Firstly we'd say to let go of the ideas you've been taught about what sex is or can be and don't stress about it too much

yea i would say i have a good grasp on this, in practice. but i guess, while i'm sitting here thinking about it, there's just not much that appeals to me (in the absence of a person i actively am involved with)

like, i am good at doing all the communicate and body exploration and stuff. i don't have a problem getting them off or not getting them off or w/e (i'll make sure they have a good time, yk) - but when i think about what i wanna get out of it, i'm like... well i'd LIKE to just plow em and enjoy myself, but... i can't, not as i am right now

maybe it's just dysphoria 💀

anyways, sex with other people just doesn't sound that fulfilling, for me, so i haven't had any motivation to seek it out, even though theoretically i'm pretty sex positive and enjoy it a lot (i LIKE pleasuring other people but i ALSO. want to get off)

i was kind of hoping that someone would have an idea to mitigate that, idk, maybe i just go fuck someone with my small ass dick regardless

i, for one, am also transmasc and i appreciate this meme

lmao i understand the point you're trying to make ("happiness is an equation largely derived from our social circle"; and, not coincidentally, women tend to have bigger ones) but, per the article:

It’s worth noting that consistent with past research, both men and women in relationships were happier than their single counterparts, on average.

again, i understand your point, they just literally contradicted it lmao

holy

In March, it was revealed that the Texas Department of Public Safety recorded every time a resident requested to update their gender on their driver’s licenses online. The gathered data also included people who inquired about the process via phone or in person.

Also in March, Republican Attorney General Ken Paxton directed state agencies to ignore court orders on gender changes that conflicted with state law.

not that it should be surprising but it's surprising to have it confirmed

if i misinterpreted the tone of your post, i apologize, but i wanted to clarify in case you weren't aware, that is what the post is about; that bone colored thing is an animal limb (orange tabby cat sticking to their arm through from behind the fridge door)

instead of braces, you can get surgery and fix your jaw that way, which will also move your jaw forward and (maybe, i guess?) eliminate the need for a chin enhancing implant

there's not like a problem if you do get braces, but you could kill two birds with one stone instead of spending the time and effort on braces and then getting chin enhancing FMS

if you like your chin and don't plan to get FMS, just get braces, though

there are many who consider themselves completely (straight / gay) and don't mind their partner's natal genetalia, too, and i think it's transphobic to consider them "more bisexual" and invalidate their identity

since bisexual is a valid identity, let's not push it on people who haven't opted into it

otherwise, those people are welcome to think what they may. just like i think that people who view it that way need to unpack their internalized transphobia, but that's "just my opinion", just like you posted yours

disk golf? really?

wait is that like... "tomodachi an ideal life" is the fundamental pillar supporting the unaliving yourself ideation?? LOL

lmaoooo damn yeah i was gonna be like, no way is north carolina passing pro trans shit in 2025

i am stupid enough to try this, i will report back next time i have heartburn

this is an interesting question. i'm transmasc and a little over five years since coming out and starting HRT. i'm also pretty old (for the internet, anyways), so i had lived a life while presenting female - i have a lot of experiences, memories, friends, ect from that time period

i never had dreams where i was a man, pre-transition. even nowadays, sometimes i dream and it uses my past self concept as a woman. it was a little surprising to realize i had dreams where i was a man, actually (which would have probably been a few years after i transitioned). but it varies, and i don't put too much stock in it. it was hard enough for me to figure out that i'm a man, i don't hold it against my dreams or whatever. and, conversely, it doesn't bring me a ton of relief if i have a dream where i am a man, because i am one when i wake up, and that's all that matters to me

in a lot of ways though, when i dream, my essence is that of myself, with the traits that i largely identify as - not male or female, but rather, determined, persevering, and intent on finding truth. these define who i am much more than my gender, in my dreams

all that said, the question about self concept is the hardest one for me to answer. i feel like an entirely separate person - albeit one who has the memories of another person's lived life - and, in a way, the same heart. however, there is a definite break between where she ended and i began, which was marked by the moment i realized that i'm trans. so i don't really know how to answer that, maybe it's a slower and less traumatic experience for others? i had to forget everything i had learned, i had to rediscover who i was from scratch. in doing so, i realized that many things i attributed to "who i am" were much more tenuous than i had previously believed

but i think that's a good realization, to know that you'll still be yourself no matter what changes. it frees you to grow as a person, without clinging to notions of who you were or who you should be

no matter what you need to do to survive or blend in, no matter what body you have, don't forget or doubt yourself in your womanhood

i might have had more to write, but i'm too sleepy and thought it would be better to write this out before i forgot. i'm looking forward to reading more of the responses in this thread later though