cis women don’t like when trans women are included as women because some trans women didn’t grow up as women and thus didn’t experience the same sexism, misogyny, and socialization that victimized them.

I've discussed this exact topic with my (cis woman) partner who struggles with this quite a bit, it's wild because she's very accepting and supportive of trans people, but struggles with feeling like the unique horrors of the Cis Woman Experience™ are sort-of being appropriated by trans women? it's a really weird thing to address, because I see where she's coming from, but I just feel that telling like 1% of women that they can't call themselves "women" without a qualifier is needlessly derisive.

I think enbies are liable to experience more discrimination and hate than binary trans people, esp. once the medical transition reaches a point where the trans person is able to conform to the expected gender norms. Enbies in both social and medical transition are often aiming to permanently occupy that in-between space that makes early transition so difficult for so many trans people

hey, it me! what's extra weird is that I feel almost pressured to fit into feminine gender norms to try to avoid being in the "please discriminate against me" class of people, but at the same time, I just... don't want to be there all the time? like wearing a dress and makeup while cleanshaven is a wonderful time when it's the gender vibe, but other times I just want to wear jeans and a tee and not bother shaving without being seen as a fruity man by 90% of people. honestly, thinking about it, the sheer effort I have to put in to not be read as a man while also not quite being read as a woman is, frankly, exhausting.

I’m not gonna tell you what you are or aren’t but as 6’6” transfem there’s something awesome about being a tower of lesbian.

weird non sequitur to the topic at hand but ok.

Sweet liberty, my ass!

Just... get better at placement...?

FYI: this is not true of PPTV (peritoneal pull-through vaginoplasty), which seems to be one of the better vaginoplasty techniques currently, as it's less finicky than the type of vaginoplasty that uses penis skin.

Plus it’s an affordable giant plushie, so it’s great for people who want something big and soft to cuddle, like say trans people on new hormones going through big emotions.

Another OrcaSlicer user here. Started off with PrusaSlicer and switched over at a friend's recommendation, and honestly am so glad I did (it has a much nicer UI and some really neat features ported over from SuperSlicer).

In my experience, Better Help doesn’t provide a worthwhile service. They charge around $300/mo and will postpone and cancel your appointments so you end up getting in one, maybe two, appointments in a month, but with the added stress of needing to work your schedule around their shitty time management. My partner tried them out for a couple months out of desperation at the lack of local therapists who take our insurance and it was a net negative for her.

I just wish it didn’t take so much longer to print than adaptive cubic at the same infill percent.

The hell? I do not understand why anyone would remove the first of those comments, and the second is a bit abrasive but still not moderation-worthy, imo.

Hi, Horny! I'm also on Hexbear, although I actually created an account here before Hexbear really started the switch to lemmy, on account of this being the best queer-friendly instance I could find.