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when & how did you discover you were gay?
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When I discovered I was trans. Because I didn't stop being attracted to women.
did you have any inkling or awareness of feeling like your attraction to women was "same-sex" before you properly discovered you were trans, or was this really the first time it came to your attention?
So, I always came out with the line: "I'm actually a hot lesbian trapped in the body of a lumberjack" as a sort of joke (or so I thought). I also pretty much only had bisexual girlfriends, which I put down to being more politically left leaning and not particularly masculine.
I have always had a sort of disconnect when it came to exclusively hetro women. I always saw them as "not for me, definitely not interested in me". When they actually took the initiative, they seemed to expect me to behave in a way that I wasn't at all comfortable with. I just put it down to being weird and awkward.
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you could very well be writing about me rn
That's very validating, thanks <3
Fucking saaaame. I told that joke about being a lesbian trapped in a mans body before I even had an inkling of being trans. I also only ever dated bi women. I didn't plan on it or specifically seek them out, but straight women never really did it for me. There was always something missing that I could never put my finger on, even if I was really attracted to them aesthetically. What really fucked me up before I cracked my egg was I was always really into lesbians and found myself vibing with them really easily, even if I didn't know they were lesbians. It always made me sad that I couldn't date them because they were always the hottest and most interesting women to me.