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So I went ahead and conducted the interviews. Most people were pretty incredulous with me, one guy just said “go try to jog without running and see what happens” then put his headphones back in. Not sure what to make of it all
Sounds like the interviews went well. After you do those jogs for a couple weeks, next up is seeking a therapist. It's to help you overcome a mental rut. Sounds like something you desperately need to start doing immediately after reading this comment.
With the therapist, should I prioritize my health or should I prioritize my well being?
Sounds like you need to start with both simultaneously. It's almost like you, specifically, cant do one step at-a-time.
Sorry, after all this time are you now changing your recommendation to walking? Or am I reading that wrong?
Since I wasn't addressing OP, I was addressing you, I have not changed any recommendation.
You should learn some reading comprehension and compartmentalize your conversations.
In order to comprehend the words, do I need to look at them? Or can I get away with just seeing them?
You are being nonsensical and unhelpful in here. What is the fucking point of your line of questioning? You sound toxic and need to seek help elsewhere.
What is nonsensical about my line of questioning? Making a big deal out of pretending two synonyms are completely different? What about that is ridiculous?
You tell me.
What is the difference between telling and saying?
Sounds like you are about to tell me the answer? Or are you going to say the answer?
Perhaps I will merely allow the answer to be inferred!
Again, what is the point of your trolling here? You are saying dumb things in a thread where someone is begging for help, and you're here saying this kind of stupid shit, wasting your own time when you could also be out exercising.
Please go get help, you are not capable of even being a good troll. I get amusement replying to your idiotic shit and lose nothing from this exchange and and go on forever.
What? I never said anything about exercising. Where did that come from?
It came literally from me and you began to criticize it in the absolutely most confounding way imaginable with another idiot on the internet. You seriously should consider legit therapy. This is not a joke. Go get seen ASAP for your own good!
Should I run or jog to the therapist?
Which one do you think will work best with your unemployed schedule?
Does replying make one seem jobless, oh ye who has sworn to keep replying forever?
No, not necessarily, but you sure a fuck sound like you are currently not holding any value to society at the moment.
Are your unkind words in these last few messages really about me, would you say?
No, it was about the idea of you, but I cant say, only tell. Why do you ask?
And where does this idea originate? Try and jog your memory
I can only slow run my memory and I recall it originally came from the other side of your cheeto-encrusted cracked phone screen/dirty computer monitor.
But you already knew that. Didn't you?
I’ve noticed a pattern with you where you just say random things, which is the root of my curiosity. Right, like your random ineffective exercise recommendations. Random insults about joblessness and uncleanliness.
You believe these types of insults might possibly have some effect, yes? Otherwise you would be knowingly humiliating yourself with obvious cope. Thus the only reasonable conclusion is that the idea does not originate from your phone, but rather in its reflection.
Run this possibility through your mind, slowly
They are not random and are very specific to get a behavior change with you given the amount of clear communication I've been telling you in several comments to stop trolling here.
You are asking several unending and unrelated asinine questions to get a rise out of people here or me, and you haven't once made your goals clear after being asked multiple times why you are being insistent.
The non-sequiturs were necessary because nothing is getting through to you here. If you think reading a book on Jung and Freud about insecurities and projection identification makes you suddenly an internet psychoanalyst expert, please go fuck yourself you don't know who you are talking to.
You are throwing red flags like crazy and need to seek help. The fact that I know for sure you're reading the curse words I used throughout my messages has set you off to continue your tirade confirms my suspicion.
I can't run this through my mind; do you think I should slow jog it through my neighborhood instead?
So to be clear, you are the one who is cursing and blowing up on not just me, but others in this thread as well, and yet I am the one who has been “set off”?
Which philosopher do you suggest I read to help me better understand your convincing analysis?
What's the problem with cursing? Do you come from a weird Puritan part of the internet where that is a faux pas? You should stay out of your echo chambers, it's clearly affecting your disposition.
I suggest you stay away from philosophies from ancient eras that have zero relevance to today and prefer you talk to an actual doctor who has contributed to science and knows what the fuck they are talking about, not other dipshits providing unqualified medical advice.
And, no, telling people to start improving their lives by starting with a small effort exercise is not medical advice it's an excellent suggestion, I know your smooth brain was going to ask.
I'm guessing your preferred philosopher is Andrew Taint (sp?) or whatever incel grifter is popular nowadays?
Your suggestion to immediately start running for one hour straight every day was in fact awful advice in general (which the community appropriately moderated, thankfully), and was in fact medically inappropriate given OPs circumstances, which you may have learned if you prioritized sane conversation
This is simply a materially indisputable fact.
What remains mysterious is why exactly you feel the need to construct these random fantasies about me. Is daydreaming about me eating cheetos and worshipping some nazi pleasurable for you in some way? Do you feel anyone anywhere on earth finds your bare proclamations persuasive?
If you brought this whole thread to one of these real doctors you purport to speak for, what do you think they would take away from all this?
It is 100% disputable, and you saying this to shut down this argument isn't going to fly here, fuck that bullshit you are trying here.
These aren't imaginary scenarios, you failed to get the explicitly stated questions. You clearly have dogshit reading comprehension because I've already stated to you here it's because you didn't answer any questions (and still haven't by the way, totally continuing gaslighting us all here, red flag) and the non-sequiturs are here to instigate the answer from you.
You sound like you want to answer that imaginary scenario, oh our glorious savant internet expert. Please by all means let's hear what your diagnostic is?
Not a fact? That the community correctly moderated your bad advice? We can actually see the votes currently with our eyes. Seems quite like a fact
Not your imagination? The random insults you dream up about me in the shower? Fascinating
That’s outside my scope of practice, which is why I’m asking you to bring it up with your colleagues
You are seriously saying three comments disagreeing with me using zero valid opinions the ENTIRE community? You are being an absolute dullard. You cant shut down this dialogue with this bullshit, fuck off with that ridiculous notion.
All my colleagues are busy entertaining your wonderful intelligent beautiful mother, so disregard asking them. I want your take on this. What do you think?
I’m happy to continue this conversation of course but I must first urgently advise you to caution your colleagues about my mother’s countless infectious STDs. I’m sure they have only pure intentions, but she herself can be very persuasive.
With this dire warning out of the way, votes are not comments yes? Although now that you mention it, yes, you are also correct in noticing that every single person who has commented has also disagreed with you, along with the many more who voted. Curious
Finally, since you have kindly asked for my opinion directly, and understand that I cannot offer you specific medical advice: my take is that you are not at all beyond hope, friend. Weigh that statement with all the credibility you believe I deserve
Dont say that about your mother, she took a major part in creating you, and by extension is a living god that creates life, and deserves a little respect. Moms dont get enough recognition.
Confirmation bias from a tiny sample set. If you were capable of critical thinking, you would disregard or hold your conclusions, but you are likely legitimately dumb, so I will give you this grace of ignorance.
Since I don't know or care about you, I will now eagerly take this evaluation I asked you for and promptly throw it in the trash where it belongs, because there are indeed many people out there who are incorrigably lost and actually beyond hope (MAGA Trump dick riders, and also you since you rejected pleas to stop trolling and seek therapy).
Next up: you good bro? You DO NOT sound okay. This entire dialogue went very far and you for sure need a professional to talk to, not idiots on the internet.
“Living gods” huh? And your obsession with incels…hmm
Anyway, thank you for considering my point of view regardless of its value. I’m disappointed now though, you say this dialogue “went” so far? In the past tense? Are you thinking of parting ways?
For me personally, I think this would be a particularly productive moment to really drill into the specific details of valid and sound methods of statistical analysis, as well as establishing the consensus of medical experts regarding injury mitigation in new runners. So I hope I read that wrong, and that I’ll be hearing from you soon. Cheers
If you think of women, the way you talk about your own mother, I don't have any will to relate to you at any level, so the conversation will always be coming back to you evaluating yourself and the dumb shit you continue to say here.
Using the past-tense is casual parlance that normal people use when talking, but it doesn't always confirm the termination of a concept. I don't know where you went to school (if at all), so continuing to nit-pick semantics will do nothing to progress our dialogue.
You are the reason this remains a circular argument that keeps coming back to irrelevant shit; topic remains that you are wrong about my advice being harmful and you have no factual basis to justify your position with any logical foundation.
Your last paragraph is tedious nonsense that you think is making you sound interesting or intelligent. You are not. Medical experts unanimously agree that any form of exercise is better than none, and that running or jogging will improve your mental health by a fucking statistically significant order of magnitude.
You have been arguing against this, because this shit is what I am trying to convey. You are either a complete moron to disagree, or need to tell me what the fuck you have been attempting to do here.
My guess is that you are trolling, and subsequently you need to go fuck yourself. This mental health community doesn't need your bullshit, go get help from professionals, like right now.
Posting random “exercise is good” research? I agree. The point if you recall is that your onboarding advice specifically is injurious. TMTS is the most well documented phenomena in the sport, and affects everyone, not just beginners. Your advice would even be bad when moderate distance runners transition into long distance. Write up a 5 paragraph essay on the actual topic if it pleases you
Thanks for defending my mother’s honor though, I’ll be sure to pass along your noble sentiments once she’s finished deflowering your friends
You are speaking more nonsense. I did not recommend a distance, only a time and low effort level.
I didn't tell this dude to run until his feet fall off, just a light fucking jog. You are seriously insane.
Your mom is an amazing woman; STFU and be a better person to her regardless if she has been shit to you.