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Not a mathematical proof, but straightness isn't the same as heterosexuality, nor is gay synonymous with homosexuality. Two enbies might have the same gender, making their relationship homosexual, but two enbies can also have very different nonbinary genders, therefore being heterosexual. However, those heterosexual enbies would still not be straight, because they aren't a cis man with a cis woman.
It all comes down to straightness being an entirely normative category, not a descriptive one. It's just like the bs concept of "whiteness" which will similarly exclude Europeans or people with pale skin because they don't "fit in" for arbitrary reasons.
People who insist that it's straight to have sex with the homies are trying to claim that they're "normal" and shouldn't be discriminated against just for who they fuck. It's understandable to not wanna be discriminated against, and even more understandable to think rigid constructions of sexuality are stupid. Unfortunately, the problem with some of these people is that they only want to save themselves from being treated poorly, not get rid of "othering" in general. The enlightened approach is to be rid of straightness and arbitrary normalcy.
TLDR: you're only straight if it's a cis woman with a cis man, otherwise you're queer/gay/not normal
That's the first I've heard that being cis is explicitly a requirement for being "straight" ...
It is for the people who get icked out about people who don't have the "correct" genitals
My brain got kinda surprised at reading "not normal" because I'm surrounded by queers all the time