushed, why not focus on what he stands for or has tried to achieve in his career?

There's no hope for politics in America when both sides engage in this petty personality cultism.

[-] protist@mander.xyz 80 points 4 months ago

There's a ton of policy coverage re: Tim Walz. This article isn't about that, it's about a really common reality young people in the US face, where they have parents who have been brainwashed by right-wing media and who can't spend an afternoon with you without bringing up politics. I'm from a pretty conservative area and know this dynamic all too well. I think Tim Walz's personality is to be celebrated, and I don't see at all how this is "cultism" compared to what we see with MAGA

[-] ABCDE@lemmy.world 41 points 4 months ago

It mentions what he achieved. How is this cultism?

[-] TransplantedSconie@lemm.ee 13 points 4 months ago
[-] StupidBrotherInLaw@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

What we have here, friends, is a classic example of a thought-terminating cliché.

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[-] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 27 points 4 months ago

I've learned more about Tim Walz stands for in the last couple of weeks than I ever had before that, including when he was just in the running as VP. And every time I learn something knew about what he stands for, I get more impressed.

[-] VubDapple@lemmy.world 11 points 4 months ago

Attachment figures that project wholesome vibes and safety and good times (silliness) are what every mammal wants unless they have somehow repressed that fundamental instinct. Maybe get in touch with your feelings and you'd understand.

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[-] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 10 points 4 months ago

You first. I'd love to hear some more about Tim Walz outside of his voting record / legislation he helped pass in Minnesota.

[-] metaldream@sopuli.xyz 9 points 4 months ago

This isn't cultism you goofball.

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[-] aloesnapz@lemmy.world 10 points 4 months ago

He seems like a nice dude, I've met him at my uni once and he seemed cool for a politician, like genuine and not fake.

[-] mathemachristian@lemm.ee 10 points 4 months ago

Goofy dad calling in the national guard on BLM protestors. Silly goose!

[-] prole 12 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

If you actually listen to his recounting of the situation... Yeah, actually. I would say that the way he handled that was absolutely the way a (good) dad would.

Including the bit afterwards where they tell you they were wrong for the initial overreaction, but they did it out of fear for your safety.

But after actually listening to why you're mad, you talk it out and guess what? He recognizes that your anger is valid and opened a dialogue to help fix those problems.

If that's not "great dad" energy, then I dunno what is.

But let's not let actual facts get in the way of you pretending to be a progressive on the internet to make leftists look bad.

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[-] nutsack@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago

he's going to run for president in 8 years and we're going to have the old people problem again

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[-] queermunist@lemmy.ml 9 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

The deep longing so many people have for their lost fathers is really heart breaking.

Like, fuck. He's not your dad! Please stop trying to fill the hole in your heart with politicians and celebrities. Please go talk to a therapist about how your father abandoned you, or you lost him to right wing conspiracies, or how you miss him now that he's dead. Don't replace him with a guy you saw on TV! This isn't good for you and you're just going to get hurt.

[-] littlewonder@lemmy.world 31 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I mean, saying someone feels like the dad you could've had doesn't mean there's anything pathologic going on. They're just being wistful and pointing out that Walz is giving cool dad vibes.

I think you're being a bit hyperbolic by suggesting these women have literally formed a parasocial father-daughter relationship with him in 3 weeks.

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