[-] applebusch 2 points 49 minutes ago

i dont know what specific points they defend men on, but i know for me i lived as a man for over 30 years so i have some thoughts and feelings on the pressures and toxic culture men are subject to. its true that there are a lot of shitty men in the world, but it's also true that many men have been essentially abandoned by society. they aren't rich, successful, handsome, masculine, or whatever enough so they are essentially treated as worthless. they get no emotional support or connection from anyone, and no one gives a shit about their struggles and problems. as always shitty men coopt these real issues to argue that they should be able to be even more shitty, but men face real serious problems in society that end up shuttling tons of them into the manosphere, making things worse for everyone. i would never defend anyone for being shitty, regardless of gender, but writing off all men on the basis of their gender is wrong, and only serves to reinforce the societal problems driving many of them to be shitty in the first place.

[-] applebusch 5 points 1 hour ago

one of the best things you can do for your bones and joints is lifting weights. you dont have to feel old in your 30s, thats a choice you're making trying to live like your body doesn't require maintenance.

[-] applebusch 2 points 1 hour ago

so fucking what? they dont need an excuse to ruin everything. let him be a martyr, and the next one and the next one until they get the fucking message.

[-] applebusch 2 points 1 hour ago

yes it has become the feminine ideal i strive to achieve, and also i want to date a girl like that

[-] applebusch 14 points 1 day ago

i look up at the stars and realize how far away they are and im just a tiny monkey naked on a tiny rock in space and the universe so fucking huge i get scared ill just float up into the sky and be lost forever

this is called casadastraphobia

[-] applebusch 26 points 1 day ago

if only it had been that simple...

[-] applebusch 27 points 1 day ago

the fairness argument is a bullshit excuse for bigotry and it always has been. it has been debunked in scientific studies, and trans women don't even do that well. it's not like we're actually dominating any women's sports. these facts have done nothing to convince transphobes they are wrong because they have only ever argued in bad faith. their position is bigotry and hate, so no argument based in logic will ever convince them.

[-] applebusch 5 points 1 day ago

heh, you haven't even seen my full power

removes glasses

trips

[-] applebusch 4 points 1 day ago

many of them were willing to kill their own children, and even themselves, to briefly avoid that mild discomfort

[-] applebusch 6 points 1 day ago

cats are a lesson in consent, and that puppy just got out of class

[-] applebusch 9 points 1 day ago

honestly the emotional safety and total understanding and acceptance has always been the appeal of selfcest to me. id fuck me.

[-] applebusch 6 points 1 day ago

that's the plan...

82
submitted 3 weeks ago by applebusch to c/showerthoughts@lemmy.world
71
Learning New Things (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 month ago by applebusch to c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world
26
submitted 1 month ago by applebusch to c/mtf

I haven't noticed much so far but today I had some ketchup for the first time in a while and it tasted amazing, like just normal ketchup was so good I could eat it by itself. I really hope my tastes on more things change. I've heard some people start liking coffee. I hope I get that because I always loved the smell but hated the taste.

29
submitted 1 month ago by applebusch to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

Think of it as a radical body modification. Suppose someone wasn't really a fan of having hair at all and wanted to just not. Most of the scientific research on hair loss has been about stopping or reversing it, but in all that research have we learned whether we could cause it to happen on purpose? I don't mean conventional hair removal, and I don't mean laser or electrolysis which both have significant limitations and wouldn't be feasible for total hair loss on the entire body.

I mean like a vaccine for hair, an injection someone could take that would cause their immune system to attack all their hair follicles in the same way we see in alopecia universalis, so they have literally no hair at all anywhere on their body permanently. It feels like it should be possible, especially now with the increasing use of mRNA vaccines.

42
submitted 1 month ago by applebusch to c/mtf

I found a fun website where you can generate a custom pride flag! It has lots of gender/sexuality options and you can even do custom colors. Mine is transfeminine as the primary, with aromantic and bi-lesbian (which I had to do custom).

https://www.teamultima.org/flag/

48
submitted 1 month ago by applebusch to c/mtf

I myself experience sexual attraction to both masculine and feminine people, leaning strongly toward feminine, but I have a hard time imagining myself being with a binary man. It feels a bit awkward to identify as a bi woman sometimes because my sexual attraction for men just kind of exists, yet I don't feel entirely comfortable identifying as a lesbian for the same reason. I just learned about the bi-lesbian flag/identity and it feels more right to me because I don't want to erase by bisexuality, even if I never choose to act on my sexual attraction to men. Curious what others think.

29
submitted 2 months ago by applebusch to c/autism@lemmy.world

For context I have audhd. I've always been confused about the association between stacking toys and autism. I don't particularly remember stacking toys as a kid other than of course I did because I was a kid. Don't lots of kids try to stack stuff as high as possible occasionally? Why is this seen as an autistic trait? Is it a stereotype due to the historical bias towards autistic boys with a particular presentation or something else? If it really is associated with autism and not a bias, why do autistic kids do it more?

38
submitted 3 months ago by applebusch to c/autism@lemmy.world

Hey y'all. Just wanted to vent a bit. I've been feeling really down lately, mostly because lately it feels like no matter what I do or how hard I try I can't seem to make people understand me. It doesn't really seem to matter if I'm talking to another neurodivergent person or not, people just assume they know what I'm saying and run with it. It just keeps happening and it's been creating more and more conflict at work, with my friends, with random people I have to deal with day to day. I feel so much like a fucking alien lately, like I'm speaking some language that no one around me understands but thinks they do. I had a meltdown the other day at a work friend who just could not stop for half a second to listen to what I was saying. I don't know if it's something I'm doing, I'm sure people will read this and assume that it is. At this point it doesn't even matter it just feels so pointless to even try. I want to cry with how badly I want someone to just listen to what I'm saying and try to actually understand. Like literally that's all I want, but it never seems to happen these days. I feel like it's going to cost me my job and friends. I feel like I'm going to lose everything and have to start my life over again somewhere else. I see how this is really a me problem. It's not fair but the burden is on me to make people understand what I'm saying. I see how my lack of energy and motivation to do so is making it impossible for me. I want to put forth the effort but I just have nothing left. I fucking hate myself for that, even knowing it's not really my fault. Thanks for reading if you got this far. This was stream of consciousness.

142
My Dumb Ass (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 3 months ago by applebusch to c/femcelmemes
181
Yurinus (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 3 months ago by applebusch to c/femcelmemes
44
submitted 3 months ago by applebusch to c/mtf

I'm in my early 30s, been on HRT for a few months now (boobs growing yay), and I work with another trans woman, late 20s fully transitioned years ago. We work together and have hung out outside work several times, and I can't escape the fact that I'm getting feelings for her. This has been building for me for the past couple years, but we've worked together for at least 3. The situation is complicated because we work together and I don't want to do anything to compromise our working relationship/friendship, which has been really good. She's also married (her wife is a trans woman), poly, and ace. I love being around her and talking to her. I want to get to know her better and be physically affectionate with one another. Sex is pretty much off the table and not something I seem to want from her anyway. Mostly I just want to hold her and tell her how much she means to me. There's a part of me that really wants to tell her how I feel about her, but there's a much larger part that doesn't. I'm terrified of learning that my feelings are unwelcome, that just expressing my feelings will end our relationship. So far I haven't said anything, or even hinted anything, but it hurts so much to want to be closer and to hold myself back from taking a chance. I know that this is probably the worst time in my life to try, having only started transitioning a few months ago and only recently being finally done with a (messy) previous relationship. I just don't know if I can carry on with things the way they are. Obviously the answer is to enjoy being friends with this woman I care so much about. Maybe something will change in the future. Maybe nothing will. Either would be better than losing her now. But knowing that doesn't really change how I feel...

Idk what I'm expecting to get out of posting this. I guess I just wanted someone to listen. I don't really have anyone in my life right now who I think would understand. Thanks for reading. Happy to hear any thoughts y'all would like to share.

49
submitted 4 months ago by applebusch to c/mtf
view more: next ›

applebusch

joined 2 years ago