First off, I'm going to say some. Not all men in the world are bad and not all men have traumatized me, just some. Next, I don't know if I qualify, but I would consider myself "gay" as an umbrella term as I'm bi and genderfluid (though usually more fem and lean towards girls).

3 months ago, I was dating a guy. I won't say who, some people may know but anyway, he was lowkey just kinda rude. He thought embarrassing me, putting me down, and trying to make me cry were "funny" and that's how he showed his "love", even though he would call me all sorts of names and tell me I sucked at everything all the time. NOT in a joking way. I've communicated with him about this several times, so we just broke up because I wasn't having it.

There was one time where he called me a bad catcher and a "useless idiot" because he threw a ball at my stomach and I couldn't catch it. He got really scary and screamed in my ear as well.

He has called me the B-word in front of my girlfriend as well, and we were polyamorous, so she was his ex-girlfriend. We all dated each other.

Relationship after relationship with boys or men since I was 13, it has always resulted in us breaking up because they turn out to not be who they say they are (online, especially). As I got older, I stopped online dating much and turned to mutual friends and such. But still, every guy I dated turned out to be the exact same, like my type is "toxic" men or something.

I am happily in a WLW relationship with my girlfriend, though, and I couldn't be better! We've been together for 2 years now.