[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 24 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Stop saying you know if you haven't done it. If you knew you would have done it.

Edit: /s, was supposed to jokingly drop one of the canned responses we all receive from dumb people

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 14 points 3 months ago

I think this applies to their youths, but the pendulum definitely swung on both characters and it is the "casual" perception by the time the shows take place I think

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 20 points 3 months ago

Only if you're smart anyway since autistic people have the whole distribution of capability represented. Then being smart isn't enough. You also have to be resilient, lucky, and privileged (not enough systemic factors outside of systemic ableism to wash you out in a psychological and logistical pincer attack), and also lucky again to get past the many societal filters that block most autistic success and create the illusion of some unicorn like uniqueness in all visible versions of autistic success.

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 10 points 3 months ago

A different set of strengths can form the illusion of "powers" if the majority of the people with those strengths are gatekept by ableist systems. I think part of this is just a massive filtration of neurodivergent people who make it into the professional world at every level followed by the observation that we are rare afterward. Well, we aren't, just the ones that succeeded with no systemic backing are rare.

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 11 points 3 months ago

I think it's stayed TNG and ds9 fans

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 39 points 3 months ago

I looked through to see who revived this old story, ready to point my finger at OP or the article, but it turns out the person who revived this old story is Kyle Rittenhouse. A murderous opportunist.

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 14 points 4 months ago

Watching what you say and what you do isn't masking. Watching what you are is masking. You don't just filter out, you have to emote entire emotions that you'd express entirely differently because other people are disturbed by your normal expression of XYZ feeling.

It comes from years of being double punished when something bad happens because our remorse facial expression doesn't match what they think remorse is supposed to look like so they don't see any. And sometimes those.punishments are just for expressing something else in the non standard way.

I mean sure filtering topics is part of it, and it often involves filtering very pertinent topics. For example if something is really bothering you to the point of physical pain, but it isn't supposed to be bothering you, that is the topic you then have to filter. And you have to physically replace your expressions of pain with whatever emotion you are supposed to be feeling. Of course you don't replace your pain with the way youd express the emotion you're supposed to be feeling. You replace the pain with how they wish you'd express the emotion they wish you'd be feeling.

Masking is gaslighting your entire body and brain out of every big and small action and reaction until whoever it is you really are is difficult to even retrieve.

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 10 points 4 months ago

Just cut off 37/6ths of a pineapple for each of your friends.

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 29 points 4 months ago

This applies to Western comics in the way where they tend to have used a campy version of the power in the 60s and have to grapple with what that means later. Like when Marvel gave the villain "molecule man" the power to control all molecules then were like "fine yes, also he's a demi god who can essentially control all things and has the combined energy across all universes to splode reality"

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 33 points 4 months ago

Nobody can see this -> some people can see this -> anybody can see this

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 39 points 5 months ago

People use this tactic against autistic people all the time so it's easy to see how it gets internalized. So many situations where it's like "Oh, they know what this means and Im not going to humor them by explaining it, so I'm just going to pretend they know what everything means." It's very tempting to flip. As a teenager I definitely said "use your words like an adult" to adults, especially the types that would pull that reverse bullshit themselves.

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submitted 5 months ago by feedmecontent@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.world

So when I went through school you'd have two types of struggling kids:

Kid A would struggle to pass tests, but work hard and get every assignment done so they can keep their average in check. Teachers like this kid. Not that there's anything wrong with this kid, but teachers project virtue on them sometimes just to shame kid B when kid B asks for consideration.

Kid B is who I assume many people here were and who I was. Kid B struggled to get from start to finish of all of the assignments that kept popping up and per haps couldn't do the same task for very long. Kid B, however, could get high grades on most tests. If Kid B asks for some consideration to pass the class as they've gotten the information but weren't able to finish all of the assignments and are told no, because Kid A exists and "I can stand someone who struggles with the tests but does the work, but I'll never tolerate someone who is lazy".

I have cptsd from years spent as kid B, but I'm pretty sure that's a generic thing that happened to others as well. I had that quote shoved down my throat by a double digit number of adults. And the too-radical thought is this: I believe the teaching approach that holds kid A as a paragon of virtue and kid B as a lazy snot is quite discriminatory and maybe those are just two differently struggling kids. And maybe some consideration should be given to both. And maybe PTSD causing trauma should be withheld from both groups

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 11 points 9 months ago

its only my style to be Secret please bring me five can of olives

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