You can't do anything if you take all the crazy people on the street in consideration

Hmm... There was a comic about women and serial killers that got me started thinking about this but...

Do you think both genders are being sold on extremes of the other that might be skewing our ability to interact rationally?

Like women being sold extremes of men abusiveness and cults and rapists and men on stingy or "slutty" women. And now both genders are spending less time with each other and more with internalized extreme versions of each other?

It's like maybe a symptom of a lack of social spaces or maybe just leads to less of them as people only feel comfortable in closed groups. I'm thinking we are all being taken for a ride.
Or people are way worse than I can consider.

Maybe don’t constantly listen what media says? Otherwise u will end up paranoid.

This seems more like an indictment of media than of patriarchy. Listening to too much True Crime will rot your brain

For the men being dramatic in the comments, think about this: if your reaction to women saying they have a reason to be afraid is to take your dating ball and go home, whine and complain about women being afraid of you because if your gender, blame women for listening to reports of crime, or otherwise do anything but listen and expand your empathy, you are a big part of the reason women have to be cautious. Thank you for proving their point.

The mall thing actually happened?

Shit is scary out there. Had a situation recently that definitely reinforced how spooky it is being a woman in public.

So I'm chilling with crew at bar, came out to catch a homie mixing originals. One of our friends is a cutie. She's with 3 of us fellas, we're in a booth, very obviously a group that came here together. One of the regulars kicks it with us for a bit, harmless banter, classic bar chat shit.

Anyways, he ends up chilling for a bit, cracking jokes, having fun, says his homie owns the bar, etc, he gets a bit flirty (again, felt fully harmless at the time), goes to fetch us a round of brew. She only wanted a water by this stage in the night. When she finally gets around to taking a small sip all her internal alarm bells go off, thinks sum'm tastes off.

Anyways we manage to pick up the vibe and dip before anything extra sketch went down and had a lil debrief, made sure everyone was ok etc... One of my dudes had also taken a decent gulp first and seemingly got pretty woozy off it. Now, I can't for sure confirm whether it was truly laced or just shitty dirty bar hose water and a mild panic attack. Can't say whether homie was chemically woozy or placebo woozy (very well could've been tired from long day and lots of brew + dancing), but either way, enough to be a scary situation! We're like 95% sure shit was sketchy.

Absolutely worth trusting the gut when you get an off feeling. Better safe than sorry, all that. As a dude, I've NEVER needed to think twice about a gift beverage at a bar. I circle lots of music scenes and almost every single time I'm out I'll catch a random free drink, smoke, lol candy or whatever off a stranger randomly offering. I've definitely asked to confirm what these gifts are, but generally felt safe enough to take their answers at face value.

Ladies DEFINITELY can't be as cavalier about gifts from strangers though... That's how they end up the subject of these crime podcasts.

Idk, felt like a relevant story to share.

Stay safe, stay frosty, y'all ❤️ Good weekends all around!

There are plenty, if not most, good and decent men out there who are respectful and treat not only women well but everyone around them. but they dont end up in the news or even being mentioned. They dont get talked about or even remembered.

Sure some men are terrible but IMO and experience, i wouldn't blame it on their gender. Its more a personality thing

I'm kind of proud of our team of guys at work. We have had a couple of women work with us in the past but its rare. The dudes at work dont shout comments, dont wolf whistle, dont harass women. I dont understand why its so hard for others not to be complete morons. In fact one or two have called out the behaviour of others.

Isn't this just fear-mongering? This comic implies that every single time that someone rejects a man that man is going to do something bad. I'm not going to deny the fact that there are men that are unhinged but this is nothing but a man-hating comic.

When I was still with my last partner, we were open: she was dating as was I.

She DID do the, "hey, you're nice but I'm just not feeling it" to a couple people she met and they were absolutely shitty about it. If it wasn't a comment about her being a "stuck up bitch" it was something else. A couple harassed her via text for days afterwords before she blocked them. This was probably half the people she met.

Nowadays if I meet a woman I totally get if they don't want to connect outside of an app before meeting and I don't think they're (necessarily) assholes if I get ghosted. People's behavior has made this sort of thing necessary so I try not to take it personally.

So yeah, all you saying this doesn't happen... hate to be this guy, but it totally happens. Listen to women every once in a while

I want to remind people of a different advice that similarly gets people into bad situations:

"The worst that can happen, is they say no. Go shoot your shot"

Yeah, that's the worst that you think may happen. The worst that can happen is you misjudged the situation and now you're making someone fear for their safety, and you're a horrible creep in the eyes of anyone they talk to. You may get into trouble with your employer, friends, family, you really don't know. And you only have yourself to blame. And don't underestimate the effects of shame (as in: feeling guilty about something bad you did)

I'm not saying flirting is never permissible, but you should set boundaries based on the perspective of the other as well. The advice "worst case, they say no" is not at all asking the question how the other would feel being approached in this way. They may have more to lose than you do

The media cherrypicks for max drama. Your fear is their feast. So you might want to take what they say with a grain of salt.

You are 10000x more likely to get hit by a car than bludgeoned by an incel.

If I'm ever single again, I'm not dating anymore. I'm done with this shit.

Well this subs gone down hill real quick when the male haters start coming out the woodwork. Yo everyone most people aren't like this...most men aren't like this. Woman are as capable as men to do fucked up shit in relationships. Time to leave this sub.

If your reaction to "Men can be threatening to women." Is "Wow all men are murderers I guess we can't talk to them anymore thanks feminism." You're probably a little too emotional for internet access.

Never approach a woman under any circumstances lest you run the risk of unintentionally making her fear for her life, gotcha. Just ignore women unless they approach you first. They're scared of you because you're a member of the dangerous sex, and that's just all there is to it.

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Seems reasonable, yes, men are more likely to be aggressive / dangerous.

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...anyone wanna make a purplepilldebate community?

When their research to find that one "This strategy is guaranteed to get you a date!" Doesn't play out the way it's promised