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Where is the line between laughing with trans and laughing at them? (self.mtf)
submitted 6 days ago by LilyVess to c/mtf
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I don't know if this is the right place to ask this, I apologize if it isn't.

Lately (as in a few years), I have been noticing a higher amount of "jokes" directed at trans (girls specially) in the line of "yes, a girl, but with an extra queue the laughs" and I don't really know if I'm personally just too sensitive and tired of these things or if is a more generalized sentiment.

I mean, those are things you could say to your trans friend when you're pretty close and both parts are on the same understanding that it's a joke, but just watching some video that has nothing to do with the theme and randomly getting the insert slur here (in Spanish there are many to choose from) is surprisingly tiresome.

Of course the moment you say "that's like a slur tbh" the "counter argument" is "it's a joke" and then I don't know what to say. Am I just too tired of the same "joke" or should I call it out? How do you see this "joke", "trend", whatever?

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[-] applebusch 12 points 6 days ago

thats a pretty shitty joke and makes us the punchline. it's basically "trans women exist haha". my existence isn't a joke. also it's false because many trans women get bottom surgery, and have genitals that would be difficult for a doctor to differentiate from a cis woman without a detailed inspection. so on the one hand they're invoking "dude in a dress haha", and on the other perpetuating a stereotypical falsehood about us.

[-] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

also it’s false because many trans women get bottom surgery, and have genitals that would be difficult for a doctor to differentiate from a cis woman without a detailed inspection. so on the one hand they’re invoking “dude in a dress haha”

I thought the joke was try trans women have to transition to women, which still implies they were ever the gender that others assumed they were at birth and is something many feel like never actually applied. Not sure how it suggests the "man in a dress" idea? I can't recall seeing such a "joke" in the wild though.

Edit: I thought “yes, a girl, but with an extra queue" was the joke. Just realized "queue" is part of "queue the laugh." So ignore what I said.

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