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and surgery takes a long time as well, so if you think you might want it, you want to start electrolysis for hair removal for a vaginoplasty a year before the surgery, and you will need to find a therapist who will write you a letter for that surgery (at least in the U.S., therapists are often gatekeepers in other countries too).
Everything takes a long time, so get the ball rolling early.
I keep reading about this but I am missing something. Is it ok to start now even without a surgery date? If I finish electrolysis 6-18 months before a surgery date, do surgeons have an issue with this? I am intending to get on a schedule as soon as I am permitted to, so I want to get started on hair removal now. I just don't want to hurt my chances with eventual surgery results.
no, the earlier the better and if you can remove all the hair well before surgery that would be ideal - you have more time to catch any stray hairs that were not eliminated in previous growth cycles.
I know girls who have finished hair removal for bottom surgery and still haven't made the first steps towards getting a consult with a surgeon, let alone a surgery date.
Meanwhile, I'm rushing my electrolysis and trying to fit it into 4 months because I started too late and my surgery date is this summer ๐ Don't be like me, it risks having hair in your vagina.
What would a non-rushed electrolysis timeline be? 6-8 months? Longer? Place near me runs about $90 an hour, and i want start (even if surgery would likely be years away).
I think the common recommendation is at least 12 months, 2 years would be better because you have a chance to catch all the hair growth cycles twice and catch any that were missed the first 12 months.
from the trans surgeries wiki on Reddit
from the hair removal section of the trans surgeries wiki on Reddit
The surgeon usually removes or cauterizes the follicles during the surgery, and some surgeons even suggest not doing hair removal at all, but 7% (roughly 1 in 14) of women post-op report having hair in their vagina, and while rare, infections can occur and that can lead to situations you really don't want to find yourself in.
Anyway, I'm low-key terrified of having hair in my vagina, but I'm also worried my opportunity to get a vaginoplasty is under threat, so I'm hoping to get it done before it's no longer an option.