[-] melmi 4 points 7 hours ago

People posting blobfish always makes me sad. Poor things don't actually look like that...

It's like it aliens took humans into space and our corpses got all bloated from the lack of pressure and then the aliens laugh at our corpses and assume that's what humans always look like...

[-] melmi 1 points 7 hours ago

I don't think "identifying with social stereotypes" is really an accurate representation of what being trans is.

Sure, there are some people who transition and identify as stereotypical members of their desired gender, but there are also people who transition and are gender nonconforming after their transition, but still identify as binary trans.

Identifying with social stereotypes also doesn't account for physical dysphoria, which is very real for a lot of trans folks. Some trans folks change little about their presentation when they transition but still want hormones and/or surgery.

[-] melmi 6 points 3 days ago

I love how the recommendations for avoiding attacks like this include avoiding pirated content but ignores the fact that you have to go to a clearly hijacked site to download this, and then run an installer with the flimsy justification of getting a "special codec." This is not a sophisticated attack or something endemic to piracy, basic common sense would protect you from this. I can't believe people are still falling for this stuff.

[-] melmi 5 points 4 days ago

I prefer to stick to uncontroversial works made by politically conscious creators, like H.P. Lovecraft!

But no, I get it. I like art made by people who are or weren't great. And that's before considering my participation in the vast system of capitalism which necessarily involves systemic evils far beyond what JKR personally is capable of.

It just hurts to have a person who is loudly transphobic like JKR, who uses all support of her IP as support of her views, and then all the majority of society has to say is "I love HP tho". It hurts especially when society is increasingly hostile towards trans people right now.

[-] melmi 3 points 4 days ago

There's no ethical consumption under capitalism. And it's not like HL was handmade by JKR herself, there were plenty of people working on it who I'm sure aren't transphobic and whose livelihoods are connected to the franchise as a result, some of whom are probably trans themselves.

The "separate the art from the artist" argument just always rings a little hollow to me. I tend to be put off when people cling to a franchise that is owned by a person who profits off hateful rhetoric and contributing to an unsafe environment for us. It feels like continuing to enjoy her art continues to platform her hate and shows people that being transphobic not only isn't a deal breaker, it's acceptable and profitable.

[-] melmi 2 points 5 days ago

Anyone can have shares of anything, so that's kind of moot. Even if suddenly Minecraft stopped making money, it would not affect Notch in the least. From what I can tell he might kind of like it, he seems to be kind of bitter about it. Though who knows what's legit and what's a grift at this point.

[-] melmi 21 points 5 days ago

Art vs artist doesn't apply when the artist is making bank off their art.

A better example would be something like Notch and Minecraft. Notch made Minecraft, Notch sucks, but he sold it and makes no money off it anymore so who cares if he's the worst. JKR is a different story, and every new Harry Potter thing supports JKR.

[-] melmi 31 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I kinda of lean towards the idea of "private accounts" being a bad idea as a result, just because it creates a false sense of security. But I'm not in the target demographic so idk

[-] melmi 17 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

The issue is that if you don't default to federation, it becomes essentially impossible for new instances to join the fediverse. A potential new instance would have to go around to every single existing instance and ask to be allowlisted, which is onerous for both the new instances and for the large server admins who would be getting tons of requests. It would also essentially kill small-scale selfhosting as a result.

[-] melmi 96 points 11 months ago

Little known fact about D&D succubi: since 4e succubi can change sexes freely. Incubi and succubi are just different forms of the same monster.

[-] melmi 335 points 1 year ago

So this is just a thing now? Removing media from the world?

They found out it works so now it's gonna become a trend.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by melmi to c/main

It seems that the issue was resolved behind closed doors, so it could have been resolved behind closed doors to begin with, and then if the defederation was to go ahead simply announce the defederation.

Making an announcement "it will be defederated in 48 hours" made for this weird countdown drama thread (we even had programming.dev people show up and be sad about defederation!) that didn't really go anywhere, and then y'all just locked it when we refederated and made it clear that you were never interested in input and you'll be running the instance as you please (which is well within your rights of course). So what was the point of the thread?

I can see how it is nice to have warning if a community you're involved in is going to be defederated, but it also drags drama to our nice little corner of the fediverse, and pins it at the top of our feeds for all to see. In fact it shows up as the top of every feed for me, Local, All, and Subscribed. I can't get away from it.

Every time these threads show up they end up blowing up. Honestly, if you didn't make these threads, I wouldn't care who you defederate. But because the thread exists, I have to come in and I have to have an opinion. That's a personal issue and I recognize that, but I would hazard a guess that I'm not the only one. People who have never interacted with Blahaj nor the instance getting defederated show up in these threads sometimes. These threads invite drama, and for me personally, whenever they come up they make this space feel significantly less safe and make me want to leave Lemmy as a whole because it feels like it's just nonstop defederation drama for days at a time, but it's pinned at the top of my feed.

Maybe these threads actually provide utility, and I should just take these threads as a sign I should take a break from the Internet for a bit. But to me, they just seem like they're all downsides.

[-] melmi 161 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This alone doesn't seem like something worth defederating over. It seems like they just got baited hard by Hexbear. Did the comment chain get censored? It doesn't seem like there's much active transphobia here, just ignorance of the issues at worst.

From my cursory read, the only thing that reads as actually transphobic to me is when they say "And getting offended by it really isn’t helping your case here." in response to someone getting mad at being referred to as "they", and that itself was due to technical issues and not transphobia.

Frankly, one angry snapback and a slap fight with Hexbear doesn't seem worth defederating over. I'm all for defederating bigots, but I don't want hapless allies getting caught in the crossfire.

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submitted 2 years ago by melmi to c/blahaj

I know you're supposed to pronounce it along the lines of "blo-hi", but the Anglicized "blahaj" is so hard to resist!

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