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I just asked my online crush if she wanted to date when we got to know each other more and at first she said no because I was too heavy for her (160 lbs, she is 90, she doesn't want much of a weight difference and doesn't like chubby x skinny). Next, she kept playfully teasing me about my crush on her after I confessed and said "Oh, you really want me?" and then said she would think about dating me if I really did like her. My friends all say that's a definite no and that she won't say yes and all that...

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You are worth so much more than that. Please respect yourself and don't fall into this clearly manipulative relationship.

Thankfully, she likes someone else. Thank youuu

[-] SharkWeek 21 points 1 day ago

Oh sister, no. The whole "maybe I'll date you if you beg" thing is a huge red flag - I'm sorry, but your crush is not a nice person and beat avoided.

I'm sorry.

It's okay, she likes someone else anyway

[-] Rakonat@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

She's playing games and you're always going to be the loser here. Cut and run before that red flag turns to something scarier.

Thanks so much!

[-] possumparty 15 points 1 day ago

๐Ÿšฉ๐Ÿšฉ๐Ÿšฉ๐Ÿšฉ๐Ÿšฉ๐Ÿšฉ run away from that situation bc she's already trying to emotionally manipulate you

[-] erotador 23 points 1 day ago

I would be rather careful around this one, not accepting you for your body is a big red flag imo, who's to say this is the only thing they are going to have a problem with?

Fair enough, thank you

[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 9 points 1 day ago

Its a hard pill to swallow but nothing good can come from this - others have already addressed why but please do hear their warnings

Thank you, I will

[-] bear 22 points 2 days ago

Not wanting a weight difference sounds like bs. Sounds like a red flag to me.

this post was submitted on 23 Aug 2025
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