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If it cannot break its egg's rule, a chick will die without being born.
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"Do you want to talk about why it makes you sad?"
Done. An egg must hatch on its own. You cannot just crack it yourself, but you can put it in an environment where it is ready.
Or you could have a situation like my cousin who ended up attempting to kill them self over body dysphoria with out realizing it even tho myself and many other members of the family kept trying to help them and even offered to pay for therapy because they were too dense and depressed to realize what was wrong or what everyone around them was trying to do.
Sometimes the best help help you can give someone is to just be fucking blunt about and metaphorically bitch slap them up side the head with the trout of truth.
There's no reason to force it past that. You can't walk the journey for them. But dear god some people DO need to be lead by the nose to the starting line.
But seriously acting like everyone HAS to figure everything out for themselves no matter what is a recipe for disaster. It only hurts others to be that upright about some bullshit rule that has zero fucking basis in reality. We are humans, a communal animal. We HELP each other no matter if that's softly or with the grace of a brick falling from the sky.
The only rule is you know your friends and family ones better then anyone who doesn't. Do what's right based on what you about them.
And anyone trying to push the whole "egg must hatch on its own" bullshit needs to shut the fuck up and stop pushing a poor God damn fucking excuse of common wisdom. It's not a one sized fit all rule and it causes more harm than good since it shouts down nuance and circumstance.
Toxic positivity is a MASSIVE problem. And this is a great example of it. It sounds good and comes from a place of kindness. Which makes it hard to speak against. Since anyone who tries will be yelled at by the masses.
But after seeing what this bullshit can do when everyone is too scared to cause "harm". Because of some nonsense rule. Fuck that.
Do what is best for you, your loved ones and community. And don't be afraid to be blunt and "crack" a egg. Some people DO need that help.