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submitted 1 week ago by strawberry_enjoyer42 to c/trans

Someone I live with insists on calling me "bro" and "dude", despite my repeated pleas for cessation, citing ideolect as a defence.

I get that "bro" and "dude" are part of their vocabulary, but it hurts. Am I in the wrong here?

P.S. Is this the right community for this kind of question?

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[-] Comrade_Spood@quokk.au 0 points 1 week ago

I mean despite it being reclaimed, I still feel like theres a noticable caution around it. Like it is almost never used by anyone outside the queer community and mostly used by younger queers, and generally LGBT (and its variants) is more commonly used. To me that signals that queer's history still lingers, and I think thats particularly the case for older queer folk who had to deal with it as a slur for longer.

To be fair though, this is all anecdotal

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