i'm going to ask this community for obvious reasons.

now i'd consider myself to be ftm but i'm genderfluid too and i like yuri, so i would like to maybe find some (preferably tsundere) anime characters for profile picture selections.

thank you :)

YEAH!!!!

this community has been practically dead for months it seems, and suddenly in the past few hours a bunch of new posts are being made?

sus 👀

I'm so sleepy fellow lesbians

She is a monster slayer, loyal to a fault, and will do ANYTHING for her girlfriend Madison. She would probably kill for Madison and is not quite mentally well, sadly.

dunno if any of y'all remember me, but i'm drbollocks. you may call me charlotte. i was struggling with my mental health but i eventually got better and wanted to come back to lemmy, which i kinda forgot about, to share the news :)

So, I'll just get straight to the point. I found the idea of being in a relationship with a man/doing stuff with him possibly exciting if I met the right one, but I could never see myself in a long-term relationship with him. I do not feel very much attraction to men either, though some made my heart flutter if I'm close with them.

Now, I have a girlfriend, so I speak in the past tense and only she makes my heart flutter, but would I be bi?? A lot of people seem to be questioning, so I thought "Why not I post about this, too?" Or am I a lesbian? I am certainly not straight.

First off, I'm going to say some. Not all men in the world are bad and not all men have traumatized me, just some. Next, I don't know if I qualify, but I would consider myself "gay" as an umbrella term as I'm bi and genderfluid (though usually more fem and lean towards girls).

3 months ago, I was dating a guy. I won't say who, some people may know but anyway, he was lowkey just kinda rude. He thought embarrassing me, putting me down, and trying to make me cry were "funny" and that's how he showed his "love", even though he would call me all sorts of names and tell me I sucked at everything all the time. NOT in a joking way. I've communicated with him about this several times, so we just broke up because I wasn't having it.

There was one time where he called me a bad catcher and a "useless idiot" because he threw a ball at my stomach and I couldn't catch it. He got really scary and screamed in my ear as well.

He has called me the B-word in front of my girlfriend as well, and we were polyamorous, so she was his ex-girlfriend. We all dated each other.

Relationship after relationship with boys or men since I was 13, it has always resulted in us breaking up because they turn out to not be who they say they are (online, especially). As I got older, I stopped online dating much and turned to mutual friends and such. But still, every guy I dated turned out to be the exact same, like my type is "toxic" men or something.

I am happily in a WLW relationship with my girlfriend, though, and I couldn't be better! We've been together for 2 years now.

@lesbians Matilda Hays was a British #lesbian author and journalist. She would be 205 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matilda/_Hays

How are you? I'm fine :)

A few months prior, I had broken up with David. My relationship with him prompted me to later realize I was going through comphet, and was actually into women, not straight like I once thought.

I was looking for a girlfriend after a few months of healing and being single, and my acquaintance/friend Michael, who is a few years older than me, introduced me to Kay/K.

"I think you'll like her," he said.

Keep in mind that Kay was not yet out to Michael as nonbinary with they/them pronouns, but I indeed asked them for their pronouns so I didn't misgender anyway. That's why Michael used she/her and thought Kay was a girl.

Kay wanted to be in a sort of "talking stage" after a while, where we weren't quite friends but we certainly weren't dating.

Here's where I wonder: Kay could imagine romantic stuff with me, such as holding hands and kissing, and going on dates and all that stuff, yet they didn't want me to do that with them nor did they want to initiate that with me. They said they had a crush on me, too, as did I for them.

We did things they were okay with, such as saying "I love you" and flirting, but that was it.

They said we were just hanging out and asked me could we not make it a date for now. They also got annoyed at me for asking if we could hold hands one day and said not now but maybe in the future.

They eventually told me they were traumatized by dating, which I respect, and weren't ready for a girlfriend nor were they ready for commitment.

So, this makes me wonder, did Kay like me romantically or did they just see me as sort of a friend? They were traumatized either way, which definitely could influence it, but yeah. I do wonder, from your guys' perspective as an outsider.

@lesbians James Tiptree Jr. was an American #lesbian author. She would be 110 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James/_Tiptree/_Jr.

It's so good I had to stop watching it so I watch it for the first time together with my partner 😊

My online friend liked me and I have had multiple crushes at once so I liked her back. We're dating now, yayyy!!!

I just asked my online crush if she wanted to date when we got to know each other more and at first she said no because I was too heavy for her (160 lbs, she is 90, she doesn't want much of a weight difference and doesn't like chubby x skinny). Next, she kept playfully teasing me about my crush on her after I confessed and said "Oh, you really want me?" and then said she would think about dating me if I really did like her. My friends all say that's a definite no and that she won't say yes and all that...

So, last year, i thought of this idea for a story which is probably bad...

Please be kind about it 😭

So, it's a version of Romeo and Juliet but the twist is that Romeo is actually a girl named Romina. Romina is pretty sure Juliet is straight, so she pretends to be a new boy named Romeo to win Juliet's heart. Eventually, Romina confesses her true self to Juliet. Could Juliet not be as entirely straight as once thought?

transcription: talk to them you useless lesbian

@lesbians Anna Rühling was a German #lesbian journalist and activist. She would be 145 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anna/_R%C3%BCling

so, me (f) and "isla" (nb) are friends with mutual feelings for each other. we plan to have a slow burn relationship and meet up a few times before isla decides if they want a friendship or a gf situation but i'm a bit nervous they'll say no. i'm literally manifesting they say yes since we already came this far. 😅

I don't hate the word lesbian but sapphic just sound much prettier atleast to me.I wish people used the term more not just because it sounds beautiful but because it would be more useful as not every wlw is a lesbian

sleep well!!!

I can't stop sniffing!