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Holy fuck, you're still going on with this?
Might I suggest a therapist? Because this is not a healthy reaction to something that doesn't affect you whatsoever. What other people do in their own relationships has zero effect on you. And if it does, if what people call each other in their relationships offends you, that's 100% a you problem. Your need to shoehorn yourself into someone elses life because you are uncomfortable about something has literally nothing to do with anyone but you.
YOUR PREFERENCE! YOURS! Not someone elses. Not anyone elses. YOURS. Just stop right there. No one is forcing you or any partner to call you Daddy. No one is suggesting you have to use it. The alphabet mafia is not putting a gun to your head. But your continued ranting about this and how it affects you, you should really seek some professional help.
You are in fact being misogynistic. You're telling women what they are or aren't allowed to say because it makes YOU uncomfortable. Not your partners, not anyone consenting in any kind of language, you're literally saying women using it is wrong.
That's misogynistic.
It's not your job to tell others what they can and can't use. My partner calls me "puppy". Do you think they actually think I'm a dog they want to fuck? You're not misogynistic for talking about it, expressing how it makes you feel, and the trauma with your friend. It's misogynistic that you are going on tangents telling people that they shouldn't use it because it makes you uncomfortable, which apparently your feelings are more important than anyone elses.
You're 100% in your right to not want it used around you. That's completely fine and acceptable. But you can't come onto the Internet and tell people not to use it, actively INSERTING yourself into the language just so you can be offended by it. You can leave the thread. You can block users. You can just LEAVE. But you are intentionally inserting yourself into this just to tell others that it hurts your feelings.