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Distraction is the cure.
Dont listen to me and you will continue your shit life: in the evening at the end of your day, put in your overpriced AirPods that you didn't need to buy, and then go take a fucking light jog for 30 mins in only one direction, and then turn around and jog back.
Arrive home, take a warm shower and then turn off your fucking phone and go to sleep. DO NOT GO ON SOCIAL MEDIA. DO NOT READ THE NEWS.
Wake up, go to work, and do the same shit again. Repeat for 14 days and reply back to me.
This is not a request. Shut the fuck up and just go do it.
Eh I mean immediately jumping into 60 mins of running every single day is like the recipe for a TMTS injury. Doing a gradual progression is probably better. Assuming OP has safe streets to run and even likes running.
I agree that exercise can be great though. Something to do, endorphins, health benefits, something to track improvement in over time, and so on. Diving into it can be super super grounding in times like these, although I know how cliché it is to suggest and how disheartening and even condescending it can feel. Like “oh you aren’t happy in your capitalist hellscape? Have you tried taking on even more work? Have you considered that you just don’t have the right attitude or aren’t doing the right things to earn happiness?”
At least that’s how it always felt to me when I was in this darkness, and would hear people who were so much better off than me suggest such totally asinine things as taking up running or baking bread.
But these pursuits are actually the most potent act of rebellion you can take against this system that’s fucking us. It is NOT a coincidence that we get home from work feeling run down, like we’ve spun our wheels another day for nothing, like we need some type of release. That release is then sold to us for any amount of money we happen to have; maybe booze, maybe electronics, maybe junk food, you name it. These types of releases are not rejuvenating and you just string yourself along until you next clock in.
The leeches in power want you on this merry go round for the rest of your days. So screw them all.
Devote yourself to some physical hobby they can’t charge you for. Running is an all time classic, I endorse resistance training as well (check out Hybrid Calisthenics on youtube for great progressions you can do with no/minimal equipment if gym access is an issue).
I know it still sounds cringe lol. There’s really no convincing way to get the message across with words. Wishing you all the best OP
I've got a pushup board I've been neglecting, but I weigh too much atm and can barely do 5 pushups at this point. Wallups are doable, I've just been slacking since I had a giant crash out earlier in the year that caused me to start smoking again. As far as running, eh... I can do it, but not for very long. Weight + smoking + probably undiagnosed asthma as my lungs get cold and hurt when I run too much. Been like that since I was little.
5 pushups is actually very good! I lost >100 lbs myself, it took me more than a year just to do one pushup haha.
But yeah if you’re concerned about running at your current size, then walking is certainly going to be great exercise. Same idea as above with easing into it. Do maybe 5 mins every other day. After a week, ten minutes. Then 15. It feels like shockingly little at first, but it’s also shockingly attainable, and before you know it you’ve constructed an amazing habit.
Even if walking in particular is not your thing, the same strategy works for whatever strikes your fancy. Five pushups this week, then six. Smoke one less daily cigarette each week. It’s how mountains are built
I don't mind walking. It's how I get to work and I never sit down until I get back home (don't really have the chance to). So, I'm slowly getting in better shape with the fasting and minor cardio. Running definitely isn't something I like doing atm (have to occasionally sprint to beat oncoming traffic because there are no crosswalk signals). As an aside, I've been fasting since July-ish. I went from a 44" waist to a 40" and dropped to 2XL from 3XL in shirts.
Oh right! Sorry yeah, you did talk about the waking already haha. Apologies, been an eventful couple of days.
But honestly it sounds like you’re doing well in that regard! Congrats on the success so far.
Totally random suggestion but there’s this thing called “rope flow” you might enjoy?
It’s somewhat similar to jump rope, but you swing a slightly heavier rope around in like a figure 8 pattern, as well as a side to side motion called a dragon roll. Your feet don’t leave the ground, at least not until you decide to try some tricks, so the whole thing is very gentle on your body.
I tried it recently, it’s surprisingly fun and tricky. It’s a very open ended way to set some goals, too. Either going for time, learning tricks, transitioning between moves a certain number of times, and so on.
Main thing is you just want to find something intriguing and enjoyable that you can then progress in (as far as my personal theory of developing a passion for exercise goes, which is not like a universally agreed on truth or anything haha. Just what has helped me and what I’ve seen uplift other people. I spend a great deal of time introducing people to different movements, and I’ve found if they are laughing and having fun the likelihood of sticking with it increases about a hundredfold)
I never said anywhere in my comment anything about running. Where did you get the implication?
Are you feeling alright at the moment friend?
How can you suggest you never mentioned running when your comment literally explicitly consists of advice to go running?
Oops, I meant to say jog back.
This whole exchange has left me quite flabbergasted honestly. The definition of jog is simply to run
What's the difference between a light jog and a slow run?
https://www.asics.com/gb/en-gb/running-advice/running-vs-jogging-differences
Thank you!
Would you prefer if I replied to this question or responded to it?
Both.
Sorry, I keep asking people whether they are running or jogging but they’re too far away by the time they answer
Not an answer. I see what you're doing now. Go troll somewhere else.
Are you sure? I’ve just had the idea of asking someone on a treadmill, so we can have a proper conversation
Can you please elucidate what the fuck you are trying to say in plain simple English? I'm dumb and need to understand what your point is supposed to be.
So I went ahead and conducted the interviews. Most people were pretty incredulous with me, one guy just said “go try to jog without running and see what happens” then put his headphones back in. Not sure what to make of it all
Sounds like the interviews went well. After you do those jogs for a couple weeks, next up is seeking a therapist. It's to help you overcome a mental rut. Sounds like something you desperately need to start doing immediately after reading this comment.
With the therapist, should I prioritize my health or should I prioritize my well being?
Sounds like you need to start with both simultaneously. It's almost like you, specifically, cant do one step at-a-time.
Sorry, after all this time are you now changing your recommendation to walking? Or am I reading that wrong?
Since I wasn't addressing OP, I was addressing you, I have not changed any recommendation.
You should learn some reading comprehension and compartmentalize your conversations.
In order to comprehend the words, do I need to look at them? Or can I get away with just seeing them?
You are being nonsensical and unhelpful in here. What is the fucking point of your line of questioning? You sound toxic and need to seek help elsewhere.
What is nonsensical about my line of questioning? Making a big deal out of pretending two synonyms are completely different? What about that is ridiculous?
You tell me.
What is the difference between telling and saying?
Sounds like you are about to tell me the answer? Or are you going to say the answer?
Perhaps I will merely allow the answer to be inferred!
Again, what is the point of your trolling here? You are saying dumb things in a thread where someone is begging for help, and you're here saying this kind of stupid shit, wasting your own time when you could also be out exercising.
Please go get help, you are not capable of even being a good troll. I get amusement replying to your idiotic shit and lose nothing from this exchange and and go on forever.
What? I never said anything about exercising. Where did that come from?
It came literally from me and you began to criticize it in the absolutely most confounding way imaginable with another idiot on the internet. You seriously should consider legit therapy. This is not a joke. Go get seen ASAP for your own good!
Should I run or jog to the therapist?
Which one do you think will work best with your unemployed schedule?
Does replying make one seem jobless, oh ye who has sworn to keep replying forever?
No, not necessarily, but you sure a fuck sound like you are currently not holding any value to society at the moment.
Are your unkind words in these last few messages really about me, would you say?