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[-] Lustrate@lemm.ee 175 points 5 months ago

Sounds like a form of therapy in and of itself.

[-] Godnroc@lemmy.world 94 points 5 months ago

Sharing your enjoyment with others. Work you can take pride in. Preserving history. Sounds pretty great for mental health.

[-] blackjam_alex@lemmy.world 50 points 5 months ago

And probably cheaper.

[-] steal_your_face@lemmy.ml 17 points 5 months ago

I can guarantee it’s not cheaper

[-] ironhydroxide@sh.itjust.works 22 points 5 months ago

Depends on if you're in America, or a real first world country.

One won't be cheaper, the other has a high likelihood of being cheaper.

[-] QuantumStorm@lemmy.world 7 points 5 months ago

Also depends on your insurance. I pay $25 per visit, and even over a year when I went every week, I doubt it was more expensive than restoring a train lol.

[-] ironhydroxide@sh.itjust.works 13 points 5 months ago

And how much do you pay just to have that insurance? How much lower is your paycheck because your company provides insurance?

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[-] guyrocket@kbin.social 31 points 5 months ago

Yeah, I was gonna say that these men DID go to therapy.

[-] NakariLexfortaine@lemm.ee 13 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

That was my thought.

Men got themselves a hobby they enjoy, and gets to share with others. Two amazing things for someones overall mental health. Sounds like someone living the dream.

[-] BakerBagel@midwest.social 9 points 5 months ago

Yeah, most people today meed therapy because they feel isolated from their work, unappreciated, and are stressed about finances. A hobby where you work towards a common goal with no real world consequences is what most people need in their life right now. ~~~~

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[-] Zink@programming.dev 87 points 5 months ago

OR, they’ve already been through therapy and found some decent medication, and are keenly aware that personally enjoyable hobbies are an essential part of self care.

Not that I know anything about that.

throws food into back yard koi pond *

[-] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 66 points 5 months ago

Why would someone assume these people needed therapy in the first place?

[-] Neato@ttrpg.network 12 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

The vast, vast majority of men (in the US, can't speak to other cultures) need therapy. Just getting over internalized phobias is something the entire culture needs. Really, everyone needs therapy at some point and very few have a chance to get it, and fewer take it.

But in regards to this meme: men tend to need therapy more. The patriarchy (what society pushes as male "culture") heavily represses emotional expressions and few men have an outlet to talk to their friends or family about their feelings. This leads to a lot of repressed emotions, lashing out, etc.

[-] Elektrotechnik@feddit.de 41 points 5 months ago

These guys are not lashing out, though. There is no discernable connection between somebody taking an interest in trains and avoiding therapy lol

[-] Neato@ttrpg.network 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

It's impossible to tell. But my statement that pretty much everyone needs therapy, especially men, still stands.

That and it's a joke meme not a personal attack. Because often men do engage in distractions instead of dealing with their feelings. Everyone does, but men have less-encouraged avenues to pursue dealing with it. This is meant to convey that many men are disadvantaged at dealing with issues, know the solution, but still refuse to try to fix it. It's a common enough occurrence that this is a meme.

Edit: lol. Lemmy is really full of insecure men.

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[-] KISSmyOSFeddit@lemmy.world 14 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Really, everyone needs therapy at some point

What we need is a society and environment that aligns with human nature.
Yes, I'm in therapy and I take meds. But I sure as fuck didn't need any therapy and meds during the 6 months I worked as a hiking and horseback riding guide in a Provincial Park in British Columbia.

[-] Neato@ttrpg.network 6 points 5 months ago

Agreed. Most of us need therapy because we are in an aggressively hostile society. In a humane society, we'd only rarely need therapy when traumatic and rare events occurred, or similar instances.

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[-] figaro@lemdro.id 57 points 5 months ago

As a mental health worker, if a client got involved with something like this, I'd be thrilled. This sounds like it provides purpose and community to all involved. Good for them!

[+] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 28 points 5 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

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[-] figaro@lemdro.id 9 points 5 months ago

I actually agree with you in many aspects. Something new that is being taught in therapy training is that we have to be aware of systemic issues that are contributing to someone's mental health.

Example: someone is suicidal and feeling hopeless. Do they have clinical major depressive disorder? Maybe, but if we ask "how are your finances doing?" And they say they work full time at Walmart and get paid $10 per hour and have 3 kids... Yeah it makes sense why they feel helpless and suicidal.

For this reason, therapists and mental health workers have a duty to advocate for progressive social policies.

[-] InternetPerson@lemmings.world 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

It would be like if were constantly maiming and injuring people and saying the problem was not enough people going to physical therapy.

In that I kind of agree with you. Many problems can be traced back to societal issues. Hell is other people. That's why we need to do better.
Sending those, damaged by society, to therapy is necessary, but we wouldn't be there if several root causes wouldn't exist.

Like if we just took blackrock's real estate and put homeless people in it the mental health crisis would just be like 80% solved. I'm not even kidding.

Oversimplification, imo. But this is surely a contributing factor.

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[-] Sam_Bass@lemmy.world 51 points 5 months ago

That is therapy

[-] RegalPotoo@lemmy.world 39 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Doing something you enjoy ✅

Doing something with a community ✅

Doing something different to your normal routine ✅

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[-] magnetosphere@fedia.io 47 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

SO FUCKING WHAT?!?!? DO I NEED TO ASK PERMISSION TO HAVE A FUCKING HOBBY, YOUR MAJESTY??? JESUS CHRIST!!! (smashing noises and incoherent yelling from garage)

[-] gazter@aussie.zone 37 points 5 months ago

Sounds like somebody needs to go restore a train...

[-] Sotuanduso@lemm.ee 22 points 5 months ago

Men will literally pay someone to have a conversation about their feelings instead of restoring a train.

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[-] MehBlah@lemmy.world 42 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

People will bitch about anything someone else does that is therapeutic for them.

[-] Zink@programming.dev 10 points 5 months ago

Learning to not do this was an important part of my mental health journey. I’ve come to realize I was raised by some very negative people. Very nice people that I see regularly, but always looking for something to complain about rather than something to appreciate.

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[-] orcrist@lemm.ee 33 points 5 months ago

I don't know dude. Hobbies are quite different from therapy. If you were looking at something like alcohol versus therapy, that would be a more realistic comparison.

[-] KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 30 points 5 months ago

fuck you, coal fired steam boilers, and steam engines are one of the coolest, and most technologically impressive things we have ever done throughout history. Only topped by the deep space probes currently hurtling to the middle of nowhere spaceland.

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[-] CancerMancer@sh.itjust.works 30 points 5 months ago

Having a hobby and being part of a community is a very constructive, helpful, and effective way of beating back the isolation and despair that is killing so many young people.

[-] imPastaSyndrome@lemm.ee 26 points 5 months ago

Who says instead? Seems like people with their heads on right

[-] ICastFist@programming.dev 25 points 5 months ago

Sorry, they can't hear you over all the CHOOO CHOOOO MOTHERFUCKEEEEEERRRR!!!

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[-] halferect@lemmy.world 24 points 5 months ago

I think that's pretty cool, seems like a net positive for everyone, guy loves trains..guy fixes train...shares passion with community...more people love train. He wins, train wins, community wins.

[-] theneverfox@pawb.social 22 points 5 months ago

No one wants to work, which is clearly a human trait despite the fact we do work like this constantly, across the board, for fun

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[-] fox2263@lemmy.world 21 points 5 months ago

It is what it is

[-] RampageDon@lemmy.world 14 points 5 months ago

Is this a reference from another post today?

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[-] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 21 points 5 months ago

What a weird fuckin take

[-] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 14 points 5 months ago

Yeah, like you could say the exact same thing about gardening or painting or knitting. Taking up a hobby and learning how to do something can be really relaxing and beneficial to your mental health. Gender has nothing to do with it.

[-] account_93@lemm.ee 16 points 5 months ago

It also preserves History.

[-] TheControlled@lemmy.world 14 points 5 months ago

This format seems to always frame therapy as shitty, and the other thing as actually really cool, if complicated.

I doubt it's intentional, but seems anti men's mental health. And honestly, that situation is so fucked up beyond measure, that micro-aggressions like this meme format is really hurting the cause. My two cents.

Funny meme though.

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[-] ThrowawayPermanente@sh.itjust.works 14 points 5 months ago

Everyone who does thing different from me literally has the emotional maturity of a toddler.

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[-] QuantumStorm@lemmy.world 13 points 5 months ago

I make off decently with how much my company pays for insurance. Would I rather have full universal health care though? You bet your ass

[-] RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 12 points 5 months ago

I'm not following. Why is it being assumed this is to avoid therapy, and not just people doing an activity for fun?

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[-] alekwithak@lemmy.world 10 points 5 months ago

It's a meme, guys.

[+] Mikufan@ani.social 8 points 5 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

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[-] HootinNHollerin@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago

And get more out of it too

[-] kibiz0r@midwest.social 6 points 5 months ago

Just gonna link this, for the oblivious among us: https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/instead-of-going-to-therapy

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