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I quite liked him! Otherwise we wouldn't have gotten to the cuddling part on the first date, haha. I try to not date cis men these days but he got through, somehow. We had a good conversation on a dating app (tinder of all places, lol) and the date was great. He's smart, considerate, has a very interesting job (he invents and sells game show concepts, quite successfully) and did not ask or talk about me being trans at all. He has lots of friends and is just looking for someone to do couple coded things like cuddling and short romantic trips with, which is exactly what I'm looking for as well. He's also not strictly monogamous which I consider a plus because I don't think I want a strictly monogamous romantic relationship right now. We had some wine in a very classy bar (his treat) and I invited him to my place because I felt like some warmth. He recognised the pictures of Grace Kelly and Liz Taylor on my wall, which I thought was very cool.
The only negative really is that I think he's not that attractive physically, sadly. But everything else is a great fit so I'll see where it goes or if I lose interest. There'll definitely be a second date! If he doesn't ghost me, which has happened before after great dates lol, but that's just online dating.
it's not my business, but does he know you're trans? If you're just going on the assumption that "everyone can tell", just know that sometimes people indeed do not realize (even if you think it's blindingly obvious), and unless you have explicitly disclosed your trans status, he may not be aware.
(Not to add stress or anything - so glad you had a lovely date, you go girl!)
Yeah he knows, it's in my profile and I've offhandedly mentioned it once or twice. He just doesn't care which is great for a change. I think it'd make me nervous and uncomfortable to not disclose that beforehand.
Nice that y'all are on the same page for many issues. Most shocking thing for me is hearing folks are still using ~~Twitter~~ Tinder for serious dating in 2025! It's not just for nsa hooking up? ๐
*Tinder
๐คฆโโ๏ธ dumb brain fart ๐ฅด
Easy mistake to make ๐
I feel like it's had kind of a renaissance, at least around people I know. I know several people who have found their long-term partner there in the last two years. I think it might just be that there's still just the biggest user base there. But yeah, most people there aren't what I'm looking for, haha. I'd say I swipe right on maybe 2% of profiles.