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When all the alters communicate with each other and work together. Most people have 'aspects' of their personality that they only show sometimes, and we call it 'code switching'. It also happens when speaking different languages, people's personalities change, but we think that's normal. In therapy, for most people it's called 'parts work' where you recognize that a part of you feels a certain way, but not all of you, and it's OK to hold both of those feelings at the same time.
DID is usually caused by trauma that causes rifts between those aspects/personalities/alters and doesn't let them communicate with each other. That's when you start dealing with lost time, and waking up in strange places, so the real problem comes with the lack of intercommunication, aka dissociating.
It's like a road trip with friends. If you're all communicating and you say 'Hey, I'm getting tired, can someone else drive?' that's fine. You might wake up somewhere new, but you can immediately ask 'Where are we' and get caught up. But if you don't know that there are other people in the car, and think you're doing the road trip by yourself, lose days of time and suddenly wake up somewhere that may or may not be the destination you were expecting, that's a problem.
We all have parts. People with DID had their parts forcibly separated.
This tracks with what I have read about it as well, especially the languages part for someone bilingual.
For most people you don't realize you have different aspects because they work together and transition so smoothly.
I mean, when someone is able to manage a condition, it doesn't mean that don't have the condition.
I have to disagree with all this. What you describe either IS a disorder or not multiple personalities.
I have a friend with DID, but I'm not an expert. The media also portrays DID inaccurately most of the time, so it's hard to explain when there's disinformation from multiple angles. I'd recommend doing some independent research or talking to your therapist about parts works as a way to understand more.
I think a big problem with this thread is the framing, "being multiple people." There is a lot of nuance here.