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a lot of people don't wanna have this discussion because at face value it reads too much like saying being trans is a mental illness but
the #1 predictor of the development of a cluster b personality disorder (such as borderline, which is famous for this kind of behavior) is a consistently inconsistent pattern of emotional invalidation throughout early and middle childhood. So there are times where mom / dad / primary caregiver said "oh no! that's terrible. Here's how I deal with being upset by that" but there were other times they were like "no that's dumb and weird nobody normal feels like that you should just stop feeling that way." and that pattern continues on-and-off some things being validated some things not being validated over that extended period.
...and that basically just describes the experience of being being raised in a social environment that's hostile to their lived experiences as a trans child. That plus all the community elders getting picked off by AIDS means there's limited healthy emotional adjustment within the lgbt subculture as well.
TLDR - no shit they all act fucking feral there's a massive shortage of healthy and supportive social structures.
Tbf, I don't think cishet society is that healthy rn either. So much reactionary bs is fueled by that
no but the above is what I tell my coworkers when they ask why so many of our trans patients act cluster b AF. It's partly because our sample, being inpatient, is gonna have a higher incidence overall, but it's also because that constellation of behaviors is caused by a very specific type of relatively lowkey but super chronic trauma that's unfortunately common for that population to be exposed to.
Honestly though the DSM and all the diagnoses in it is one of the most harmful things to have ever happened. Especially the lies and misunderstandings it promotes.
There's also a lot of 'therapy' types which aren't at all helpful. The most commonly promoted and attempted to be used is CBT which looks to solve symptoms, not underlying root causes by reframing them.
A lot of modern therapy isn't all that great at understanding individuals (or plural groups), really getting to the core of their problems and not treating them just like a littany of problems, all thanks to the DSM, even the therapist we see agrees, she thinks it would be better if we burned the DSM.
Sadly we think it'll be a while before a lot of therapy given to folks is actually any good or useful and has caused so much harm in the process because it really isn't built for purpose and based on foundational lies and misunderstandings.
I don't think cock and ball torture would solve my mental anguish either...
What about Computer Based Training?
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.