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Am I being rude for asking to not be called "bro"?
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No, your friend is in the wrong. I use dude and bro a lot, and for everyone. I use it irregardless of gender. HOWEVER, I also respect others. If someone is uncomfortable with how I am referring to them, I accommodate. Because it costs me nearly nothing to change the way I talk, and I likely would be having a harmful impact on whoever I am talking with if I don't respect their boundaries. This is particularly the case for trans folk, cause refusing to accommodate only worsens the impact of gender dysphoria.
The only time I have ever given pushback is when someone tells me not to use the word "queer." I am queer, and I identify as gender-queer, and I will not censor my identity.
Someone told you not to use "queer"‽ That's absurd. It's been reclaimed now. I am queer :3
That reminds me: this person also thinks Billy Joe Armstrong (who is bi) should be cancelled for saying the f-slur. Like, what‽
I mean despite it being reclaimed, I still feel like theres a noticable caution around it. Like it is almost never used by anyone outside the queer community and mostly used by younger queers, and generally LGBT (and its variants) is more commonly used. To me that signals that queer's history still lingers, and I think thats particularly the case for older queer folk who had to deal with it as a slur for longer.
To be fair though, this is all anecdotal