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aw, I didn't get to see what you wrote :-(
Woops, sorry! I got immediately multiply downvoted 100%, I haven't posted in this community before so not familiar with the culture, and even though I thought my response was relevant, it didn't look like the community was interested in such an opinion, so I withdrew my post. I said something like that unless I am literally there do get tested for a suspected pregnancy, I would tell them it's none of their business, or more politely, "given the current political climate, I do not answer questions like these". Thanks for checking up on me!
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I appreciate you restating your comment. We're happy to hear from you!
this is helpful context, thanks for raising awareness ๐
oh, huh - yeah, it is pretty scary that women are asked about their periods - esp. the way that information can be used in an increasingly political campaign to criminalize women and surveil pregnancies. Only makes it worse that it's a question that might out me.
Still, I get that the doctor needs to know if I am pregnant or could be pregnant and not know it.
Agreed! That's why I much prefer the "Is there any possible way you could be pregnant right now?" phrasing. Which is straight to the point of "we are about to operate on your abdominal section that could cause fetal loss if we are not aware of it, assuming you care about that sort of thing." But if you are getting the period question, then it's just a nurse checking off a box on an insurance checklist when you are there for an ear infection, and 100% of the time it is not relevant then.
it's interesting because in the ER I was asked "is it possible you could be pregnant" and I simply said no, and that was easier than trying to explain why I don't have periods. I even had to correct a nurse who assumed I had a hysterectomy, I had to re-iterate that I was born without a uterus.