[-] Draconic_NEO 4 points 3 weeks ago

I will share that dragonfucker has significantly harassed me and sent death threats toward my way, it was through an alt account so I guess one could say that it could've not been drag, but the circumstances surrounding it were suspicious enough that I'm almost certain that this alt was the same person/dragon as dragonfucker. The community that was created to harass and target me !fuckdraconicneo@discuss.online along with the alt is gone but since I was pinged on every account and I have email notifications enabled I still do have all the messages I received, as well as screenshots of DMs from the user account, none of them are pretty.

I'm not a fan of gatekeeping people's identities and I REALLY don't think we should do that. I do think we should understand the kind of person drag is though, and acknowledge that these types of things like the death threats, the harassment, and encouragement of suicide have no place here, in a safe space no less.

[-] Draconic_NEO 4 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I think drag is talking about using the API or network tab in browser to create bans when a person hasn't posted in a community before, as far as I know there's no way to create fake modlog entries, other than doctoring screenshots of the modlog (something you'll be busted on very quickly) or possibly by screwing with the database as an admin (something that you'll also be busted on since it won't federate).

Comment removals can't be faked or screwed with unless doctored, because the comments removed must actually exist to appear in the log.

[-] Draconic_NEO 9 points 3 weeks ago

My issues with dragonfucker are to do with the fact that drag decided to make an alt account and proceed to spam me with insults, porn, and even death threats. Creating a community to harass me publicly and pinging me on every fediverse account I owned.

I know I couldn't actually prove it was drag who did it, Lemmy has awful tools to identify users, and drag denies all accountability, but the circumstances of it were so suspicious that I'd be willing to bet money that dragonfucker was the person behind it, or someone close with drag.

I'm not going to lie when I got the ping under the post asking for admins to help track me down so I could be tortured and killed I did get very scared that someone would show up at my home and I did actually contact the police about it. Though ultimately nothing came of the investigation.

It makes me very sad and also afraid that no one is addressing the real issues, instead choosing to complain about pronouns and debate the validity of other people's genders. Which as an Agender person also makes me feel sad and also kind of unsafe.

[-] Draconic_NEO 5 points 3 weeks ago

I think this page gives some good info on Neopronouns for those who might not be entirely in the know about them.

[-] Draconic_NEO 9 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I'm in agreement with this, but I think people should complain about the trolling behavior and the abusive behavior, and not about the pronouns, because the trolling and abusive behavior is the real problem. Not people using different pronouns or having non-standard identities.

[-] Draconic_NEO 3 points 3 weeks ago

How so? They seem like a nice person, what is it about @Grail@aussie.zone that people have such a problem with? I can agree that the article isn't perfect but I see people acting like They are some kind of horrible person or something.

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submitted 3 weeks ago by Draconic_NEO to c/nonbinary

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/20125127

Found this article on medium while scrolling through some comments in a post here. I recommend you go read the article, it's very insightful. It basically talks about how some cis people are likely Agender due to their lack of an internal sense of gender, or them not ever thinking about gender. I know that this isn't the only experience of being Agender. Agender experiences can be quite varied and different, and not all Agenders will relate to not experiencing or understanding gender, for some it's just a different feeling of gender, or a different type of feeling.

I do know that a lot of Agender people do though which is why I decided to post this here since I feel it could maybe help some people, or maybe just be an interesting article for people to read

Anyway what are your thoughts on this idea? If you have any thoughts or anything you'd like to add please share in the comments.

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submitted 3 weeks ago by Draconic_NEO to c/aroaceagender

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/20125127

Found this article on medium while scrolling through some comments in a post here. I recommend you go read the article, it's very insightful. It basically talks about how some cis people are likely Agender due to their lack of an internal sense of gender, or them not ever thinking about gender. I know that this isn't the only experience of being Agender. Agender experiences can be quite varied and different, and not all Agenders will relate to not experiencing or understanding gender, for some it's just a different feeling of gender, or a different type of feeling.

I do know that a lot of Agender people do though which is why I decided to post this here since I feel it could maybe help some people, or maybe just be an interesting article for people to read

Anyway what are your thoughts on this idea? If you have any thoughts or anything you'd like to add please share in the comments.

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submitted 3 weeks ago by Draconic_NEO to c/agender

Found this article on medium while scrolling through some comments in a post here. I recommend you go read the article, it's very insightful. It basically talks about how some cis people are likely Agender due to their lack of an internal sense of gender, or them not ever thinking about gender. I know that this isn't the only experience of being Agender. Agender experiences can be quite varied and different, and not all Agenders will relate to not experiencing or understanding gender, for some it's just a different feeling of gender, or a different type of feeling.

I do know that a lot of Agender people do though which is why I decided to post this here since I feel it could maybe help some people, or maybe just be an interesting article for people to read

Anyway what are your thoughts on this idea? If you have any thoughts or anything you'd like to add please share in the comments.

[-] Draconic_NEO 3 points 3 weeks ago

It really is, I thought I was one of the only people to think that Agender might be really common but just hidden because many people who don't feel gender can blend in as cis or not even know they're Agender. Obviously we'll probably never really know for sure but I do think it's likely that many of the people out there who don't feel gender or don't think about gender are very likely Agender.

I also saw a meme a while back that said animals are Agender because they don't give so much thought to gender the way humans do.

[-] Draconic_NEO 6 points 3 weeks ago

I never saw that article before but I do like it, I have noticed that a lot of people who I know that identify as cisgender don't seem to have an internal sense of gender or pay much mind to gender but I didn't think anyone else thought that too. It's nice to see my idea isn't as unpopular as I initially thought.

[-] Draconic_NEO 10 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

That MAP shit people regurgitate to try and defend or excuse pedophilia isn't a valid sexuality, pedophilia is a heinous and disgusting crime. Pedophiles aren't marginalized people, they are dangerous people who need to be locked up for the safety of others.

[-] Draconic_NEO 2 points 2 months ago

I saw it happening on a few posts on 196 as well too, plus it seems to work just fine on Lemmy versions prior to 0.19.6, so I think Lemmy is the problem: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/31505839

The problem not happening on servers pre-0.19.6: https://lemmy.world/post/21870740

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by Draconic_NEO to c/main

Lemmy's 0.19.6 introduces some bug fixes but it also introduced a nasty bug which breaks image rendering in many posts See here and since this instance hosts a lot of image based content it would probably be a good idea for us to hold off on upgrading until this is fixed. I do not know yet if this bug will apply retroactively, as in, if all posts made or affected by this will be fixed once a fix rolls out or if they'll be screwed up forever or until editing or re-posting.

I encourage people in instances which have not updated yet to cross-post this to their instance's meta community or ping their instance admins to let them know.

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submitted 2 months ago by Draconic_NEO to c/aroaceagender

I recently created a version of the Aspec flag but with the Agender colors in the middle star. I did this because I wanted a flag that represents those of us who are both on the aromantic/asexual spectrum as well as those of us on the agender spectrum. I think there are many of us who relate to many parts of both the aroace and also Agender experiences so I wanted to create a flag that represents being part of both AroAce and Agender spectrums.

Please let me know what you all think about this design, as well as ways it could be improved while still keeping the feel or the original a-spec flag.

[-] Draconic_NEO 2 points 9 months ago

Great I just accepted you as a mod

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submitted 9 months ago by Draconic_NEO to c/agender

Hello, Agender is looking for moderators to help moderate this community. If you think you could help out this community please feel free to reply below explaining how you think you can help this community.

It is recommended but not required that you have an account on lemmy.blahaj.zone to moderate with, and it is strongly recommended but not explicitly required that you have a Matrix account for secure messaging, linked to your Lemmy account.

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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Draconic_NEO to c/howdy

Hello everybody, I'm Draconic NEO, some people call me Draconic or NEO. I am Aromantic Asexual, and probably also Agender. I'm into open source and linux and am currently exploring the fediverse.

I joined blahaj.zone to start up some A-spec communties as I felt those are sorely lacking in the Fediverse. I chose this instance because it seems like the best place to host communities like that on the count of it being an LGBTQIA safe-space that doesn't tolerate bigots *glares at lemm.ee* and also having downvotes disabled (useful since lots of bigots will downvote people simply for being openly queer). I initially avoided blahaj.zone since it was less stable in the past (I remember frequent downtimes and image errors) as well as concerns regarding egg_irl, as I have experienced a lot of unpleasant harassment Mostly in DMs from reddit.com/r/egg_irl (Was really nasty and I won't get into it here) however it seems like that isn't an issue here as people here seem very nice.

The communtities I have started are:

Feel free to join them if you are interested.

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c/Agender FAQ (self.agender)
submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Draconic_NEO to c/agender

Hello and welcome to our community. This post is mainly to help explain things to people who first come across this community.

What is Agender?

Agender is a gender identity in which people feel very little or lack of any gender identity. The term Agender comes from the greek prefix A- meaning without and gender.

Some Agender people may feel no gender, while others may feel a weaker sense of gender, and others still may feel a strong sense of connection to being Agender. It is very much a spectrum. I created a chart to better help visualize it:

What is Gender modality, I saw it mentioned in the sidebar, so what is it?

Gender modality is complicated, and there's a bit of disagreement on what it is or isn't in the community, as well as whether or not gender modalities are valid.

The most common definition and the definition you'll see when you look up gender modality is:

Gender Modality refers to the correspondence (or lack thereof) between one's assigned gender at birth and one's actual gender and/or gender presentation.
- Gender Modality, on Gender Fandom

I don't disagree with that definition but it feels lacking. I think a good way to explain it that compliments the previous way is that modalities are like groups that can contain other gender identities. Like how on Lemmy there are communities contained in instances. Yeah I know a lot of people will hate that analogy but I think it works. It can be a bit confusing but in general it's just best to respect the way a person identifies, even if it's one of the non-standard gender modalities.

Wait I thought that people were either cis or trans?

Yeah this is where a lot of the disagreement comes in around gender modality. There are some people who do believe that. While others believe that there are multiple gender modalities besides just the two. We here believe that the way a person identifies should be respected and not invalidated, and that means if they identify under one of these other gender modalities it needs to be respected.

What about if someone is in-denial about being trans?

Here we believe that self-discovery is a very important and personal process that should not be ham-fisted like it has been in the past on... certain user forums (egg_irl) this doesn't mean one can't help or support people, that's always encouraged, but they have to want the support. If it is forced or coercive it is not respectful and can even be harmful. Do not try and force people to identify a certain way against their will (This falls under Rule 2).


About the community

This next section addresses various questions about the community, this part is a bit more meta.

Why create this community?

I created this community because one of the communities I noticed that was lacking on Lemmy was an Agender one, there were plenty of Nonbinary ones but not a single Agender one or even aspec one. So I decided to create this one in hopes that it would allow Agender people to feel more at home in the Fediverse.

Why did you choose this instance?

We wanted to choose an instance which has downvotes disabled due to the fact that trolls and bigots very often attack queer people by mass downvoting their posts to supress them and their content. We want to avoid this type of abuse. We originally chose Reddthat for this purpose because it fits that criteria while also being very stable, however we decided to abandon it due to their lack of agency around the threads federation issue, this is especially problematic due to the fact that threads has a severe queerphobia problem. So we moved to lemmy.blahaj.zone as it is our only real option.

~~#### Why didn't you just choose blahaj.zone?~~

~~In the beginning we did consider it but in the end I ended up choosing this instance for a variety of reasons. One reason was when I initially planned this out lemmy.blahaj.zone was having frequent outages and pictrs (image server) issues. So for that reason I went with the next best one Reddthat.com. I may revisit that idea in the future but as is I'll stick with what I've already got set up and go from there.~~ We have migrated our community to blahaj.zone due to concerns regarding Reddthat's lack of agency around threads federation.


If you have any more questions or feedback you'd like to give me just leave a comment below and I'll get back to you. If you want you could also post in our Matrix Discussion Channel.

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