We saw The Beths opening for Alvvays last night and it was amazing.

Im learning how to see right now. I've just someone some bags and pillows so far, but I really want to make clothing. I'll start simple, but I'd eventually like to make the things that (imo) are the hardest to get as a trans woman: panties, bras, and pants. Have any of you made these? Do you have any resources or communities you recommend?

Hokay, so.

I’m on HRT and have been for a decade and change. This is real cool, except how basically every interaction with cisgenderedists gets me misgendered, and a hearty “sir” or a flurry of “he/hims” levied my way. I mean, fuck, I can be standing there in knee-high boots, a leather skirt, and a cropped hoodie and I get misgendered as fuuuck.

“So change shit up, motherfucker.”

I do a phone job and my voice is believably feminine in both English and Japanese, which is cool, but something about my real life existence just reeks of masculinity.

Can’t really do makeup cause the structures responsible for processing my face are damaged. I can tell what emotion I’m making, but I can’t perceive enough of my face to draw well on it. Also since I’ve had two strokes, even if I could, I’d prolly do eyeliner wings like a fuckin’ gridiron player.

I got beautiful wavy blonde hair that goes down past my butt, and though I don’t have the manual dexterity to style that really well with buns and braids and such, I can at least try shit other than the basic nape-of-neck ponytail.

Also I’m flat as your average golf course: maybe two discernible bumps, and that’s fuckin’ it. Also I’m ace as fuck so if they were any bigger I’d get real self-conscious about it.

At least I got a fashion sense that makes Square Enix jealous.

I’m gonna figure shit out that works for me, either that or I’m gonna keep on tolerating the injustices of the bastards who never thought to play with the character creator.

Also I guess they want me to add a photo so here you are.

Apologies for my shitty English. It’s fuckin’ terrible.

So it's almost exactly two weeks since my first session. I went to one of the high-power places that needs a medical license (at least in this country), but my somewhat light-colored hair and total lack of pain during the procedure made me really worried. The first week or so showed no progress, the hair seemed to be growing as normal. Then it got a bit thinner, or maybe I was imagining it?

But no, just today, it's been a whole day and almost no stubble or shadow! About 80% has just vanished (most of what remains is on my upper lip and beneath the jaw). I realize that the dormant follicles and so on are going to wake up soon, but I've still got several sessions to go.

So if you've just started and had the same worries as me, really: wait two weeks!

I am unreasonably excited about this. Sorry, past self who waited so long for his beard to come in: you don't need to worry about trying to look masc any more!

My doctor read out that the WPATH doesn't say anything about progesterone and then said that even if it’s not understood, I should start it in a few weeks because it is strongly correlated with mood improvement. I’m so glad I have this doctor. She even has a trans family member!

Looking for engagement from my fellow Trans people.

Hello, you beautiful stranger. I recently decided to try to resurrect my old FB account after like 5 years to work on some real local community. I purged 3/4 of my friends list (didn't grow up in a trans-friendly environment), and opened up my pictures to start removing things, and... I can't.

I can't look at them without it feeling painful. But I also can't imagine myself deleting pictures of such big things - my engagement, years of wonderful dates with my now-wife, pictures with my old cat from before he passed - damn near every picture feels like sandpaper on my soul to see, but even worse to delete.

Any advice on what the heck to do from anyone who has been there?

Thanks 🩵🏳️‍⚧️

The direct video: https://youtu.be/xNTGEo9gS4A

So today we finally got around to reading the instructions for some of our patches (Estradot) and realised they say not to put them in the fridge (or freezer but we wouldn't put patches in the freezer anyway). We took them out but they have been in there for months.

Are they ruined or less effective?

We started doing it because our other patches (Evorel) denatured once a while ago, and wanted to avoid the same fate with these ones since it's been a hot summer and have nowhere really cool to store them since we are on the top floor of a building and thus it gets very hot up here, even in our drawers.

So we are wondering what exactly is the problem with them being in the fridge and are they ineffective now or will they be okay now that they're in the a drawer and hopefully stay cool for the rest of the month?

We have left our other patches (Evorel) in the fridge as they don't say not to.

Ive been thinking about it fir a while, but i think i really want it. It feels strange still being so early on. Ive inly started hrt 8 months ago, but i really want it. And i want ffs. Its like the floodgates broke open and i want as much as i can get.

Sorry this is a bit of a depressing subject but I've been feeling down and I kinda want to interact with ppl online.

Basically I'm feeling down because the girl I liked (I'm not out to her) is very likely into another girl (she's bi).

I never dated in my entire life, mostly because I feel like a freak and don't want to seem like a pervert trying to flirt with a girl. I don't know why I feel like this, but it's really taking a toll on me because if even as a relatively attractive guy I couldn't find anyone, how the hell can I find someone now?

I know T4T exists but there are so few trans women where I live, and the queer community is tiny here. I feel like I'll always be a second option to cis women(genital preference) and it just feels bad. I'm scared I'll end up alone. Moreover the HRT is making me crave intimacy so that adds to the pile...

Anyone feels like this too and found how to deal with it?

After fighting with health insurance for nearly a year, I suddenly have a surgery date in less than two months and just ... Aaaaaaaaaaa o.o

I'm so nervous x.x

It does match nicely with my other plans tho - like moving to Finland in roughly half a year .. but I completely didn't expect it to work out this nicely. Even boss was like, after some "can we manage to release those features before?" (I'm a tech lead and service owner at an IT hosting company), "say yes to that proposed appointment, we'll make it work"

I still can't quite believe it o.o my downstairs has an expiration date o.o

I'm out since July 2018, on HRT since April 2019 and had my first appointment for GRS in late October 2023 - even tho there where some unnecessary delays, it worked out way faster than expected. Am German btw, AOK plus. They wanted a chromosome test which was the longest step since the lab was fucking slow.

Big surgery scary tho x.x

Sorry, just had to vent that somewhere

It's super cute, but not so feminine as to contrast my face.

It hides the bits that stick out where I don't want them to.

It fakes the bits that don't stick out where I do want them to.

It's comfortable. It's (a little bit) spinny.

I'm never taking it off! That is all.

🤗

OMG! I follow so many trans groups on here, fb, yt, reddit wherever and there are so many of you that if I didn't see where it was posted I'd assume you were just a rediculously attractive cis woman and I'm so jealous!

Hi all!

I've been looking into shapewear a lot recently and looking for any input/advice. I think I'm between rectangle and inverted triangle shape and looking to do some tummy squeezing, waist cinching trying to get more of waist and hip pads or something to make a more hourglass shape. A lot of hip stuff also has butt pads, which I already have enough butt I think 😅 is there one garment that could do all of these any kind of decent, or is it easier/better to get a couple of things more focused on doing one thing good?

Also been thinking about breastforms, so any advice there would be appreciated there too!

Hi there, we are interested in specific types of skirts (or dresses), namely those that go up at the front and down at the back (especially if there's a significant difference i.e. shorter at the front and longer at the back so the back going down is obvious) and was wondering if any of y'all knew their name or where to get them.

We would especially love it if they could have multiple layers but a single layer would be okay if that's not possible.

Oh and a request, if possible, since we don't use amazon since they do not treat their workers well we would prefer no links to them, thank you!

Extra bonus points if any of them have pockets, but that's a big ask, we know.

Hi! I've been using gel for several months, but a few weeks ago I made the change to injections. Each injection has resulted in some pains in random areas in my left leg, but mostly concentrated in the muscles below the knee. I also started waking up with muscle spasms in the same leg, which is something I used to have before puberty. The pain mostly subsides after a day or two.

I suspect the issue is vasodilation which I understand is more common in women than men because estrogen dilates the blood vessels, but I wanted to hear other peoples thoughts.

Wearing overknee socks (to compress) helps, as does ice and exercise/movement, which I think is in favour of this being vasodilation.

I will be bringing this up with a doctor in a couple of weeks, but I'm afraid he won't be able to help much or have someone to refer me to as competence regarding trans stuff is pretty low here in Norway (also I'm diy).

I would like to know as much as possible about what this could be so I have something to present to him.

I get suggestions online like do my hair, makeup, etc but as a first time girl I really don’t know where to even start, so I end up doing nothing and looking like a hag and im tired of being treated like crap

For context, I've been on the fence about going on HRT.

During my therapy session today, I was talking about some of the fears I have about going on HRT. Up until now, I've been trying to ease myself into transitioning because I do have my doubts and I don't want to rush into the wrong decision.

I've been "crossdressing" (what does one call this if they think they're trans?) on and off for a while now, and I've been in therapy about dysphoria for a few months now, but HRT is still a big decision that I didn't want to influence myself toward if I didn't need it. I didn't go by female pronouns, didn't experiment with names, hesitated to call myself trans until I soul searched a bit more and knew. I think that's partially due to fear of being ostracized by my family or affected by the horrible legislation attempting to go around in America right now, or really just rushing into something big like that in general.

Lately, I've been leaning toward wanting to go on HRT. I've been searching for clinics to freeze my sperm and I've found a couple of sources for HRT, just to have everything sorted if I decide to start transitioning. Today, when I was going over my fears with my therapist, I just blurted out

"Fuck, if I had gone on HRT when I was 18 then I would just be a woman by now. Dammit."

Right after I said that, I realized exactly what I had said and what emotions I was actually expressing. I think it took me forever to admit it but I definitely want HRT. I want to be a woman. I'm scared still, in many ways, but I think this is the path for me and I want to embrace all the joys and struggles which come alongside transitioning. So that said, I'd like to ask any of you girls on HRT, what were some unexpected trials and happy moments during the process?

I turn 23 this December, and it would be amazing if I could start HRT before then. It's doable, I have to hunt down some good sperm banks first because I still want biological kids someday. My main fear right now (and I do apologize to you non-American Lemmy users that are sick of hearing about this) is this damnable upcoming election. I don't believe that team Trump will go down quietly if Harris wins, but it would ease my mind greatly if I knew I didn't have to navigate my transition with a 2nd Trump administration breathing down my neck. How are you other American girls dealing with that? I'm almost at the point where I say fuck it all and live my life. So close.....

but do I want to paint a target on myself?

Idk. Thanks for reading my thought spew, it helps to get it out in writing sometimes.

So I know everyone is going to answer "yes", but I want actual real thoughts. I just want to know where I fit in.

I'm AMAB, and present as male, at least on the surface. I've always felt that was wrong though. But I don't necessarily think I'm a woman. I wish I was more feminine. And recently I started full body laser hair removal, and I have pretty long hair, and currently have my toe nails painted. But I also have a beard, and otherwise present totally as cis.

Am I "trans"? I don't feel "cis", but I feel like calling myself trans just isn't accurate and is inappropriate. Is there any other option?

And a complicating factor is that I'm basically only attracted to female presenting people. I see a lot of mtf trans people posting online "t4t". Would other trans people consider me "trans"?

It's good for all of us to be privacy literate, given that things can take a turn for the worse in many places, or already are bad. There was a post a few days ago that highlighted how the vast majority of trans people rely on internet access 🤔

I'll start by saying that matrix seems to be a solid solution for communication, and tor for accessing information. It's worth it to get familiar with them before you need them yourself, but also to understand them as a community so we can support each other globally 🏳️‍⚧️

I am also wondering if any of you are familiar with getting around network restrictions. For example a DIY mesh network? 📡

This community seems more active than it’s been in the past