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5 pushups is actually very good! I lost >100 lbs myself, it took me more than a year just to do one pushup haha.
But yeah if you’re concerned about running at your current size, then walking is certainly going to be great exercise. Same idea as above with easing into it. Do maybe 5 mins every other day. After a week, ten minutes. Then 15. It feels like shockingly little at first, but it’s also shockingly attainable, and before you know it you’ve constructed an amazing habit.
Even if walking in particular is not your thing, the same strategy works for whatever strikes your fancy. Five pushups this week, then six. Smoke one less daily cigarette each week. It’s how mountains are built
I don't mind walking. It's how I get to work and I never sit down until I get back home (don't really have the chance to). So, I'm slowly getting in better shape with the fasting and minor cardio. Running definitely isn't something I like doing atm (have to occasionally sprint to beat oncoming traffic because there are no crosswalk signals). As an aside, I've been fasting since July-ish. I went from a 44" waist to a 40" and dropped to 2XL from 3XL in shirts.
Oh right! Sorry yeah, you did talk about the waking already haha. Apologies, been an eventful couple of days.
But honestly it sounds like you’re doing well in that regard! Congrats on the success so far.
Totally random suggestion but there’s this thing called “rope flow” you might enjoy?
It’s somewhat similar to jump rope, but you swing a slightly heavier rope around in like a figure 8 pattern, as well as a side to side motion called a dragon roll. Your feet don’t leave the ground, at least not until you decide to try some tricks, so the whole thing is very gentle on your body.
I tried it recently, it’s surprisingly fun and tricky. It’s a very open ended way to set some goals, too. Either going for time, learning tricks, transitioning between moves a certain number of times, and so on.
Main thing is you just want to find something intriguing and enjoyable that you can then progress in (as far as my personal theory of developing a passion for exercise goes, which is not like a universally agreed on truth or anything haha. Just what has helped me and what I’ve seen uplift other people. I spend a great deal of time introducing people to different movements, and I’ve found if they are laughing and having fun the likelihood of sticking with it increases about a hundredfold)